neighbour watching my daughters bedroom window

softwaremad

as a by the bye i too have an autistic daughter who is 12 she is a stripper (likes being naked) so we have to lock doors & keep curtains closed however i hate net curtains myself - arent they jut for old people these days!!

Js_Other_Half

softwaremad wrote: »

as a by the bye i too have an autistic daughter who is 12 she is a stripper (likes being naked) so we have to lock doors & keep curtains closed however i hate net curtains myself - arent they jut for old people these days!!

I know it's not ideal, but you can use opaque fablon to cover her window up to a certain height - eg shoulder height on her, so she can still see out if she wants to?
http://www.fablon.co.uk/window.html

mrcow

softwaremad wrote: »

i hate net curtains myself - arent they jut for old people these days!!

lol I know what you mean - but I had to get a curtain to go over the window of my daughter's room as it overlooked a neighbour's garden. I got her a full length white voile curtain with textile roses on from Ikea and it actually looked really pretty as it framed the window and let in maximum light. They used to do one with butterflies on too which I really liked.

patchwork_cat

No net curtains are not for old people voile curtains are very 'on trend'!

bandraoi

Net curtains are for anyone with neighbours or whose house is overlooked or whose house is close to the road. They're for nearly everyone really.

toejumper

i bought my dd a lilac roller blind, a black out blind, she gets full sun on her bedroom window from 4 in the morning untill lunch time. it lets very little light through may be that would work. and no i would`nt hesitate to put a camara up. your dd is the most precious thing in the world, if they can stick camaras in car parks or on the streets in towns. his behaviour is not normal. i would be videoing the creeps every move. you say he`s killed your dog does`nt that say what type of person he is.

WestonDave

Not a cheap solution but you can have windows with a one way mirror coating on them. Friends of ours have it in their bathroom and it does work - we didn't believe them so they proved it! (It is however very disconcerting as you are using the toilet right next to an apparently clear window with the light on in the room.)

You wouldn't use it everywhere but it might be a solution to a specific issue.

Tribulation

bestpud wrote: »

Am I missing something?

How can someone stand in a back garden and see someone sat in a chair, or lay on a bed in the back bedroom of your house?

Are the windowsills very low?

In our house, which is overlooked from the side and back, you could not see someone sat or lay down, even if you were looking out of a top window, as the windows are too high. We could only see each other in any detail if we were both stood in our respective windows!

If we were in a bungalow, well, they'd have to peer over the fence to see us in a ground floor room.

Now, if we are downstairs, and they are stood in a bedroom, they have a very clear view into our house! But you don't seem to be describing that scenario.

Sorry if I have missed something obvious.

That's exactly why I posted what I did. My teenagers are in the front bedrooms facing a main busy road. They neither want nets. I was concerned that people might be able to see in so got my wife to stand a foot away from the window and I tried looking in from outside and across the road.

Outside I could see nothing, across the road, I could see her head, and this was only at night with the bedroom light on, in daylight you could see a rough outline of the head only (by the way, nets are only good for privacy with the lights off)

If he was a pervert, surely the sensible thing for him to do is look out of an upstairs window facing the daughters bedroom

I'm not saying this guy isn't a pervert, but from what's been said, it seems like more of a case (and of course I could be wrong) that the OP hates their neighbour, so seeing them in the garden looking towards the OPs house, must make the neighbour a pervert.

He parks his van on the verge blocking 3 peoples views, well it's annoying, but you don't own the land outside your house, if it's illegal, then complain and get something done about it, if it isn't, then it's just hard luck. If I look outside my house now, there's a white van parked blocking my entire view, there's 5 parking spaces outside the 5 terrace houses, this guy lives a few streets away but his street is full of cars both side of the road and he finds it easier to park outside my house and walk. I find it incredibly annoying at times, especially if I cant find a space nearby (outside someone else's house), but it doesn't make him a criminal, he has the legal right to park there.

Your neighbour is rude, yet you have done nothing but be rude about him on here.

Your accusing him of damaging your property. If that is the case (and it does happen) then simply phone up your insurance company, they will send someone out to see, and if he has damaged your property, it will be put right and claimed off of his policy. I've done numerous amounts of DIY to my house as have both my neighbours. None of us have applied for building regs for anything (as it wasn't needed), but we are all competent and haven't damaged each others property either.
If he's done a self build, he would have needed planning permission and would have to have had it inspected as the work progressed.

If his garden is rat infested, then a simple call to the council should get you through to the correct department to get this sorted

You seem to be taking offence to those trying to help you. I haven't read your post and thought "lets waste 20 mins of my time trying to wind this person up", I know nightmare neighbours do exist. It's just that from your description, things don't appear to add up. Even if you think (or know) your neighbour is in the wrong, often it's better long-term to make a peace offering yourself and ask them to put all your differences aside and make a fresh start and try to be good neighbours to each other. It's a hard thing to do I know, but I do know a couple that did this and ended up best friends a few years later.

softwaremad

no thanks i know that voile is in i was referring to the lace jobs my nan hung everywhere - used to have nets years back when i lived on a street with lots af pedestrians its quite unsettling how nosy people can actually be.

with regard my position she has bedroom curtains shut all the time and her room is cool she likes it a lot so we are relatively happy.

although i must say in that ladies defence having a disabled child is extremely frustrating god knows what its like with 2, at times you go off at situations / people when it is not required but those frustrations unfortunatley have to go somewhere. i ripped a new one in talk talk today so you know lifes little frustrations to others are huge offensive assaults on parents of disabled children.

life is anywhere but normal!

bestpud

autismmum wrote: »

ive take on board the comments, i am calling insurance company today their legal department can take over for me and i am gratefull as i hadnt thought of that.
as for the guy watchin her the problem is solved, but these low georgian windows are a nusance for that i guess, she used to love watching the cows and tractors on the fields but now facing woodland so she'll be just as happy. thanks for everyones comments

The makes more sense now. Our windows are normal for the bog standard type of house we live in, and it is usually that type of house which is most likely to be on an estate, and thus overlooked. If you have lower windowsills, it will obviously be easier to see in from ground level.

He is possibly just trying to be intimidating towards you though, rather than 'perving', as you obviously have a lot of history.