12 Year Old Daughter - Says She's Mad!

judy2357

Its my theory that all teenagers have a particularly bad 12 months at some point during the teens, so hopefully things may improve slightly soon. Sometimes this can extend into the 20s so like the other posts say you may have a while to put up with this yet. See below:

Eldest son; age 15 stayed out till 3 in morning, drinking alcohol, mixing in bad company - is 26 now stable job, still living at home but no problem.

Middle child son; hyperactive, irritating, grumpy most of the time throughout teens - harder work than the other two but now aged 24 and has well paid job, nice girlfriend etc etc

Daughter - thought we had got away with it with her brilliant all way through teens 12 GCSEs, polite and did what she was told. Then during her 18th year whilst taking A'levels, grumpy, lost interest in everything, she felt a failure, did hardly any revision, glued to MSN, gave up her sport, failed exams and now at 19 shes turning back into her old self with good job a lovely person.

Hope this helps

Jollygiantswife

Well my DS had her first capsule yesterday - we'll see how it goes.....

I was amazed at how big they are tho - poor girl thought she might choke! But they weren't a bad price - less that £2 for a months supply from good old Tesco!

We've agreed to give it a go for month, I explained to her that they might make her feel a bit better about everything and she's willing to try....

SuzySu

Seriously, please look at the St John's Wort too. It is described as "nature's prozac" and if it doesn't work, won't do any harm.

I buy my evening primrose from Wilkos (sorry, can't remember how much) but they are small capsules and very easy to take.

The St John's wort can be pricey - I tend to buy it when Superdrug are having a 3-for-2 offer but I know you can buy them online for a reasonable price.

Please try it for longer than a month - it might take 2 or 3 months for you to notice a difference and I really hope it works for you.

Marsh_Samphire

Info on St John's wort

http://www.mind.org.uk/Information/Factsheets/Treatments+and+drugs/St+Johns+Wort++-+Hypericum+perforatum.htm

candygirl

It's definitey gonna be the hormone thing.My DD was the same at that age, and stll has silly tantrums even now at the TOM. and she's 21!!!:eek: :eek: :eek: I see a lot of this dramatic behaviour in the girls I teach ,and even worse silliness in the boys.:D
Hormones in, wits out:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:
My Doc told me to put my DD on B6, it does seem to work for pmt:o

Carmina_Piranha_3

i need to start taking evening primrose again, i'm so forgetful! instead of one huge pill i used to take 2 smaller ones. i think i bought them from asda.

DeeDee74

aww my dd is the same allready and she's just 10 she will burst into tears for no reason her new thing is storming to her room and slaming her door?

im glad im not alone. x

Carmina_Piranha_3

i wasn't bursting into tears or storming around as a teen - i was quiet and depressed. i cried, but in private and spent a lot of time in my room with the light off. i felt as if i was abnormal - nobody else seemed to be acting like me.

it is normal and it happens to most if not all kids that age but to the child going through it it's a big thing. if she thinks she's mad maybe a book would help, but i have no suggestions.

Jollygiantswife

Carmina_Piranha wrote: »

i wasn't bursting into tears or storming around as a teen - i was quiet and depressed. i cried, but in private and spent a lot of time in my room with the light off. i felt as if i was abnormal - nobody else seemed to be acting like me.

it is normal and it happens to most if not all kids that age but to the child going through it it's a big thing. if she thinks she's mad maybe a book would help, but i have no suggestions.

We've been spending quite a bit of quality time together this weekend which has been really nice! Had a good chance to have a chat about everything and I reinforced with her the importance to talk to someone and also (and more importantly) that everything she is feeling is quite normal!

I haven't told her about this thread (she'd be mortified I think!) but I've been quoting alot of the advice given - which hopefully helps her to realise that she's not alone!

Thank you all again - I guess I'm in it for the long haul!! But things are quite good at the mo.....

full-time-mum

Just thought I recount an incident in our house so that you know that you are not alone.

Went up to say good night to DD and she was totally lost in a book. I told her that I was really pleased that she was able to do this and how much I enjoyed reading. I then suggested that she might like to experiment and try some different authors and she flew into a strop as I was criticising her.