Dad wants to disown me as i changed my name!

CB1979_2

give him a photocopy of the forms you got with your old & new name on

ps what's your new damn name! lol

sammy_kaye18

CB1979 wrote: »

ps what's your new damn name! lol

Yes this thread is intriguing me now!!!! Ive been poppign back in and lurkign on here tryign to find out your name! I dont see how a huge name could cause offence though - especialyl if you have been called it before as a nickname.

I mean jesus my names Samantha but everyone calsl me Sam so i dont think anyone would be offended if i changed it officialyl to Sam

merlinormartin

Shall we start a "guess the name poll" ? ...... i'm just relieved it wasnt Mutley :rotfl:

mutley74

merlinormartin wrote: »

Shall we start a "guess the name poll" ? ...... i'm just relieved it wasnt Mutley :rotfl:

no thanks. i can for some support and got some interesting views on this i.e from a parent view too.
i rather keep my identity anonymous on this forum:T

moneysaver12

Wanted to say well done for changing your life around, i know how hard it can be when you feel sucidal, but also know how wonderful it feels to finally get rid of them thoughts and feel happy again. I too changed my name, i changed the whole of my name, for reasons i didn't want the family surname and i didnt like my first name. My dad wasn't too happy about it, but then he was ok about it. Its your life and you should be able to do what you want and if you want to change your name then thats up to you. Its your dad that has got the problem

lemontart

Not quite sure why you felt the need to change your first name by deed poll when you say every one calls you that anyway, and as for your father disowning you he is probably feeling hurt that you no longer want the name he and your mother chose for you and may have chosen before you actually arrived............

But it could always be worse my former brother has changed his whole name twice at one time he said he was disowning my parents who spent their lives bending over backwards for him to the detriment of the rest of the family and the 2nd time when he played a a change of religion and again he used this in such a way to show a total disrepect to our fathers wishes for his funeral arranges to the point as far as me and my sister are concerned we have no brother, but there is a hell of a lot more to it than the name changes that has made us feel this way.

ailuro2

You could tell him you changed it back, just for him, but not really do it- I mean, what would be different, how would he know? If they're not a big part of your life, then they're not going to find any gas bills with 'Mutley Smith' or whatever on it, are they?

Depends on how much you feel you can lie, and if it's important to keep the peace, if he's old and stubborn.

mutley74

lemontart wrote: »

Not quite sure why you felt the need to change your first name by deed poll when you say every one calls you that anyway, and as for your father disowning you he is probably feeling hurt that you no longer want the name he and your mother chose for you and may have chosen before you actually arrived............

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changed it as my now former name was a foreign name which people used to ridicule at times. plus it was not part of my identity who i feel i am. Also it was causing confusion at work etc as my emails were in my former name, hence people thought there were dealing with 2 people at time lol!

thanks again....

Gingham_Ribbon

mutley74 wrote: »

changed it as my now former name was a foreign name which people used to ridicule at times. plus it was not part of my identity who i feel i am.

You have EVERY right to do what you did and I'm sorry your father is reacting like this.

Do you have foreign roots that your father thinks you are rejecting?

Spendless

mrcow wrote: »

Yes, but so what?

A name is just a word (as Shakespeare said lol). When you pick your kids' names, you have no idea how they are going to grow up or whether their names are going to suit them.

A child on the other hand is (or should be) the centre of your life. I can't think of anything that would make me say that I'd disown my children, no matter how old they are. I can't think of anything that would make me want to be so cruel to them and want to hurt their feelings like this.

You can try and justify the father's attitude, but really, the gravity of his actions are indefensible given the circumstances.

I was wondering if perhaps working out WHY the father was reacting as he did, would help the OP in some way.

It was me posting btw, on hubby's username.

At the same time I was thinking of my own son, who is known 95% of the time by the shortened version of his name, and he prefers ths shortened version and thinking how I'd feel if he told me he'd changed his name totally to the shortened version, and I felt 'odd' about it, not at disowning stakes, but slightly put out that he thought I have such crap taste in names-lol.

None of this excuses the OP's father disowning him btw;)