Nervous About Daughter Growing Up!!

nearlyrich

My "Baby" DD was 21 last week and I remember worrying about these things myself a few years ago. Fortunately she has grown up fine and has a lovely BF, don't panic you will get through it.

My biggest worry now is as I am the mother of two adults should I be acting all grown up myself?

littlemissmoney

Quackers wrote: »

She had a real problem with 'seeing' everything on a sanitary towel & was changing it every time she went to the toilet

Umm, isn't it totally normal to change a ST or tampon every time you go to the toliet??

Amanda65

gigglebunny wrote: »

had to run to Londis and get some pads, she seemed to side with the school and buy Kotex, the huge night time pads that feel like a pillow between your legs.

When I started the night before my 12th birthday my mum was all flustered and produced and enormous ST with loops either end and an elasticated belt :eek: I've slept on mattresses that are thinner :rotfl: Thank goodness for the small, discreet protection around these days.

And as a tip, when your daughters get to the stage of using tampons, a pot of vaseline is very useful. DD2 spent half an hour in the loo with a large pot of the stuff and a box of tampons with me shouting encouragement from the landing :T

chattycathy1674

littlemissmoney wrote: »

Umm, isn't it totally normal to change a ST or tampon every time you go to the toliet??

Ermmm no....Everyone is different!

Some people pee every 15mins.....how many changes a day would that be?!


Anyway.....the book for my daughter arrived today!!

It's was quickly put away for a few more years!!

Lolol it is far too detailed...goes into STD'S, HIV etc...far too much info for a little girl just turned 9!

Researched again and found this book:
READY, SET, GROW! ("What's Happening to My Body?") - For younger girls.

Same authors, similar stuff just watered down for younger girls. I don't know why I didn't spot this one first time I looked!

So anyone looking for a suitable book for very young girls, be careful...make sure you get the correct one. Not like me lol!

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anguk

I'm so grateful my DD(14) hasn't started hers yet, I know they're coming soon but I was 15 before I started mine so I think she takes after me. I can remember being so relieved when I started because I was the last one out of all my friends! My DD is very petite so I bought some pads from Wilkinsons for her, they're made for young girls & teens, they're a bit slimmer & shorter than normal Always type pads.

moneypooh

My DD started last year in yr8 after having 'booby buds' for about 18 months. She was well prepared as we have discussed everything and I had bought her a couple of books.
I wasn't sure how she would manage at school as fortunately her first was during a half term break. I shouldn't of worried, she was fine. With previously mentioned make-up bag full of 'goodies' she coped with school-life really well. About half of her mates have now started but still some going into 14 period free.
We have now managed holidays etc... and it's a part of everyday life, although she still isn't regular yet.

We did have the interesting situation of a younger brother though, he was in yr 5 when she started. She wanted to be very private about it, naturally, so we explained it to him (with DDs permission) and he now accepts her 'changes' and it helped him with the different 'changes' he will go through soon.

It is funny when she gets ratty while she's on, her brother just tuts, rolls his eyes and says 'women'!!!:rotfl::j

One thing we did discover was the period heat pads you can get at chemists. They act like the back pain relief ones but obviously shaped and designed to be placed on the tummy (on clothes not skin area). My DD uses these under her school uniform as they last all day, and can't be seen.

Children going through puberty is a strange thing to watch. I see 'my little girl' nicely filling a bra, having curves in all the right places, and using hair removal cream (under arms only), and only 14!!! OMG they grow up fast!!:eek:
My DS now has the odd little hair keeping willy company and we know he's on his way too...;)

rammy007

anguk wrote: »

My DD is very petite so I bought some pads from Wilkinsons for her, they're made for young girls & teens, they're a bit slimmer & shorter than normal Always type pads.

Do they still do these i told my friend they did these so she could get em for her DD but she said they no longer do them,its a shame someone doesnt come out with a range of sanitary protection specifically designed for youngsters,as they seem to start earlier more now.

anguk

rammy007 wrote: »

Do they still do these i told my friend they did these so she could get em for her DD but she said they no longer do them,its a shame someone doesnt come out with a range of sanitary protection specifically designed for youngsters,as they seem to start earlier more now.

I'm not sure if you can still get them, I bought them a couple of years ago but DD hasn't needed to use them yet. They're called Ultra Teen made by a company called Dambi, they have a website but don't mention the names of the pads they make, you could maybe email them and ask?
http://www.dambi.co.uk

I'm surprised none of the big names like Always or Bodyform have come up with a range for teens/youngsters, there's definately a market out there. The reason I bought the ultra teen pads was I tried a normal always pad in my daughters knickers and the pad was way too big, the ultra teens are narrower and shorter. As we've seen on here girls seem to be starting their periods at a younger age and there's certainly a difference in size between an 8 year old girl and a grown women yet we're all expected to wear the same sized pads. I know there's a huge difference between the size of my DDs knickers and the size of mine!

keelykat

I wrote a long reply and it disappeared!

From my own personal experience of starting my periods-i started changing shape and getting hair about two years before i come on for the first time.

All of you on here (moms) are great-although my mom was great in some ways ie she brought me loads of towels/tampons to try and supplied me with painkillers etc, i wish she'd talked to me more about how i would be feeling.

It's only been the past couple of years that my mom has actually willingly sat down and chatted about things with me and ill be 24 soon! She admits teenage girls scare her-shes worried what to say etc. If she'd chatted to me then, like she does now i'd have worried less about things and got things off my chest. Now im an adult-she'll discuss literally anything! Typical!

I hope i can be more open if i do have a daughter (and son too, but you know what i mean) and answer the awkward questions the best i can.

I suffered badly with heavy, irregular and painfull periods-so things didnt go too smoothly for me especially at school. I'd never want anyone else to go through that. I'm glad to never go through that again!

keely.

ps-one of my nieces is 10 now and my sister, like many here, is also worried as she is showing changes ie body and moods etc. Many girls in her year are wearing bras etc now, and she has been asking for one too.

anguk

keelykat wrote: »

ps-one of my nieces is 10 now and my sister, like many here, is also worried as she is showing changes ie body and moods etc. Many girls in her year are wearing bras etc now, and she has been asking for one too.

Bras are one thing I've always made sure my daughter has had, infact she's got more than me! My mother would never buy me one as I was too "flat-chested", :rolleyes: yes I admit I didn't have much on top but I found it embarassing when we were getting changed for PE and I either had nothing on or a vest and the other girls had bras. In the end my best friend gave me one of her old trainer bras and then I saved my pocket money up to buy my own.

I swore then if I ever had a daughter she could have as many bras as she wanted! She was a late developer so started off with a bra-top (like a cut-off vest) when her friends started wearing bras, then moved onto trainer bras when she started to develop and now she wears normal bras.