I'm depressed! DH wants different things...

jak

I'm so fed up. My husband got paid today and he got a bit extra due to overtime etc. I got all excited thinking I could put it on my credit card-which i'm desperate to pay off. Now he's said to me that he wants to buy some DVDs.
It is the fact that the first thing he thinks of is himself....always... when it come to money. He wants prison break season 2 on dvd. Amazon have got it for £30. BUT if we have a spare £30 I always put it towards bills.
I feel like he always gets to buy stuff or go out with his friends and I don't get anything.
If I say that to him, he says I should buy myself something...but I don't want to. I'd rather pay off my credit card...and so it goes on...
Just a bit of a winge really.
Does anyone else have this problem?

GunJack

Yes, I bet around 75% or more of couples will be in a similar boat. Hang in there, and try the art of gentle persuasion...if that don't work, pass the chainsaw

Seriously, I know what you're on about. I never put myself before the family when it comes to finances, and it can be frustrating sometimes when those around you don't seem to see the longer-term view that being debt-free asap is the best long-term solution for you all, and anything you can do to help achieve that is another small victory.

Keep working on him until he achieves Light-Bulb moment - let's face it, once nipper comes along, you'll need every penny you can get

smashedbooboo

Hi, as Gunjacj says, keep nipping away. The realisation will soon dawn when the little one comes along. Please dont be depressed honey. Its not good for you when you have a baby on the way. Post tomorrow hun and we will see if we can help you. And GJ, i hope you are either going to work very early or you have been doing a night shift like me. Its far to early to be up otherwise.

smashedbooboo

Oh my gawd, Cant you just tell i am on nights. Cant even spell your name right. Sorry hun

jak

I'm on night too. Full-time for this week but usualy 1 night a week. Am feeling it a bit, i have to say. Thanks guys
x

jak

I do wonder if it'll ever dawn on him... What can I do to hurry things along?

smashedbooboo

I am not sure hun, but someone will come along with some really good advice for you. x x x

tealady

Hi Try snowballing to show him what that debt REALLY costs and also do a search to see if you can get the DVD cheaper, and show him the results after he has bought it.

jak

I'm going to try again to show him the bills etc. and get him to realise what it's costing us...

paula65

Try and get the dvd from ebay http://cgi.ebay.co.uk/Prison-Break-season-2-complete-dvd-box-set_W0QQitemZ140226761867QQihZ004QQcategoryZ2288QQssPageNameZWDVWQQrdZ1QQcmdZViewItem

and if you can get it for 15 quid then you've 15 quid off the card bill

Zazen999

Not sure about depressed; you should hold your head up high and feel embarassed for him.

Prison BReak on DVD???

If it was me, I'd sell the DVD player and see how he likes it.

The man needs to get a grip and take responsibility.