Feel so bad

pukkamum

P.s after her comment about my 'dressing up' to walk to school i purposely got up early to do my hair and make-up and put my best clothes on!!! Felt a bit of a dill at toddler group but it was worth it lol

CB1979_2

seriously some women need to chill out.

would most blokes have been bothered about that? simple answer no

and if they had, they would've said something there and then.

seriously if she's not nice to you (as in you take it to heart), why go out of your way to try and befriend and suck up to her??

be civil sure but that's it, what's with all the competing?

RoxieW

pukkamum wrote: »

P.s after her comment about my 'dressing up' to walk to school i purposely got up early to do my hair and make-up and put my best clothes on!!! Felt a bit of a dill at toddler group but it was worth it lol

Good on you hon! I refuse to change the way i dress just because I dont 'fit in' at the school gates. To me it sounds like this women may think that you are 'up yourself' just as they do with me. Thing is, when I was working (in the media daarrrllliiinngg) I was considered conservative in my outfits - it was all jump suits and visors and high fahion. Now I get scowld at at the school gates for wearing a dress! Might go tomo in my flouro pink leg warmers :rotfl:

pukkamum

RoxieW wrote: »

Good on you hon! I refuse to change the way i dress just because I dont 'fit in' at the school gates. To me it sounds like this women may think that you are 'up yourself' just as they do with me. Thing is, when I was working (in the media daarrrllliiinngg) I was considered conservative in my outfits - it was all jump suits and visors and high fahion. Now I get scowld at at the school gates for wearing a dress! Might go tomo in my flouro pink leg warmers :rotfl:

:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:
,I think we should start a dress up at school day when everyone wears their sunday best high heels and all lol

MidLifeCrisis_3

Diamond78 wrote: »

Hope it went ok up the school. Im shocked at how many parents are in similar situations. I cried today after dropping my son off to school. One of his classmates is having a party and as they lined up to go in class the mum gave out al the invites apart from my son. I know my son will be upset when I pick him up.But I am taking him to butlins next week so hopefully he wont feel hurt. Not one mum speaks to me up the school. Where I was living before I use to speak to a lot of mums, but some of them ganged up on me as I stood up to one of them as she had been gossiping about me. I wish I never as i ended up being attacked from behind in my sons classroom. It was totally unprovoked and the school was just as bad as they didnt do anything. It left my son very frightened, as well as me. They made our lives hell. How women can be so b@tchy and evil, I dont know. They are no role models to their children. They went so far with their grudge, they broke ito my garden, grafitted the front of our house and after that I had to leave coz i didnt feel safe.I dont think I would ever be friendly with any mums again as it has left me scared. While I know not all people are the same, I learnt the hard way. Luckily the police issued those mums with a harrassment warning.

Just makes me sick that these so called 'grown ups' can be so awful and take it out on the little ones too. I feel really upset that so many mums are being made to feel like this, it's worse than playground bullying. Wish they would think about how they would feel if this was them! Are you new to the school? If so, I hope they've just left him out as an omission or because they knew you were going away or something, but even so it's still offensive. I would definitely cry too, in fact I nearly am at the thought of your poor little lad feeling so hurt!!

Take care and I hope you find a friend at the gates soon. After what you've experienced it's going to be hard, but try smiling at some of them and you never know, they might just smile back and then you can start with a hello when you feel ready. Fingers crossed hun.

MLC

MidLifeCrisis_3

pukkamum wrote: »

P.s after her comment about my 'dressing up' to walk to school i purposely got up early to do my hair and make-up and put my best clothes on!!! Felt a bit of a dill at toddler group but it was worth it lol

Good on ya chick! I'd probably end up tripping over me heels and looking like a panda who'd been up all night if I did that...:rotfl:

MLC

Diamond78

MidLifeCrisis wrote: »

Just makes me sick that these so called 'grown ups' can be so awful and take it out on the little ones too. I feel really upset that so many mums are being made to feel like this, it's worse than playground bullying. Wish they would think about how they would feel if this was them! Are you new to the school? If so, I hope they've just left him out as an omission or because they knew you were going away or something, but even so it's still offensive. I would definitely cry too, in fact I nearly am at the thought of your poor little lad feeling so hurt!!

Take care and I hope you find a friend at the gates soon. After what you've experienced it's going to be hard, but try smiling at some of them and you never know, they might just smile back and then you can start with a hello when you feel ready. Fingers crossed hun.

MLC

Awwww, thank you for your nice words. My son came home upset as all the class was talking about the party. I said to him, maybe the mum doesnt know that he is the new boy in the class. I reassured him that he will have a lovely suprise soon which will be better than the party so that has put a smile on his face.It still must hurt his pride.
Yes, it will be hard for me to befriend and trust ppl again as the mums that assaulted me and did that stuff to our home was my friends. I saw them as friends but when i caught them out gossiping, it hurt my feelings, so I stood up for myself. The worse thing is the attack which happened in the classroom. To do it in front of a class full of 5 year olds was so wrong. She should of waited for me outside and done what she did. Its my son I feel sorry for.As much as I try and put it in the past, its not easy because it has left me scared.But one thing for sure is the school and all the parents know they are bullies. Their children will pick up on there behaviours and think it is ok to attack ppl from behind. At least I know that I am not a bad parent and totally love my son. I would never dream of being abusive in front of my son.

Maybe in time some of the parents will start talking to me in his new school. It would be nice for my son so he has friends he could go and visit or they could come round here for afternoon tea and a play. All I want is for my son to be happy. He will be when his in butlins lol, he will totally forget about the party coz I will make sure me andhim have our own little party.

CB1979_2

Diamond, (and sorry OP for going off on a tangent) why not invite some kids from his class round for a "party" so you can get to know some parents and he can get to know some mates as well.

as long as you invite everyone that he wants there (and don't purposely not invite the kid who's party he isn't going to).

nothing wrong with a kind of introduce yourself party for the little un, imo

Diamond78

CB1979 wrote: »

Diamond, (and sorry OP for going off on a tangent) why not invite some kids from his class round for a "party" so you can get to know some parents and he can get to know some mates as well.

as long as you invite everyone that he wants there (and don't purposely not invite the kid who's party he isn't going to).

nothing wrong with a kind of introduce yourself party for the little un, imo

I intend to do a little tea party kind of thing. I would never not invite a child that hasnt invited my son as that would be teaching son to hold grudges. Once back from butlins and they are back at school after half term hopefully he can have some of his friends over atleast that way all the kids can have fun as well as me lol. thanks x

MidLifeCrisis_3

Diamond78 wrote: »

I intend to do a little tea party kind of thing. I would never not invite a child that hasnt invited my son as that would be teaching son to hold grudges. Once back from butlins and they are back at school after half term hopefully he can have some of his friends over atleast that way all the kids can have fun as well as me lol. thanks x

Good luck hun hope it all turns out well and you can finally put the past behind you and make a fresh start for you and your little lad.