Alleged push of a child by a parent, what to do?

Janepig

This woman's probably a relative of the headteacher or something :rolleyes:. Print poet's post out and take that with you so you don't forget the questions. Give the money back and he'll see the matter is ended, my arris. Who does the head think he is, the Godfather?

Jxx

MonkeySaving?

Tell your son to kick the woman in her sponge if she does it again.

mrcow

MonkeySaving? wrote: »

Tell your son to kick the woman in her sponge if she does it again.

Possibly an idea, although I think it unlikely that she'll be taking any bathing accessories on the school run with her?

System

i would be tempted to involve the police , although this probably would not come to any thing as there were no witnesses at least she should get the message that you are not one of her victims.an unsupportive head can be very frustrating , we are almost at the end of 4 years of hell at primary level roll on the comprehensive !

ailuro2

Papers and police, take your pick, normally a third 'P' is involved when kids are getting bullied, and that's parents, but in this case it sounds like the parent is the one with the bullying tactics.

Your son is down a nintendo game, why should you or your son return the money?

Go back to the head, inform him the local newspaper or the police will be involved if your son does not have the same game returned to him by the end of the week, or a written letter stating he can keep the £20.

Let him know you are the wronged party here, and are willing to return the money once the Nintendo game is handed over.

And let him know you'll be contacting the education authority to let them know your son was left open to physical abuse from another parent because the secretary took it upon herself to take matters into her own hands. Of course, report the lax rule enforcement too.

Hopefully this will get a swift resolution without you going anywhere near the other mother, get everything in writing in case she continues to hold a grudge.;)

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Why not just say we used the £20 to buy a replacement game and therefore, the game is replaced and the money has been used, so let's just leave it there. If you give the money back it just gives a massive green light to the mother who has done the bully tactics and allows her son to do this again and again.

The Head cannot make the decisions here, you are the only one who can.

k1mmie

I agree with everyone here. It is getting near the end of the term and I am assuming that your son is going to secondary in September, and hopefully to a different school as this other lad. Therefore maybe just send the parent a letter saying that you wish to see an end to this matter and she has a choice to either replace the game and you will return the £20 or you will replace the game and call it quits.

She may not even bother responding! I'm sure your son is upset over the whole matter as it is and will be apprehensive enough at the thought of leaving primary school to go to secondary. I think he has learn't his lesson and will be cautious in the future.

Carmina_Piranha_3

what did the head have to say about this woman being able to speak to your son in the dinner hall? :eek: if i were you i would stick to my guns about the 'push' because i don't see any evidence of you or your son being treated fairly in this matter. if you keep mentioning your boy being attacked in the dinner hall by a parent then the head might start to worry about how others will view this situation.

if this were me i would want assurances that the school staff would keep this woman out of school in future, and arrange for your son to leave by a separate door in order to avoid her!

i can't see any way of your son not being the victim here - even if he bullied the other boy into giving him money and he made up the 'push' story it would still be wrong for this woman to approach your boy!

the head really needs to do more about this!

Carmina_Piranha_3

soory - i'm nosey so i'd like to ask 3 questions ...

1) are the boys still friends?

2) will they go to the same high school?

3) is the other boy statemented for special needs? perhaps he's autistic and his mum thinks he lost the game by accident and was coerced into handing over his birthday money. she may think she is defending a boy who is not as socially adept as most year 6 pupils and needs 'protecting' from kids like yours. the school might agree.
i don't, i'm just asking.

Poppy9

mspig wrote: »

1) 2) My son doesn't actually have a secondary school at the moment(been refused all three places so were at appeal stage which is on the 4th July) But saying this i know which school the boy is going and its not one of the appeal schools. So no thay won't be going to the same school..

Sorry I'm being nosey now about why your son doesn't have a secondary school allocated. In my LEA all offers are made (and have to be accepted) by end of March. In my LEA you are automatically offered a place at your catchment area school though you can apply to a school outside your catchment area. Preferred placements are strictly limited by the LEA and issued according to the LEA policy for preferred placements.