When is a child too old for cuddles?

ScotTot

Quite agree with everyone! When I was 19, broke-up with my boyfriend and needed a hug - was told by my mother 'cuddling was a sign of weakness'!!! What a silly woman! Twenty years later, lots of cuddling with my OH every time we see each other!

Reggie_Rebel

Never too old.

I cuddle Scary Wife warmly by the throat most nights, she gets away though

Violetta_2

*jobags* wrote: »

We have huggles, lots of huggles - a cross between a hug and a cuddle and I hope we will have them 4 ever

Wish I still had a parent to cuddle - at least just once more

Wish I'd known that my last cuddle with my mum was going to be my last - I wouldn't have let her go

Jo

Know the feeling re your mum.
My wee girl calls it cuggles, so seeing your huggles made me smile. At bed time there's always lot's of kiss's and cuddles then when I get to her bedroom door she shouts (in a really loud bossy voice!!) CUGGLES CUGGLES I hope that never stop's.
Are there any updates OP have you seen the children recently.

Mrs_P_Pincher

Absolutely. My youngest is 19 and still at home - she gets cuddles every day, whether she wants them or not! Cuddle the other one (25) when I can get hold of her!

May be something to do with the fact that I never ever got a cuddle from either of my parents - and I mean EVER

Mrs P P

lab-lover

Definately never too old for a hug. my dd is 11 is she still gets a cuddle everyday, if i forget the cuddle she asks for one, sometimes its a quick hug other times a longer one.

at bedtime me and her dad get a goodnight kiss every night without fail. cuddles are really important to children, whatever their age and adults too. x

Rachie_B

never too old for a cuddle !

my 6 yr old son is very cwtchy,loves his hugs with both me and daddy

my eldest is 12 and not as cwtchy in recent yrs but still when he goes to school and bed

x

katwoman

Reggie_Rebel wrote: »

Never too old.

I cuddle Scary Wife warmly by the throat most nights, she gets away though

lol:rotfl:

katwoman

Violetta wrote: »

Know the feeling re your mum.
My wee girl calls it cuggles, so seeing your huggles made me smile. At bed time there's always lot's of kiss's and cuddles then when I get to her bedroom door she shouts (in a really loud bossy voice!!) CUGGLES CUGGLES I hope that never stop's.
Are there any updates OP have you seen the children recently.

Dear all

No I havent seen the children in the last two weeks - last weekend they were at the dads but we werent invited round. However the dad is going to be doing some work at our house and the children will be spending the day with us in a couple of weeks time.

ScENeYmE

I don't think a child is ever too old for cuddles. I'm 20 and still need cuddles off my mum now and again
When children grow up would you rather them think that their parents showed them 'too much' love or not enough?

anonymousie

miggy wrote: »

Katwoman, I think your instincts are spot on. The kids need the reassurance of cuddles. I understand that babies who get no physical contact just don't thrive - and I doubt that switches off once they're weaned.
It seems to me this is a family under pressure - everyone has had to shift up one when the baby arrived and people are showing it differently. Step-mum seems to be showing it by asserting the position of herself and her baby - maybe she doesn't feel she has a totally secure position as the older kids have known their Dad longer than she has? And of course having a baby is very hard work, and she wants someone to share the load. Maybe she needs a little reassurance - how gorgeous her baby is and what a great job she is doing...?
As for the older children - one of my kids would, at that age, rather be in trouble than not be noticed! He is now 17 and very well-balanced, so demanding behaviour at six doesn't necessarily mean long-term problems The six year old in your family is now a middle child. not easy - my poor middle child got shunted along between the others and I feel I she missed out in some ways. The six year old needs those hugs but I think you may need to be diplomatic or the adults may think you're taking sides. Maybe you could ask if you could hold the baby for Mum sometimes (if she'll let you). Let her see you care about all the children. Also remember the 8 year old, the one who doesn't demand attention, needs it just as much.
Just one more thing - you can build up those kids in other ways as I guess you already know - tell them they are stars, they are wonderful, ask if you can do their hair, take them to the park to feed the ducks, let them try on your shoes - whatever works to make them aware that an adult has time for them.
It's great that you spent time, read them a story and gave them cuddles - keep up the good work!

ITA with all the above.

Noone is ever too old for a hug, and when ever a stressful even hapens (nothing more stressful than being "displaced" by a baby) the need for physical contact and reassurance from a hug is much greater.

I hug my kids all the time (14, 12 and 9yrs) and the transition from hugging a child to a "nearly adult" is funny but you get used to it- DS (12) is lush to hug, all lanky (a couple od inchesmore than me now) and bony,DD1 (14) give great hugs too- fortunately Ican still tuk her under my arm!

My ederly parentsapreciate hugs too.