12 Year Old Daughter - Says She's Mad!

Psykicpup

I think its the hormones too but if you feel better about it why not make a doc appointment to be sure...

ps...why has reading this post made me well-up

mspig

if it helps it sounds just like my 11 year old son, whos rarely seen with a smile on his face lately and when you ask whats wrong he says he doesn't know. He also gets wound up easily such as he had some money to spend so i took him to the Trafford centre well he chose what he wanted atleast five times we would queue up then he would change his mind and put it back, this went on like i said for 5 different items in 5 different shops until i asked him does he not want to spend his money, he then started crying and said he can't make his mind up. but it not just shopping its everything from where he wants to go to what drink he wants to what he wants for his tea, he just gets really emotional and says he can't think and can't make his mind up and then takes off to his room.

Teenagers are getting earlier and earlier i think it should become tenteen, eleventeen, and twelveteen these days.

lady_stardust

I agree it probably is the hormones, but the thing not to say is "it's just your hormones!". They are probably making her feel she is out of control, which would explain the "mad" comment and it is probably quite frightening to her.

Sounds like you are doing all the right things, but hormone levels and clinical depression are closely related so take her to the Dr if she feels things are not improving.

alwaysonthego_2

http://teens.drugabuse.gov/mom/tg_brain.asp

It is to do with the cerebral cortex in the frontal lobe of the brain. This area is responsible for thinking and reasoning and it doesn't fully mature until the age of around 17 years.

RoseFairy

I am soooooooo glad i came across this thread;
i started periods at 8yr and dd1 is 7.5 years - she is also 'sprouting' buds and just past couple of months i have noticed similar behaiviour ie getting short tempered, crying for 'no' reason and having a go at little dd2 for silly little things. i sure as hell it isn't pmt - but - if it is the beginnings, i am glad to have read the comments and reassurances above. i had pmt and still do but i clearly remember them starting at least 12-13 years (when it is the average age for periods to start). just looks like our bodies sometimes go ahead of our emotions - and sometimes swaps round whenever our body or emotions feel.

complicated stuff god has made us women!!!

Carmina_Piranha_3

my 11 year old boy in year 7 has been getting like this too. the worst time was when i had PMS

it is hormones, and he also says they were told last year in school that they might feel like this for no reason. but hormones can't just be shrugged off - coping strategies oir knowing where to go for somebody to talk to will make her feel more secure than being told 'it's just your hormones'.

is there a pastoral care person at school, somebody she can talk to? my son threw a chair in school a couple of weeks ago, the girl just wound him up so much he couldn't keep his anger under control any longer and he lashed out.
it's worrying that school haven't contacted me and his report says he's a pleasure to teach - they must think that throwing a chair at another child is normal behaviour :eek:

i've found out who the counsellor type person is at school and told him to go to see her if he's feeling really wound up. i don't know if they are allowed to leave the classroom (although i'm not happy about another child being ALLOWED to wind mine up in the classroom, i am inclined to think the teacher ought to stop this other child from punching mine, and throwing his pencil case around the room etc) but he can go at break time.

i had a really bad time when i was 11 and then a couple of months later my periods started and things got calmer. i still had awful PMS but not as wild, i didn't feel so out of control.

Jollygiantswife

What can I say? I really appreciate all of your kind words of sympathy, empathy and compassion!

i was actually moved to tears with some of the responses, and I'm soooo glad we're not the only ones going through this!

You see, I just wasn't sure whether it is just hormonal, God at 12 years old I wasn't developing at all and was definitely still a child - you could say I was a late developer as I didn't hit puberty till 14 or 15!

I've taken on board a lot of what has been suggested and will try to find the best way of dealing with these episodes - I guess remaining calm is the best way to make a start!

Btw - tonight has been a polar opposite! Bless her, she's been as sweet as an angel :A at least it restores my faith in my own sanity!!

It would be great if this thread keeps going - I'll keep you all updated on our progress!

Thanks again guys :T :T :T

vixarooni

Im so glad ive gone past that stage!!

It wasnt that long ago for me either. All i can advise is that youre there for your daughter. The greatest comfort i had during my teenage years is that my mum was always there for me, in terms of protection, comfort, support ect. Other than that there isnt a great deal you can do apart from letting nature do its thing and it all getting better as she gets older!

Although, at 21 i dont think ive improved much!! I still cry at the drop of a hat for no reason, still shout at people and fly off the handle for no reason. I swear my body is going back to being 14 again!!

Good luck OP!

Jollygiantswife

Oooh i wish my body would go back to when I was 14.......or I'd settle for 21!!!!

Thanks so much, I didn't have that much support in my teenage years - I just kinda remember getting on with it, it's all I could do really - though me and my mum had some humdinger rows they were when i was much older.

I love her so much and just don't want to let her down and make her feel resentful of me when she gets older. Hopefully one day she'll make comments about me like the ones you've made about your mum - I'd love that!

vixarooni wrote: »

Im so glad ive gone past that stage!!

It wasnt that long ago for me either. All i can advise is that youre there for your daughter. The greatest comfort i had during my teenage years is that my mum was always there for me, in terms of protection, comfort, support ect. Other than that there isnt a great deal you can do apart from letting nature do its thing and it all getting better as she gets older!

Although, at 21 i dont think ive improved much!! I still cry at the drop of a hat for no reason, still shout at people and fly off the handle for no reason. I swear my body is going back to being 14 again!!

Good luck OP!

belfastgirl23

I just had exactly this conversation with someone at work today who has a daughter the same age....sounds like it is pretty normal. Takes a couple of years to pass apparently so brace yourself