Less than supportive partners?

mk_wotsit

We've hung one up in the loft. It's tied to the rafters with a shoelace. Works perfectly.:D

mrcow

It's all irrelevent anyway If the OP were to cancel their Sky and keep the box plugged in, they can get most of the freeview channels through their Sky Box (well we did for about 2 years)

sismith42

TheVoices wrote: »

I recognise that I have previously spent more than I needed to but I'm now trying hard to save us some money which will help when we move house. What more can I do to convince him??? Please tell me I'm not alone.

Mine is also a bit reluctant to change things...Sadly, we probably *can't* convince them to go for the most frugal... just save money where you can, and when you move, set up the bills in your name, quietly taking over

To be honest, most of what you point out seems to be his money, his bank aco!!!!s, bills in his name, etc, not yours or joint ones. As such, it's possible he sees it as his buisness, not yours. (I know mine would, be my DH is French, and they're a bit more individual-- my inlaws have NEVER had a joint account, for instance)

That siad, If the savings are truely joint (and the debt is also truely joint), then you might be able to win *that* argument on a "it's my savings too, you know!" point, however if it's his savings (or worse, his savings and your debt!) it's prob not a fight worth fighting... you could also try the "what is the purpose of these savings, anyway" discussion...
Good luck!

Cheers, Steph

Chollita

lauranurse wrote: »

The reason I mention him is because he too PAYS for a bank account! I thought he was the only person stupid enough to do this, but obviously not!

If he lives in the UK, then yes, but if you know of a bank in Spain that does free accounts, I'd like to know what it is!

Oldernotwiser

Chollita wrote: »

If he lives in the UK, then yes, but if you know of a bank in Spain that does free accounts, I'd like to know what it is!

Same goes for France!

something_girl

my ex husband was the same, didn't have a clue, I looked after everything, from mortgages to insurances, savings, holidays, absolutely everything that had any financial connotation. That said, I completely lost respect for him and we eventually divorced.... my current partner is much the same with money, he wouldn't think of investigating a cheaper option for anything, but it's his money, his business, I wouldn't want the strain of having anything whatsoever to do with another partners finances, way too stressful.

frugallass

I'm one of the 'lucky' ones - hubby and I check the bank balance on a daily basis - he knows exactly what's coming in and going out

ailuro2

I'm pretty lucky too - everything is joint except the ISAs, although sometimes it's hard these days getting him to agree to spend money when we could be putting even more into the mortgage when he was the one who resisted mortgage overpayments in the first place.

But...we're still improving in other ways. Sometimes he'd says not to mess about through Quidco if it was something important, 'just in case it goes wrong' but I did it anyway and now he's converted and happy to use the Quidco money for treats.

He didn't believe I could get the shopping delivered from Tesco EVERY week with a discount voucher, but I now show him the receipt showing £7 off, or £13 off on a good week!

Start with one small thing, then when you're both in agreement move in to something else. I am now converted to having the heating turned down to under 20degrees, when over the years I'd grown accustomed to 22 or over!:eek: It does work both ways.:o

brownbabygirl

ailuro2 wrote: »

He didn't believe I could get the shopping delivered from Tesco EVERY week with a discount voucher, but I now show him the receipt showing £7 off, or £13 off on a good week

Hi please tell me more about this. How does one get the discount?

ailuro2

http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.html?t=702329&page=29

for online shopping, but I find that I buy more or less the same every week so using the favourites menu it doesn't take long, but because there's no shelf end 'bargains' to tempt me I spend less.;)