neighbour watching my daughters bedroom window

James_N

Janepig wrote: »

I'm fairly certain that filming him without his knowledge is against the law. I remember reading a story about someone who had a CCTV camera outside his house trained on his motorbike to prevent it being stolen but he had to take it down. Same as if you go to buildings where there's CCTV there are always signs telling you it's there.

Jxx

I understood exactly the opposite: that there is no automatic right to privacy expecially if you are in a public place. My employers don't have signs up to warn about CCTV, and I don't get asked about if I want to be filmed everytime I go into town.
If I stand in town, as a private person, and film or photograph you walking about in a public place, then there is no offence either. I can take whatever pictures I like providing I do not intrude. Examples of intruding would be following you around, or taking pictures where you expected to enjoy privacy (changing rooms, for instance).
So, is setting up a camera to monitor your garden also invading his privacy? That's less clear, but in situations like yours, camera evidence has been used. How about keeping a PAPER record of occurances before you talk to the local police. You could always go further, later.

LondonDiva

As mentioned several times, easiest way to stop this escalating, if that's what you really want, is to get a net curtain / some blinds in place if the idea of curtains is so untenable.

I'm quite shocked that the leap from random looking through a window to perverted stalker's been made without any attempt to do something relatively simple about it on your side.

In my area, it's a badge of 'taste' not to have net in your windows. Unfortunately, it means I have a good nose as I walk home at night and looking across from my flat, I've seen some rather interesting arguments and making up in people's bedrooms when I've glanced up. If you see a movement, the instinctive thing is for your eye to track it.

As your daughter's uncomfortable with the situation enough to change in another room, surely you need to ask yourself if it is really more difficult to stick a net curtain up than to get a security camera?

poe.tuesday

I agree with you that you should not have to put up nets and hide yourself away just because some guy is watching your daughter going about her daily business but in this instance it is probably the best and quickest fix

Personally, if I saw some guy looking up at my children I would ask him what then hell he was looking at

janegresty

Why should you have to put net curtains up? It's coming Summer. And I for one will have my curtains WIDE open in the entire house all Summer so that I can enjoy the sunshine (especially as I will be heavily pregnant and won't be able to go out much). Just like my back garden... I can't wait to be able to sit in the back garden and enjoy the nice warm British weather (we'll see ay).
It's not anyones fault that a perverted guy wants to stare up all the time and be a pervert. I would report him to the council, or ask them advice on what best to do with the situation.
Yes I guess you could put net curtains up.. but then he is either going to stare through another window... pick a different neighbour... or start staring into your garden etc etc. And he sounds like a weirdo... hope you get it sorted.

keelykat

My comments weren't nasty IMO-just saying if you need a quick solution just pop up nets (not board up your windows-thats being silly). If this bloke is as bad as you're making out-id keep pestering the police untill something is done about him.

Zazen999

I always thought that nets were put up to stop people being able to see what's in a room. We bought a house last year and it's quite popular with walkers and as soon as I noticed people looking in - i bought some muslin to stop them doing so.

simple problem - simple solution

If there are other problems with the guy then that's another matter.

patchwork_cat

I agree why should you have to put nets up. However I think that for peace of mind and a quiet life perhaps it is best. We used to have a neighbour acroos the road, a middle aged woman, who whenever she was on the phone would stare into everyone's houses. It was seriously irritating, but I don't think she knew she was doing it - we put up nets.

I feel for you, but also if he is innocent I would feel for him if community and/or police were involved.

waggys

How do you know your neighbour has not adhered to things such as building regulations for extensions? If this is the case you should contact your local building control officer and see what enforcement they can make.

bestpud

Am I missing something?

How can someone stand in a back garden and see someone sat in a chair, or lay on a bed in the back bedroom of your house?

Are the windowsills very low?

In our house, which is overlooked from the side and back, you could not see someone sat or lay down, even if you were looking out of a top window, as the windows are too high. We could only see each other in any detail if we were both stood in our respective windows!

If we were in a bungalow, well, they'd have to peer over the fence to see us in a ground floor room.

Now, if we are downstairs, and they are stood in a bedroom, they have a very clear view into our house! But you don't seem to be describing that scenario.

Sorry if I have missed something obvious.

softwaremad

when i was younger things like this happened tome, i use a slightly more aggresive route and put a message on the window for them to read like perverts get lost! this normally shames them away as they know they have been rumbled and who can they tell about it? as they are in the wrong!