Moving House OH Been refused time off...!!

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oldMcDonald wrote: »

Guys, this arguement that you have carried over from last night isn't really helping the OP and has now become a two person slanging match. If the points you are making are that important to you both, why not take it over to PM?

good reply mate, its getting boring for me now, im going to show a bit more maturity now and not respond to captains responses.

Sorry for hogging the thread, but some people just need to be told how it is, if they dont like it thats their problem, but its no good crying about it.

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silvercar

oldMcDonald wrote: »

Guys, this arguement that you have carried over from last night isn't really helping the OP and has now become a two person slanging match. If the points you are making are that important to you both, why not take it over to PM?

My take would be that moving home is a planned event and therefore isn't appropriate for using emergency leave.

I would think that OP would need to get up at the crack of dawn, drive to pick up FIL and dump kiddie then take FIL with her on school run to deposit other kid at school then go home to do house moving.

If all thats not possible then its a question of making sure everything is packed the night before so that OP is free in the morning to do school run and collect FIL.

If that doesn't work then it means spending more money, either employing a better removal firm that could provide more assistance or employing a childminder for the day to look after the kids.

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silvercar wrote: »

My take would be that moving home is a planned event and therefore isn't appropriate for using emergency leave.

I would think that OP would need to get up at the crack of dawn, drive to pick up FIL and dump kiddie then take FIL with her on school run to deposit other kid at school then go home to do house moving.

If all thats not possible then its a question of making sure everything is packed the night before so that OP is free in the morning to do school run and collect FIL.

If that doesn't work then it means spending more money, either employing a better removal firm that could provide more assistance or employing a childminder for the day to look after the kids.

That seems a lot to do, she said her husband needs to take the time off to look after his kids and drop them of at various places, now i dont know whether you have your own kids, but i for 1 would not let my kids, especially babies be looked after by a child minder that i had not checked out properly, which cant really be done in a couple of days.

All the husband would have had to do is explain that his wife is moving all the furniture out the house with her FIL and he needs to be there to look after his kids.


You cant just drop your kids of with strangers, especially in this day and age even if they are childminders, it costs money and some people at the end of the day cant afford to pay childminders.

I mean how many employers do you think would dicipline an employee, if they phoned up and said they cant make it today has he has no one to look after his kids.

And in my eyes you cant just drop your kids here and there, there not like dogs and when you go on holiday you drop them in the kennels.

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silvercar

It may be a lot to do, so she'll be knackered at the end of the day, but needs must.

I do have kids and though I wouldn't leave them with someone completely unknown I would, for one day, leave them with a trusted friend's childminder or pay a friend of mine or family member.

I agree it costs money, but moving house costs money and if it meant OH not losing a days pay it should work out a cheaper option.

Its not just about the risk of discipline action, its about being a loyal employee, about being seen to take responsiblity for your work etc

When a promotion / annual review/ opportunity comes along who gets it? The guy who shows up to work or the guy who has "emergencies" and can't be relied on?

LillyJ

Has he checked that he isn't entitled to "removals days"? My OH gets 4 days a year leave to move (on top of annual leave).

PasturesNew

LillyJ wrote: »

Has he checked that he isn't entitled to "removals days"? My OH gets 4 days a year leave to move (on top of annual leave).

I've never heard of any such thing in a contract.
What sort of company/industry is he in?

LillyJ

PasturesNew wrote: »

I've never heard of any such thing in a contract.
What sort of company/industry is he in?

He is a police officer. (West Midlands Police)

Captain_Mainwaring_2

LillyJ wrote: »

Has he checked that he isn't entitled to "removals days"? My OH gets 4 days a year leave to move (on top of annual leave).

Because of the nature of my business I get an annual chalfont st giles day too, check your husband doesn't have this in his contract too.

LillyJ

Captain_Mainwaring wrote: »

Because of the nature of my business I get an annual chalfont st giles day too, check your husband doesn't have this in his contract too.

I have no idea what you are on about.
I was trying to help.
I didn't know it wasn't common, we have only had one job each. He gets removals days, I don't, so I didn't know it wasn't common.
I am not sure if this is unique to the police but I don't see why it would be, being a police officer does not make it harder to move (in fact it probably makes it easier than a 9-5)

Police don't have to move more often than the general population either.

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silvercar wrote: »

It may be a lot to do, so she'll be knackered at the end of the day, but needs must.

I do have kids and though I wouldn't leave them with someone completely unknown I would, for one day, leave them with a trusted friend's childminder or pay a friend of mine or family member.

I agree it costs money, but moving house costs money and if it meant OH not losing a days pay it should work out a cheaper option.

Its not just about the risk of discipline action, its about being a loyal employee, about being seen to take responsiblity for your work etc

When a promotion / annual review/ opportunity comes along who gets it? The guy who shows up to work or the guy who has "emergencies" and can't be relied on?

So when was the last time you used a registered childminder? you say to look after 3 children for a day would be cheap, i think it would be a cheaper option for him to take the day off with out pay.

he would also save the children the trauma off being looked after by people who they are not familiar with them, its obvious they were having problems leaving them with family friends, thats why they were travelling 25 miles to drop the kids off.

Just think your moving house your kids are with strangers and your doing it on your own as your husband as gone i to clear the wharehouse.

It astounds me of the way some people think.

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