How Cheap can a Funeral Be !

soappie

Hugs on your loss Trin.

Ham sandwiches, some nibbles and some home made cake with sherry and wine for a quiet wake at your/her house is all that's required. The cakes can be made the day before and the sandwiches on the morning.

The undertaker will try to persuade you to take on an outside caterer but to cut costs, just make sure it's only family and close friends who are invited back. xxxx

kitschy

Hey

Didn't want to read and run, although I don't have any advice to offer I just wanted to offer my condolences to you and yours. I know that it will be a matter of minutes on here before someone with useful information pops in.

Thoughts with you x

Slinky_Malinky

I am so sorry to hear of your bereavement.

It depends just how far you would want to take things. There was an old man a few miles from where I live who made his own funeral arrangements before he died. He got a carpenter to make his coffin, and had a friend with an estate car to take this to the graveyard but this would be a step too far for most people.

I suppose some frugal/OS tips would be considering coffins such as cardboard or I think you can get wicker ( not sure on cost of those though) and if you have enough help you could produce a home made buffet for after the funeral rather than paying a pub or club to do it for you.

This will be a difficult enough time for you to cope with, please be kind to yourself and if there are things that other friends or relatives can do to help you then ask them. Don`t take on all the pressure yourself. Sometimes if we appear to be strong and coping them everyone assumes you can get on with it, but you will be hurting just as much as them so don`t be afraid to delegate or ask for support.

Murrell

It might be worth checking out simplicity cremations if your not religious and want a cremation. They do simple cremations without anyone attending, to save people money. They have a website.

Sorry to hear your sad news.

Sandra

pollyskettle

Sorry to hear of your loss Trinny. I can only echo the excellent advice given by everyone above.

xx

LilacPixie

sorry to hear of your loss trinny.

Doing a small wake at the family home is a nice idea maybe rther thn forist arrrangements a simpl hand tis posy of spring flowers for your garden or a neighbours??

McKneff

aahh, sorry you have lost your mum, Ive never lost a husband or child but i can honestly say that the worst experienc in my life was losing my mum.

A little piece of me went with her and i have never got it back.
Bless you and your family.

stroppyjock

Sorry to hear of your loss. A Quiet family and very close friends get together after the service. No frills and to be honest most people will accept that anyway. Just been through similar myself and the only advice I can give is do what you and your dad want and forget what others think, it's a hard enough time without trying to please everyone.

Thoughts go with you over the next few days.:A

PrincessMort

I'm so sorry to hear about your mum.

Many of the funeral 'receptions' I have been to have been done on a small budget and have been really well done - at one I went to recently, the family hired a nice room from a local town hall and asked everyone that came to bring a plate of something to eat. there was more than enough food and it went very smoothly. hth's x

dianasnan

Have you considered a woodland burial. My FIL's funeral cost £900 including the cardboard coffin (quite tasteful and looked like wood from a distance) and the plot of land which was a lot less than the £2400 that another relatives traditional funeral cost. If you had use of an estate car this amount could be reduced a bit. Very simple and can be made very personal as the family could do the whole tribute as they wanted.