Nervous About Daughter Growing Up!!

Lillibet_2

I don't have daughters so can only go by my own experience but I staretd aged 9, flat as a pancake, didn't get boobs until I was 18 by which time I was on the pill due to the heaviness of my periods! My Mum was always very open about periods (never got a tampon demonstration though, thank God! As much as it might have been instructive it would probably still haunt me today if I had!) & she put pads in my room. Fortunatley the day I started was a Saturday but on reflection yes, I should have been carrying something in my schoolbag. My biggest 2 problems were that A) my mum insisted on buying me panty liners instead of proper pads so I was flooding every pair of knickers & she insisted the school needed to know so announced it to the whole staff room whilst I died of embarassement next to her. School were very understanding, I was allowed to use the staff toilet during those weeks (this was 25 years ago!) but I think now they have ST bins in the girls toilets? Apart from that & the occasional tummy ache I really do't remember it being a problem at all during the first 2 or 3 years, maybe because it just treated as a fact & not something to make a fuss about? The real problems started a couple of years later when I got really heavy & started missing school due to the associated pain etc.

Good luck;)

gkhej

My eldest, now 15 started very early - mid year 5. Fortunately the school was well prepared and so was she - we'd had the talk, read the book and she was equipped with a small bag of supplies, clean undies etc.

Six months down the line, as I was congratulating myself on how smoothly it had gone, she announced that she wanted to try tampons, and the school nurse had said it would be fine to try.

Pretty illogical of me, but I found this aspect very difficult to handle. I understood her reasoning that it was more hygenic, easier, less embarrassing etc and could talk to her about the risk of TSS etc and 'changing' regularly, I just took ages to come to terms with my baby having anything inserted up there!!!

Her younger sister also started very early, but now aged 12 finds the idea of tampons "gross".

Quackers

divadee wrote: »

Please tell me im not the only one, who is worried and nervous about their little babys growing up?

I had a lady crying in my shop yesterday Divadee because her little boy (just 7) was growing up & having his own opinions

So its definately not just you!!!

My girls are 13 & 16 and their periods still aren't regular but they both coped really well with it when the did start.

MY 16 year old can only use 1 hand & I definately made a mountain out of a molehill over how she was going to manage the whole period thing!

I've got no advice - everyone elses is fab The make up bag with spares is a good idea & as long as they know what to expect they will deal with it just fine

MY youngest (13) uses tampons and did from her second period. She had a real problem with 'seeing' everything on a sanitary towel & was changing it every time she went to the toilet

My 'baby' leaves school in 2 months time Jeez, doesn't time fly when you're having fun

lady_stardust

I remember when I started, my mum expected me to provide my own sanitary protection from my pocket money. This got a bit chaotic for a 13 year old who had irregular periods and couldn't really see beyond buying CD's and magazines and I would frequently run out and have to use bog roll. I doubt any of you are planning doing similar, but I wouldn't recommend it, it is a bit much to ask of them until things are well established.

geekgirl

I started age 9 when I was at school. I found my fave teacher and they sorted me out. It was fine, she was really nice to me.
Then when I got home and told my Mum she had everything ready for me. She was going to broach the subject when I was ten apparently.

I have always been open and up front with my kids, we have always talked about things like periods, condoms, safe sex etc... I have spoken to my boys about periods as well as my daughter. No subject is taboo in my house, I would rather tell them stuff rather than them have gone elsewhere and got only half the picture.

It was a funny feeling when my daughter started her periods. I felt proud of her, my little girl grown up! But also sorry because of all the pain and messyness. Now she is having a baby of her own which is due a week today! How time flies!

shays_mum

lady_stardust wrote: »

I remember when I started, my mum expected me to provide my own sanitary protection from my pocket money. This got a bit chaotic for a 13 year old who had irregular periods and couldn't really see beyond buying CD's and magazines and I would frequently run out and have to use bog roll. I doubt any of you are planning doing similar, but I wouldn't recommend it, it is a bit much to ask of them until things are well established.

Damn! that's abit harsh , you have my sympathy
I remember when i first started that would have been the last thing on my mind :eek: too busy running around like a headless chicken lol

jennywren1976

My eldest daughter is 10 and will be 11 in August and she has started to develop over the last year or so...sore boobs, hair where it wasn't before. The girls in her class had "the talk" in year 5 and 6 and from what she has said and what we have talked about since it has left her quite clued up on puberty etc. I have always told her if she has any questions she could come to me and she is fine with that and now asks me stuff all the time.
Initially I was suprised that the school was giving a talk on periods etc in year 5 as it was always done in the last year of juniors in my day, but after a quick word with the school nurse she assured me thay had taken this decision as they had had quite a few girls of 8 and 9 starting to develop and get periods etc so they thought the earlier they knew about this the better!
I started when I was 13 so I am hoping my eldest has a little while yet before she starts her periods but I feel confident that she will cope if anything does happen.
Now I just have to convince her that she doesn't have enough to fill a bra yet.:rolleyes:
It seems to be the in thing at the mo to be wearing one! I remember it being the complete opposite when I was 10, I would have hated to have to wear a bra then, my best friend in school developed early and the boys teased her terribly. Seems the opposite is true now as a few of my eldests so called "friends" have found it funny she doesn't wear one. Girls eh!!:rolleyes:

vixarooni

I havent got children, but id be quite excited about my child growing into a woman. Or maybe i wouldnt? Im worrying about myself getting older (at 21) let alone my child when i have them!

For me, i grew breasts towards the end of year 6/7. I was 14 when i had my first period so i guess anything from 2-3 years is a good time scale. My mum didnt actually say much to me, she very much gave me the opinion that your period might be this, it might be that, but you gotta put up and shut up! Shes given me good advice as ive gotten older, we are a very open family which you seem to share divadee so she should be able to come to you aswell. My mum did buy me a book on tampax which was fabulous. I used to read it all the time, it had pictures of the types of sanitry stuff about like tampons, pads with wings and without ect, aswell as how to deal with it!

Enjoy your daughter growing up, its gunna be a hard 10 years ahead!

DeeDee74

aww it's not just you who worry's hun im the same my dd is only 10..
we've had the whole growing up talk and i bought a really good book which was recomended on one post on here for the younger girls,

i to hope she wont start her periods till high school but looks unlikely she got another year before then...

still preparing them for what's ahead is all we can do....
can't believe time goes so quick..

good luck hun i'm sure she will be fine x

Dick_here

geekgirl wrote: »

I have always been open and up front with my kids, we have always talked about things like periods, condoms, safe sex etc... Now she is having a baby of her own which is due a week today!

That worked well then, didn't it ! :rotfl: