Depression Support Thread

Stephb1986_2

I have had it for over 2 and a half years but just been diagnosed with it because of a car crash it has left me severly deaf in one ear and tinnitus in both ears so i have hearing aids for both ears i feel like a freak wearing them and its really affected me

Im sick of feeling like this now

thanks for your help

Steph xx

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alba37 wrote: »

Morning everyone, hope you've all had a good nights sleep and are feeling ok today?

What are you all doing today? Still not great weather here, I'm out for a bit this morning but if the rain stays off I must cut the grass this afternoon. It's well overdue and will be a horrible job

LadyM, why not return the cloths for a smaller size? New cloths can help you fell better, or do you really need to put on weight (wish I did, instead of having to lose it, but neither is easy!) If you do, then keep them as an insentive.

Glad you had a good day yesterday, Katie. Hope it's a good one today too.

ILGD, I'm alright thanks. Spent the day at a friends yesterday, so it was nice.

Good luck with the appeal to repeat Jen, I've got everything crossed for you. Should you hear soon?

Take care everyone.

A x

Hi,

I have no idea when they will tell me .... the waiting just adds to it all. I keep thinking they'll think im lazy or stupid.

Jen

alba37

Stephb1986 wrote: »

I have had it for over 2 and a half years but just been diagnosed with it because of a car crash it has left me severly deaf in one ear and tinnitus in both ears so i have hearing aids for both ears i feel like a freak wearing them and its really affected me

Im sick of feeling like this now

thanks for your help

Steph xx

Aww, what a horrible thing to happen too you. I honestly believe medication can help and can make you feel better. It's worth a try, if you don't try you'll never know, and hopefully you will feel a bit better soon. Take care x

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KentishLady wrote: »

and ive been signed off another 2 weeks.

I did manage to tell the DR more about what was causing my problems - basically the stuff which was in my last post. I find it nigh on impossible to let people know what is really wrong! lol.

Just to make my life so much easier the community mental health team wanted to discharge DH with no plan or support in place for him other than me. They based their decision on social worker talking to him for about 1 hour - based on this she said he seemed sociable and didnt know how their services could help. No needs assessment done.

Luckily when he had (what they wanted to be) the appointment for discharge he started spouting a whole load of delusional stuff about him having bugs in his teeth and ears and how he reads meaning into and links things together. So they have now decided to keep him on for 3 months. Social worker will see him once per month and psychiatrist at the end of this time no doubt to try and discharge him again.

GP said that they keep trying to discharge people from the CMHT recently - must be a funding problem or something making them prioritise on crisis management etc.

I have to speak to the occupational health people for work later today - and I am really getting worried about going back to work. I couldn't sleep last night for worrying about it and the tummy problems I get when I am stressed materialised with a vengeance this morning. I can't concentrate on my OU course (and that I love and am interested in) so I can't see how I am going to be able to concentrate on helping other people with their complaints when I basically don't give a ***** about their problems at the moment and can't face talking to people on the phone!

Sorry folks this turned into a bit of a rant. I'm off to take DH to the gym and then maybe I can get some peace and quiet and time to think.

Hope you all have a good day.

KL

hi,

Welcome to the thread.

It sounds like you have it pretty rough. I have a sister who is disabled and I understand some of what you are going through being a carer.

Maybe you should contact a carer's association. I dont know what area you are in but I know here in Preston there is quite a movement - you deserve to receive help; think of all the money you save the NHS as if they would have to provide care if you werent around.

Jen

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Jen

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Stephb1986 wrote: »

Hi all sorry ive not been around in a while been really busy doing this and that.

I seen a physcologist a few weeks ago and she said i have depression and recommends i go on anti depressants im really worried that i will become addicted to them and the side affects

Steph xx

Hi,

Welcome!!

AD's can definitely help you feel better, I honestly dont know what I would have done without them. AD's have a lot of negativity associated with them as the older forms were pretty awful; nowadays serotonin based AD's are the norm and they are non-addictive and have much less side effects associated with them.

In the packet of tablets you get a information leaflet which tells you all the possible side effects - the list seems to go on forever as when the tablets are tested on humans for the first time the participants have to list EVERY minor thing. In actual fact side effects are quite rare and if you do suffer with them they are rarely as bad as yo imagine - I suffer with restless legs on Citalapram but these ease as the levels are lowered.

Jen

LadyMorticia

alba37 wrote: »

Hi everyone! :wave:

Ah, LadyM, I see why you need to put on weight. I've never been too thin, so have never been able to feel as you do. I had compulsive eating (mainly during the night) for years but thankfully have it under control now.

I have a cousin who has anorexia which was at it's worst in his teens, so I can understand it to an extent. I just don't know what can be done to help get someone over a eating disorder, I don't know how anyone can change someone's vision of themselves? I know people can get over it and I really really hope you do. I hope one day you can see 6st is too thin, and know you need to put some weight on and you still won't look fat. Did you ever watch supersize v's superskinny? I'm interested in hearing what you thought of the people on the show each week. Can you see other people as 'too' thin?

At my lowest weight I was 5 and a half stone but that was when I was 14. The doctor keeps on telling me that I should be 9 stone but I'm only 5'2" so that seems an awful lot to me and the thought of putting on 1 pound scares me , let alone 3 stone. :eek:

I've never seen Supersize Vs Superskinny but I don't ever really see anyone as too thin, even though I know that to others they will seem too thin. My eating disorder is about how I feel about myself but it's also about punishment. I've been like this since I was 9 and I don't know what it is to eat normally. I'm really scared in case I'll be refused help because I'm not stick thin or anything. My arms and legs aren't like matchsticks and I'm hideously fat. I don't have a flat stomach or anything. I'm worried that they'll look at me and think "Oh, she's not a "typical" anorexic, she's an attention seeker". I'm not an attention seeker. I'm in need of help and it's taken me so long to get referred. Now I'm worried I'll be refused the help I need.

xx

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LadyMorticia wrote: »

At my lowest weight I was 5 and a half stone but that was when I was 14. The doctor keeps on telling me that I should be 9 stone but I'm only 5'2" so that seems an awful lot to me and the thought of putting on 1 pound scares me , let alone 3 stone. :eek:

I've never seen Supersize Vs Superskinny but I don't ever really see anyone as too thin, even though I know that to others they will seem too thin. My eating disorder is about how I feel about myself but it's also about punishment. I've been like this since I was 9 and I don't know what it is to eat normally. I'm really scared in case I'll be refused help because I'm not stick thin or anything. My arms and legs aren't like matchsticks and I'm hideously fat. I don't have a flat stomach or anything. I'm worried that they'll look at me and think "Oh, she's not a "typical" anorexic, she's an attention seeker". I'm not an attention seeker. I'm in need of help and it's taken me so long to get referred. Now I'm worried I'll be refused the help I need.

xx

hey,

I (hope) that the psychologists you see are a bit more savvy than that and dont apply a "typical" stereotype of someone with a ED. Its soooooo much more complicated than wanting to be thin - food represent so much for each of us.

When you go for the assessment may be you could take along a diary of how you feel about food/eating/yourself each day and show them it. That way they get a good general overview of you illness. As you say you come across as very coherent so you think this gives them the idea that you are ok/not that ill and so dont offer all the help you should be getting.

Jen

Sazbo

Hello my lovlies :wave: :wave:

Just a quickie Sazzy, from Palma, Mallorca:D

Having a nice restful time on holiday, good to be away from work and the stress of London, but I´m missing you all terribly xx I haven´t had time to read back, i´ll probably need another two weeks off just to catch up:o

Weather´s been a bit mixed - sunny/cloudy, but always warm. It´s been nice swimming in the sea, not having to be anywhere in particular, sleeping in late. Sleep´s been great, tbh.

As i say, haven´t read back, but I hope you´re all ok, and that Tiffy is keeping you all in order in my absence;)

Big soppy, Sazzy kisses to each and every one of you. :grouphug:

love you all,
Sazzy xxxxx

Tulip

:hello: Sazzy,

glad you are having a restful holiday see you soon heres some more smarties in case your last lot ran out and even more for the journey home

Miss you loads


love and light,

Katie xxx

alba37

Thanks for helping me understand a little more LadyM. Can I ask another question? Hope you don't mind? You know what a healthly weight would be for your height? I'm guessing somewhere between 8-9 st? So although I do understand you feel fat, logically you can't be. Even mal nourished people don't have flat tummies (not saying your mal nourished!) just that so many people don't have flat tummies no matter how they eat. So I guess the way forward with an eating disorder is to start feeling better about yourself? God, no mean feet! I know it can be brought under control, I just hope you get there.

I know you're not an attention seeker, and anyone with an understanding of mental illness should know that too, but I think we are all made to feel like that most of the time. Thinking of you x

Hope you have a great time on holiday Sazbo! :cool: It's cold, windy and raining here in Glasgow

Welcome kentishlady to the thread. How's everyone this afternoon? Went out to cut my grass and it's raining again! So it won't get done again today!