Alleged push of a child by a parent, what to do?

picnic

where was she when she was able to push your son in to a table? was this on school grounds? i would be very worried that a parent was allowed to be alone with your son in a class room unsupervised...??

mrcow

Tell her that you'll give the £20 back when she's given you a new replacement game.

Until then, she can whistle.

Janepig

Just adding to the comments that you shouldn't give this woman a penny until you get the game back. I can't see what reason you'd have for giving the money back - it just vindicates her bullying tactics and that she can throw her weight around because it gets results.

If she has pushed your son then she's even more stupid because I would certainly be telling her that on the strength of your son's allegation, any more nonsense from her and I would get the Police involved in relation to the push. If she's got any sense she'll realise that if convicted, she is in major bother because any sort of assault on an under 16 year old results in the perpertrator becoming a Schedule 1 offender, etc...... I'm not saying you're going to want to go through all that, but a quiet word with her in that direction might help.

Jxx

Mips

Janepig wrote: »

Just adding to the comments that you shouldn't give this woman a penny until you get the game back. I can't see what reason you'd have for giving the money back - it just vindicates her bullying tactics and that she can throw her weight around because it gets results.

If she has pushed your son then she's even more stupid because I would certainly be telling her that on the strength of your son's allegation, any more nonsense from her and I would get the Police involved in relation to the push. If she's got any sense she'll realise that if convicted, she is in major bother because any sort of assault on an under 16 year old results in the perpertrator becoming a Schedule 1 offender, etc...... I'm not saying you're going to want to go through all that, but a quiet word with her in that direction might help.

Jxx

I would be inclined to tell the School that you are debating getting the Police involved - they can relay this to the Mother who pushed your Son.

Only you know yourself whether he is telling the truth - however, it is a bit of a strange story for a little lad to make up. She may have poked him forcibly or something, that sent him into the table - whatever the situation, imagine how frightened he would have felt being treated like that by an adult??

pulliptears

Im agreeing with everyone else.

Please don't let your son see you let this lie, set him an example of how to deal with bullies.

pinkshoes

Speak to the parent of this boy face to face, and point out that her son lost the DS game, and that the boys happily sorted it out between themselves.

If she's not happy with this solution, and wants the £20 returning, she should replace the DS game that was lost, and then you'll happily give her the £20 back.

belfastgirl23

I agree too.

picnic

I would be very concerned that the pushing incedent happened on school grounds with out any teachers or school staff as witness..?? how is this adult allowed to have so many chance's to gain access to your son with out any other adult around to supervise??
I agree with all the other posters, I wouldnt had over a penny until the missing game is replaced.
I do hope you get this sorted out amicably and without too much upset to either you your son or the other child involved...

Paparika

Contact the police, this kind of chavy bulling behaviour is unacceptable and the only way she will learn is the hard way.

At least she has a very mature child, bless him.

something_girl

I'm amazed that kids of this age can give and receive the amount of £20 without any adults noticing! I doubt my 11 year daughter has ever seen that amount of real money in her life!

Anyway.... difficult one, isn't it? I would discuss it via the school, with them acting as an intermediary. The boys do indeed seem to have come to a satisfactory conclusion between themselves, but it's a large amount of money for any child to be taking to school, without it being under direct supervision of what it's being used for etc.

As for the pushing, I personally, would speak to the police, I just wouldn't tolerate it.