Advice on Potty training

Krystaltips

One of the intensive potty training methods recommends chugging loads of water down their necks so they need to go a lot more frequently and learn the cues...

My daughter was great to train to start with but then became a nightmare because she would hold on until she wet herself a little and then hold herself some more... And would never go to the toilet if asked... It took until 5 before she's willing to take herself off to the toilet and doesn't have permanently damp knickers...

injaroc

I don't really have any advice to be honest. My lil girl is 3 and 3 months and her knickers are always wet. She holds it so long that she wees a bit, puts her clothes in the wash and then decides to go toilet >.< I've tried asking her but she gets annoyed at us always asking I think too. She will always go for number 2 with no problems tho.
We've not long started night time no nappy now and she's doing great with that so I'm just hoping she'll get used to going before she wets herself tbh.

minimoneysaver

My little girl has been a total nightmare with potty training. Tried at 2, 2 1/2, 3 and now she's finally getting it at 3 1/2!!! She'll do the same as the other posters children, hold onto it, wee a little in her knickers and then hold a bit more. It just doesn't seem to be a priority for her. Mind you, she's obsessed with toilet cleanliness in public places, which does make it difficult sometimes. I'm sorry to say, but pull ups are just a little bit easier for everyone sometimes. She's an intelligent little bunny and already can read the reception words, knows more countries than me on her globe and can add/take away number bonds to ten, so i'm not too worried about her.... yet!!!

BitterAndTwisted

I think you're doing fine with your little girlie. If I was in your position I'd just let her decide when she want to use the potty and have her wear those pull-up thingys so she doesn't wee on anyone or soil her clothes. In fact a bit of soiling and not being changed immediately might help. Wet pants are not comfortable. Two years is so tiny and they're just getting the hang of recognising the feeling of a full bladder. The feeling of needing to void solid motions is much, much stronger so they always get that sorted first.

starnac

just a little off the point. at what age should you start potty training?? DD is nearly 20months and a little while ago we were given a potty off a friend in readyness for potty training. DD took quite a shine to the potty and now every evening she pulls her trousers/tights down, takes her nappy off and sits on the potty. she never does anything on it but will not sit on it with clothes/nappy on. she used to go to a childminders and i think she has seen one of the other kids using a potty and this is where she gets it from. she spends a couple of minutes on it then gets up and plays for a bit before coming back and having another sit on it.
we have just been letting her do what she wants with no pressure from us. what age will she know she needs a wee and we should start potty training properly??
(sorry for going OT)

Cullumpster

My little man is doing brilliantly at potty training and he's even taking to 'want to do it like daddy'
He will tell me if he needs a wee, sometimes it's too late if he gets himself engrossed in something and forgets but not very often, he will wee on the toilet but poo on the potty.

The only thin he won't do is do a wee at the nursery and he will hold it in from 8.30 till 12.30 but as soon as he gets home he'll go straight to the loo..........is this normal?

Oh and i don't care what anyone says stickers are brilliant my little man will do anything for a Thomas sticker, that even includes tidying his toys away

BitterAndTwisted

Starnac, I'd just let your child do what she wants. All kids differ and therefore develop at different times. The trick is to not get anxious about making any progress whatsoever. Sometimes they take two steps forward and one step back but one thing is certain: very, very few kids leave junior school incontinent. Hehe.

When I was a full-time nanny one of my charges still wet his pants at four and a half. I used to leave him in his wet clothes for quite a long time until I changed him, I think it was walking home from nursery in wet pants in the winter weather that persuaded him going peepee in the lav was less bother and more comfortable. Plus all the other kids were praised for being big and got stickers. I think he was just a lazy sod, always engrossed in something more interesting

Nikabella

Thanks for everyones responses.

We are on day 5 of potty training today & DD did a whole day without any accidents at all!!! She was at nursery today, which means that it was even more of an achievement as it's harder to ask/get to the potty there & even more impressive was that she didn't even wear a nappy at nap time :eek: We didn't expect her to stop wearing nappies when she was asleep for while yet.

So proud of her. 2 years & 4 months so not the youngest potty trained child in the world but the best Ah, she makes me smile so much.

I totally agree with the sticker thing. We bought DD a Charlie & Lola sticker book & everytime she does a wee or poo then she gets to put a sticker in the book. Works a treat. Today she has even got to the point where she will do a wee if you ask her too (ie. before getting in the car for a long journey) rather than just telling you when she needs one.

Good luck to all those still potty training/looking to start.
A.x

Lynn11

Wondering if anyone can give me guidance. I have a 2yr daughter and planning on doing potty training in the near future. I have just bought some big girls panty in her favourite characters on them but my mum believes that I should start off with a week with training pants first and then onto normal pants. Can anyone give me their view on this. Daughter is ok at telling you when she is doing her poos and we can do some in our potty but nothing with pees but do not think this will happen until we get her to have a few accidents in her pants.

Any opinions would be appreciated.

pandora205

Hi. I work with families and young children and frequently advise on various topics including toilet training. You have done the right thing buying 'big girl's pants' in your daughters favourite characters. It sounds like she is ready for toilet training too and this is the best time of year, as children dont need to wear so much.

With regard to the use of training pants and especially Huggies type pull-ups I would strongly advise against. These give all the wrong messages to a child, i.e. that it's okay to wee in them. And the absorbent ones are a 'bad' as nappies in as much as the skin feels dry and therefore cuts out feedback that damp isn't nice.

I'd say choose to start when you don't need to go out too much, keep a bucket of floor/carpet cleaner ready mixed up and a supply of dry pants and clothing and expect accidents. If you need to go out, carry a potty (or travel equivalent) at all times and don't be embarrassed at having to use it in all sorts of places. Use masses of praise and comments about what a big girl she is for using the potty, etc. Don't criticise if she has accidents - I used to say something like, 'Never mind. I've got a good washing machine' if mine had accidents (including later wet sheets at night).

If all goes well, you will probably get there in a couple of weeks. If you don't, take a break and try again a couple of months later.

Good luck - and remember, getting a child out of nappies is very moneysaving as well as making your child more independent and your life simpler.