Obstructive neighbour problem...

Night-owl_6

Alison-J wrote: »

They had a babe in arms.

Theres your problem.

m00m00

tomstickland wrote: »

Because I 4x4 is generally a large vehicle and that seems relevant to me.

and by looking around any supermarket car park, you can tell that at least 50% of 4x4 drivers can't park properly

MrsE_2

m00m00 wrote: »

and by looking around any supermarket car park, you can tell that at least 50% of 4x4 drivers can't park properly

Or could be due to the fact that cars are growing (& most 4x4's are a little bit wider than other cars) & car park spaces are not growing.

I frequently have to let my daughter out before I park, as you can't get both doors open after parking because the space is so narrow.

paintpot

Personally, if I was keen/desperate to sell and I had an obstructive neighbour then I would do virtually anything to try and smooth things over with them to achieve my aim of moving. You might not want to, or indeed feel like you should have to, but I would try and wave the biggest olive branch available especially if I thought I could salvage a sale or not put off abuyer.

The woman does sound a bit deranged but once you move you won't have to put up with her, so I would go round or watch out of the window to see when she is outside and try and strike up a conversation in a bid to find out what her problem is. I would go as far as to buy her flowers, invite her round for a drink but at the moment I think that she would likely see through that, could you take some round as a way of thanking her for clearing the garden and telling her you have had such positive responses from viewers about the garden and wanted to thank her for her efforts? If not, I would just try and establish politely what her problem is by starting a converation and then maybe moving onto to parking i.e sorry if my visitors/viewers have parked inconveniently etc, (you might be choking on the words but a sale is a sale), ask her where would be convenient etc just to keep the peace. As someone else mentioned if you get get into a real dispute then you are going to have to declare it and as she has already upset two potential purchasers I feel you have nothing to lose and only to gain by trying again to reason with this woman.

Good luck

before_hollywood

m00m00 wrote: »

and by looking around any supermarket car park, you can tell that at least 50% of 4x4 drivers can't park properly

and even more can't drive properly :eek: :rotfl:

i used to go to college in a rich neighbouring town (well it was a specialised course for building corporate accountancy systems ) and every day i was nearly run off the road by some blind rich poser in a 4x4 and then blocked in my parking space by another :eek:

god i wish i had kept my 1993 citroen ax, that car spoke volumes against snobbery

before_hollywood

MrsE wrote: »

Or could be due to the fact that cars are growing (& most 4x4's are a little bit wider than other cars) & car park spaces are not growing.

I frequently have to let my daughter out before I park, as you can't get both doors open after parking because the space is so narrow.

my car is 3 inches longer and 2 inches wider than the rover 200 that my mum owned in the early 90s and that was registered in 1985, car parking spaces could be wider but 4x4 drivers are a nuisance and on the whole are bullys

soappie

Alison, hugs - how about next time you have a viewer, you park YOUR car where the neighbour did and invite the viewers to park their car on your drive (and I'm assuming you have one) so that they can be sure it fits? Or, if you don't have a drive, it ensures they can't be blocked in by nasty neighbour?

Tea3

Alison-J wrote: »

Prior to the for sale sign going up she was just ok. I offered her half the cost of tidying up a piece of land between us owned by her and she then got really off with me, shouting screaming and eventually went out and cleared the land that same night with her bare hands crying and hysterical but she did tidy it up, even the cat mess. But I add I dont feel able to aproach her again. I was hoping for a miracle or a legal route

Is it possible you offended her with your offer of help? I realise you were being kind offering to help pay as it is her land, but from her point of view you were saying this piece of land she owns was a mess and then by offering money, suggesting it was a mess as she could not afford to sort it - I know it would not have been meant like this but I can see how it could be interprited this way - would explain why she went crazy and tidied it the way she did. For a while my back garden was a mess (due to lack of time) and I would have been horrified had a neighbour mentioned it and/or offered monetary help towards cleaning it up even if it was intended as a nice gesture.

Again I dont think you did anything wrong but this could explain why she's miffed with you - whats often intended as a nice gesture can be seen as an insult by someone else.

I would go along with the flowers idea but also 'praise' her on how lovely the bit of land looks and how its probably added value to her property etc - once she realises it's benefited her too and that you were not implying she was untidy, lazy or financially unable to do it she may ease off a little.

eco-friendly_2

What do I do, what can I do thats legal?

Say to her that you can't afford the mortgage and your in deep debt, and if you don't sell shortly, you may have to rent the property out, many people are 'spooked' with the thought of dodgy tenants, also tell her the council are looking for property to rent in your area, but your in two minds in case their druggies, that might improve her parking.

barnaby-bear

Alison-J wrote: »

Prior to the for sale sign going up she was just ok. I offered her half the cost of tidying up a piece of land between us owned by her and she then got really off with me, shouting screaming and eventually went out and cleared the land that same night with her bare hands crying and hysterical but she did tidy it up, even the cat mess. But I add I dont feel able to aproach her again. I was hoping for a miracle or a legal route

Tell her if you're so disappointed about not selling to the nice family you're looking at renting it out to DSS....