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Need Advice About An Ex

I split with my ex about 2 months ago now and things have started to get nasty :confused:.. After all the lying ive had now he says he wants what is rightfully his... I'll explain :rolleyes:

I bought my house 11 yrs ago and my ex moved in 5 yrs ago. He was never on the mortgage so thats ok in the circumstances.

What i am worried about is the rest of the things.
I took a loan out for home improvements and a car 3 yrs ago. Car/ insurance and loan all in my name etc. Also when i remorgaged i decided to spend the majority of the money back on the house.... i.e new bathroom/flooring/ kitchen etc oh and we had a holiday.
He was never on the council tax reg ( so many arguments on that i wanted him on it ) because he said A) Child support would be after him B) why pay more council tax ????
Now his wages did go into my bank acc because he couldn't get an acc ( did try to get a joint with my bank who i have been with for years ), but for the last 2 yrs he's been paid cash and just gave me money to put nto the acc to pay for bills and food etc.

Now he is saying he wants to buy the car for a knock down price to cover his losses that he spent so much money improving the house !!! Yes we did improve the house but only with the money i had borrowed and still paying for. Now he sys he'll see a solicitor and things are getting nasty now which i never wanted to. If i do sell him the car then what next ??? What will he want then ???

Anyone help on this ????
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  • LittleTinker
    LittleTinker Posts: 2,841 Forumite
    Ignore him.....he will soon get fed up of trying to bluff you.

    Doesnt sound as though he has a leg to stand on.....so let him go to his solicitors. You may get some satisfaction knowing he is wasting money :)
  • Chollita
    Chollita Posts: 678 Forumite
    Wouldn't he have to prove that his money went towards the house?

    Sounds like a real chancer (avoid paying child support, council tax, screw what he can out of you ...). See a solicitor yourself to be sure that he has no claim, then tell him to FO.
  • RadoJo
    RadoJo Posts: 1,828 Forumite
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    If everything is in your name, I would be very surprised if he could touch it. It may be worth contacting your local Citizen's advice bureau so you know how best to deal with it. If he does contact a solicitor who even entertains his claims, you want to be able to deal with it appropriately and not feel perssured, so get some advice, but try not to worry!
  • Optimist
    Optimist Posts: 4,557 Forumite
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    Given that the government has shelved proposals for equal rights to cohabiting couples my personal view is that he is bluffing and I would wait to see what happens. If he wishes to pay £100 for a solicitors letter to you I would then see a solicitor for advice. Although many do give a half hours free consultation if you want peace of mind. Your local CAB should have a list of solicitors who participate
    "The whole problem with the world is that fools and fanatics are always so certain of themselves, but wiser people so full of doubts."

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  • hobo28
    hobo28 Posts: 1,601 Forumite
    Ha ha, he's got no chance. Normally I would suggest speaking with a solicitor but in this case I wouldn't waste the time.

    He's not got a snowball in hells chance. Ignore him. The only way he would be entitled to money from your house is if he can PROVE he has spent a considerable amount on improving it, paid the mortgage or that you have made commitments to him (ie. "..I will give you 50%")
  • hjb123
    hjb123 Posts: 32,002 Forumite
    If he wasnt on the council tax or bills etc how can he prove he actually lived with the OP?
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  • Paparika
    Paparika Posts: 2,476 Forumite
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    hjb123 wrote: »
    If he wasnt on the council tax or bills etc how can he prove he actually lived with the OP?


    Oh dear looks like he screwed up there lool
    Life is about give and take, if you can't give why should you take?
  • if he has receipts for home improvements etc, then he would have a claim through a solicitor.
  • hev_2
    hev_2 Posts: 1,397 Forumite
    if he has receipts for home improvements etc, then he would have a claim through a solicitor.

    If they were paid from the remortgage by the OP then it is more likely she paid, especially as he doesn't have a bank account. tbh it doesn't sound like he has much chance.

    You could mention that if he goes via the courts he would have to give his address, and ask whether they cross reference with Child Support (AFAIK they don't ;)) Also you would send notice of change of ownership to DLA and I think they may share with CSA.

    Wishing you luck
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  • southernscouser
    southernscouser Posts: 33,745 Forumite
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    Could you remind him that the CSA would love to know his whereabouts? :)
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