Brain not working, emergency housing advice needed.

Mr_helpful

feelinggood wrote: »

I worded that wrongly. I meant I don't like being aware that people are talking about me behind my back

That wouldnt have happened if someone hadnt poked their nose in on your behalf and taken it on themselves to be a troll getting posts removed without good cause.
And thanks for the explanation as that has cleared things up.

Elle00

If things ever get really bad then you can walk into any A&E and ask to speak to the duty psychiatrist - every hospital with an A&E should have one on duty or on call. Or you can call the out of hours GP or you can call NHS Direct for advice on 0845 46 47 too. I know from experience that it's pot luck whether they help or make the situation worse so my personal advice, though it won't be popular with most, is don't go for crisis help unless you genuinely feel at breaking point.

The trouble with mental health problems that include depression, anxiety, addiction, phobia, self-image etc is that they're not fully understood from a medical point of view and are therefore are very difficult to effectively treat. Well, you'll know that won't you.

I hope you don't mind me asking, but why are you coming off Venlafaxine and at what dose? If you're experiencing dizzy spells and confusion then you've come off it too fast. You should go back to the GP or psychiatrist who's weaning you off it and discuss changing the rate. It sounds to me like you need to go back up a notch and come down more slowly.

Regarding the housing though, I do think you're going to struggle. Despite your problems, leaving your husband will still be seen as making yourself homeless. I don't make the rules, I'm just saying it as I know it to be. There are always ways of wording these things though and having mental health problems means you'll be able to get around that rule if you're careful.

If I was you, I would go to the council and explain the situation to them. You need better reason than you just wanted to leave your husband though, like irreconcilable differences; and you'll have to file for divorce and show them proof later on. They will hopefully accept this because of your health problems though it's not a given.

You'll have to take whatever you're given initially but you can get support to get priority for council accommodation (which would be single, not shared). You'd need to get as many letters of support for your application as possible from psychiatrists and GPs etc as well as any support group leaders. They'd then assess your application on medical grounds and award you any additional points due.

From a mental health point of view, I would try really hard not to make any definitive decisions while you're coming off the Venlafaxine and waiting to see a psychiatrist in early June. If your mate can put you up for another couple of weeks while you cope with the withdrawals, wait for your appointment and take time to think about things objectively - you might find yourself looking at the situation in a whole other manner this time next week.

Scarlett1

feelinggood if you are that desperate to leave home then I would have a re-think about staying with family, surely having the help and support of your family is worth its weight in gold, you could go to your local council amd speak to a homeless officer and they might help you getting re-housed but they might have to have reports from an official regarding you health problems, you can go on the housing register at any time but its a long list and it could take you years to get a property

feelinggood_2

Elle83 wrote: »

I hope you don't mind me asking, but why are you coming off Venlafaxine and at what dose? If you're experiencing dizzy spells and confusion then you've come off it too fast. You should go back to the GP or psychiatrist who's weaning you off it and discuss changing the rate. It sounds to me like you need to go back up a notch and come down more slowly.

75mg slow release. I told the Pysch that I didn't feel they were helping, and she wanted to increase the dosage. I explained that I didn't like the side-effects, and would rather not increase. She said to stop taking them, and that it'd be tough for 7-10 days, but best to get it over and done with without reducing the dosage.

Saw GP last night as suicidal thoughts and self-harm are getting worse. She couldn't decide wether to put me back on them or not, as its impossible to tell if the suicidal thoughts are part of the withdrawls, or just my condition getting worse. She wrote a letter to the Pysch asking her to see me urgently. We discussed wether I'm safe to be at home, and I explained that while I'm having a lot of thoughts, I don't intend to act on them, so she said that if I'm home with as much family/friend supervision as possible then it should be okay. Home alone at the moment.

Not really thinking about leaving or anything anymore - too much effort to fight to stay alive, let alone make descisions. I'm going to stay where I am and try and get stable, then can think things through a bit better. Although thoughts of just running off, leaving everything behind, are very tempting. I can understand people who go missing.

feelinggood_2

Scarlett1 wrote: »

feelinggood if you are that desperate to leave home then I would have a re-think about staying with family, surely having the help and support of your family is worth its weight in gold, you could go to your local council amd speak to a homeless officer and they might help you getting re-housed but they might have to have reports from an official regarding you health problems, you can go on the housing register at any time but its a long list and it could take you years to get a property

I don't know if family is an option really. I don't think it'd be fair to stay with my Brother, he has only just bought a house and got engaged.

Parents aren't an option either, not welcome there unfortunately

Elle00

feelinggood wrote: »

75mg slow release. I told the Pysch that I didn't feel they were helping, and she wanted to increase the dosage. I explained that I didn't like the side-effects, and would rather not increase. She said to stop taking them, and that it'd be tough for 7-10 days, but best to get it over and done with without reducing the dosage.

Saw GP last night as suicidal thoughts and self-harm are getting worse. She couldn't decide wether to put me back on them or not, as its impossible to tell if the suicidal thoughts are part of the withdrawls, or just my condition getting worse. She wrote a letter to the Pysch asking her to see me urgently. We discussed wether I'm safe to be at home, and I explained that while I'm having a lot of thoughts, I don't intend to act on them, so she said that if I'm home with as much family/friend supervision as possible then it should be okay. Home alone at the moment.

Not really thinking about leaving or anything anymore - too much effort to fight to stay alive, let alone make descisions. I'm going to stay where I am and try and get stable, then can think things through a bit better. Although thoughts of just running off, leaving everything behind, are very tempting. I can understand people who go missing.

I think your problems are actually the drug you know, and I'm shocked at the advice you've been given.

75mg is only a starter dose (for slow release) but it would still explain why you're freaking out.

You need an antidepressant and now it's not coming in, your body is freaking right out.

I would go back to your GP or psychiatrist and ask to get a half dose of regular release. You can take it either in the mornings or evenings and if you keep a diary you should find that within a couple of days a pattern very quickly emerges.

Then when you've come off it properly you can go onto something else.

I didn't like Venlafaxine either, it made me sensitive to daylight, tired (despite it's claims to be alerting) and easily confused. I now take 20mg a day of Fluoextine and haven't really had any problems since I started taking it 18m ago. Not like I used to anyway! It's a good preventative drug that doesn't have many side-effects.

I know they rave about Venlafaxine being a modern drug, the new Prozac and all that - but I don't buy it. It doesn't sound like it's done you any good either.

I really do think this is a medical problem that needs addressing. Your brain is freaking out but part of you clearly knows not to act on it.

feelinggood_2

Unfortunately, no GP will prescribe for me anymore (this is my 7th attempt at medication, and all have been pretty bad - mania, self-harming, pyschosis and stuff) and I can't see Pysch till 9th. Just a case of waiting and trying not to do too much damage in the short term.

Elle00

This is the advice I spent ages typing out the other week. I don't really see this is having a go, I was trying very hard to help.

feelinggood_2

Your advice did help Elle. I phone my local council, and they won't take my mental health problems into consideration so I'm a bit stuck. CMHT, Pysch and everyone aren't being helpful.

Elle00

feelinggood wrote: »

Your advice did help Elle. I phone my local council, and they won't take my mental health problems into consideration so I'm a bit stuck. CMHT, Pysch and everyone aren't being helpful.

Right, I understand now thank you. I got the help I needed thanks to the town councillor harranging the council into re catagorising me. Is that something you could consider trying? The details of your town councillor should be found online.