Feel so bad

Lady_E

Oh how I hate the school gate mafia!!

DS1 has a really great group of Mums at the gate and we will always stop and chat with each other. However, DS2 nursery crew is a bit like stepping into the cast of "Stepford Wives". I am not in their age group, I live in the wrong side of town, I dont follow fashion (gee if it fits I am thrilled LOL),and my main concern is that DS2 is happy and loved ,same as DS1.

OP hold your head up high , you would have had a carp time and would have been desperate trying to get away from them to see your sis

TangledMemories_2

Hi,
I went to a private school and my mum always used to feel left out of the other mums conversations. I got shunned because people never saw my dad and because my mum used to pick me up from school in her work's van.
Unfortunately, the mothers' attitudes rubbed off on their kids most of the time, however the other working mums got their own back and created their own clique!!
However, strange really how the kids started talking to me when my dad took me to work one day on his Goldwing motorbike! The lads loved me then and I was promoted from geek to one of the lads - which is where I stayed til I left school! LOL

Parents evening was a hoot once when my dad turned up in the truck (we're talking 40tonne truck with trailer) and parked it outside school right behind a snooty kid's dad's shiny new BMW! mwahahahahahaha

I really wouldn't take it too much to heart. Just because your life doesnt revolve around afternoon teas, designer clothes or whatever they fill their time with doesn't mean you're any less of a person.

dearbarbie

poppyolivia wrote: »

I'm sorry but I don't get what you mean??? You said it would be ok and you would see her later....and you already said you were going to morrisons....

I don't think they will be pitying you cause I don't think they will realise anything was wrong?????

again sorry if I got the wrong end of the stick xxx

yeah, you were already busy?

Ellie2758

Nasty business. And as somebody has pointed out, the kids pick it up from the parents.

I'm out of this now cos both my kids have left school but I can well remember how I felt when we moved here and people stuck in their own little cliques and my kids and I werent welcome. Horrible

absolutebounder

One question. Why do you feel so bad? What do these mums really mean to you?
Sorry that was 2 questions really

Paparika

galvanizersbaby wrote: »

sounds good - just trying to pick up the different terms used on here - I'm a complete MSF beginner I'm afraid!

I don't own a car so we walk everywhere - might fall down on the fashion/comfort one though but fit in with the healthy kids and job (that's where I am now - naughty me!) as for the importance of what the school mum's think - well
Perhaps I could be a cross between the two, a scummy mummy - no I've stitched myself up there haven't I! LOL:rotfl:

I haven't a clue what half the terms are on here, the slummy mummy name, came from a book i read a while back, diary of a slummy mummy, she sounded just like me but with money. (but my car isn't as messy as her's), come and join my gang you could be a slummy mummy too, not entrance exam required

Mips

Paparika wrote: »

I haven't a clue what half the terms are on here, the slummy mummy name, came from a book i read a while back, diary of a slummy mummy, she sounded just like me but with money. (but my car isn't as messy as her's), come and join my gang you could be a slummy mummy too, not entrance exam required

I also read that too!!

My car is definitely more messy though!!!!

Cornishpixie_2

I beat the school gate Mafia in the race for life. I practicle done a victory dance. To hubby's amusement, bless him he said "I thought you said it wasn't a race". Ah but that was before I beat them fair and square .:rotfl:
Seriously I don't really bother just be your self, I wouldn't look for their approval . You'll always get people who will only speak to you when their mates aren't around. Just shrug it off. Must be awful to be so shallow and all that;)

suzybaby2001

Hi,
I just wanted to say I know exactly why you're upset, I spent a year in a shared house at uni with 2 of my friends and a complete bully as the third housemate. She had something against me and to this day I don't know what, people say she was a jealous girl but I could never see why. Anyway, she got to the point where she would close the living room door and made myself and my other good friend feel not welcome in our own house. The worst thing that happened was she had been giving us a lift to uni when it was snowing, one morning I came down to see the rest of them running out of the door and they drove off for uni without me. It took me about 45 mins to run to lectures and was incredibly late, and in such an upset state when I got there. What really got me was that the other two girls wouldn't admit that she was in the wrong, such was the influence she had in the house. Another favourite trick was with shopping, we lived miles from the shops and we had to get taxis to the retail park. I regularly came home to an empty house when she'd taken the others shopping without me.

She was just a complete bully and for that year made my life hell, but I'm over it now I think another possibility is that she tried to pull my now fianc! (6.5 years together and just got a house together!!) and he wasn't having it. I met him the week after and we got on straight away and the rest is history. I think there may have been some sour grapes...

Anyway, rise above it and hold your head high - my Mum's fave saying is "don't let the b@@tards bring you down".
xxx

PS Kelly, if you're reading this (you know who you are), you didn't win your game!

pukkamum

dearbarbie wrote: »

yeah, you were already busy?

I hadn't said i was busy i had said i was only going shopping to kill time as i wasn't meeting my sister til later and the other mum who was invited had said she was going to the supermarket too.