Need Advice About An Ex

yoni_one

You can get free legal advice on this kind of thing from Rights of Women - www.row.org.uk

I could hazard a guess at his rights but really you need advice from the big guns.

msmicawber

Don't worry about it - it's all hot air. He and his solicitor won't be able to prove that any of his money was spent on the house. In fact, since he was paid in cash, he won't actually be able to prove that the cash paid into your account was his in the first place. Tell him to do one.

something_girl

yoni_one wrote: »

You can get free legal advice on this kind of thing from Rights of Women - www.row.org.uk

I could hazard a guess at his rights but really you need advice from the big guns.

thank you for that link, that looks interesting. :T

Curv

Are there any records at all that he's been living in your house? If not I'd be tempted to say 'Fred/Bill/Bob who? Never heard of him...' if/when his solicitor writes to you.

If there are records, I'd just pass them straight on to the CSA or the mother of the child/ren he's been keeping short of money all these years.

Sounds like a real gem. You can do much better.

olly300

This guy:
1. Has not put his name on bills or council tax
2. Doesn't have a bank account
3. Is paid in cash - in this day and age very very few people are paid in cash for regular jobs.

If he threatens you again:
1. Notify the CSA
2. Notify the taxman's fraud hotline with his employer's details.

i_like_shoes

Wow...... thanks guys. I didn't think i would get that many replys. Thanks for the links i'll have a look at them. I didn't think he had a claim but think his mate has been putting words into his head.
It's really put my mind at rest

BallandChain

I think if a guy was shirking his child support payments from the get go I wouldn't have even let him set foot inside the house. You can always tell what a person is like from the way they treat others.

something_girl

BallandChain wrote: »

I think if a guy was shirking his child support payments from the get go I wouldn't have even let him set foot inside the house. You can always tell what a person is like from the way they treat others.

wise words there.

*Louise*

I think he sounds like a total chancer, who suddenly needs money for something (why else would he try after a couple of months ) and he is just seeing what he can get from you.

Do you have the paperwork from the remortgage? And any receipts/bills for the renovations? The dates should tie in, along with bank statements and prove that the money was yours.

Don't worry.

Loretta

These sort of people always know their rights but never their responsibilities

He has lived off you for 5 years, that's quite a good innings, this free living has now ended. He should either find another mug or support himself. Work even, sorry didn't mean to say such an awful word!

Just ignore him, be strong and don't enter into any conversation about it. He is gone, that's it. If he keeps pestering you that could be harrassment which you can deal with legally.

Look at it from his point of view, he has had it really good for 5 years it is obvious that he is going to try and hang on to that, it does beat having to work, sorry that naughty word again, for a living

I think that very soon life is going to get much harder for him. He may have to either work at a proper job or live on unemployment benefit and have them hassling him to get a job, he will have to fill in all those boring forms, put up with the forms getting lost, trying to get his money, hanging on the phone for hours. Then of course someone may report him for working for cash, undeclared. Someone may let the CSA know where his is and where he does his casual work.

I think that he may finds that takes up quite a lot of his free time and he may have less time to hassle you

Good luck stay strong