neighbour watching my daughters bedroom window

harrassedmum

You have every right to be concerned about your neighbours alleged behaviour. Your daughter has a right to privacy within her own bedroom without fear of being watched. IMO you certainly would not be wasting the police time in reporting and logging your concerns with them. I would also advise you to start if you have not already done so keeping a running diary of events (the police will ask you to do this so start evidence gathering now). This is a very serious situation but you and your husband are handling this well by not telling everyone as this would unfortunatley go against you and you do not want to give this man any ammunition at all. In the mean time do be vigilant and take steps to provide extra privacy for your daughter whilst she is in her room. Good luck with this and I do hope all goes well.

kr15snw

Unfortunately the camera thing is true. Next door has had his van broken into 4 times in a week. Police said they couldnt do anything without evidence of who was doing it, and CCTV would be best. He then got told to take it down as hes breaking the law by filming the theif?!

Hes now been cautioned as the police have 'been led to believe' that my neighbour may try and harm the theif if he catches him. And they are cautioning him before they arrest him for abuse?! Hes been told if he catches him not to restrain him as this goes against his human rights?

But its fine for the theif to cost my neighbour about £1000 in damage!

wishing4amoneytree

kr15snw wrote: »

Unfortunately the camera thing is true. Next door has had his van broken into 4 times in a week. Police said they couldnt do anything without evidence of who was doing it, and CCTV would be best. He then got told to take it down as hes breaking the law by filming the theif?!

Hes now been cautioned as the police have 'been led to believe' that my neighbour may try and harm the theif if he catches him. And they are cautioning him before they arrest him for abuse?! Hes been told if he catches him not to restrain him as this goes against his human rights?

But its fine for the theif to cost my neighbour about £1000 in damage!

:mad: :mad: :mad: :mad: thats all I have to say!:mad:

bryanb

daisykinn1 wrote: »

I'd setup my camera and wait for proof before speaking to police. Unless you're planning to move soon you're going to be stuck with these neighbours so you must be 110% sure before taking action.

Setting up a camera would be spying on him, and would look as bad as him.

keelykat

Don't people put up blinds/nets/curtains these days? If you're getting changed/just got out of bath etc it makes sense to pull the blinds shut a bit or close curtains.

I remember i glanced out of my window as i was shutting it one day, and the girl across the street (same age as me) always had curtains open and was parading around in front of window. i innocently glanced out, and she accused me of perving on her! obviously different situation, im not an old pervy bloke looking up deliberatly trying to get a look, but it makes sense to keep curtains shut at night when lights are on.

Sorry if it sounds harsh, but its a simple thing to do to keep her safe from men like him perving.

keely.

autismmum

well she isnt naked, she gets changed in our bathroom ...see earlier post, she is just reading or doing her homework

keelykat

id still have nets up- i do as im not keen on people looking in at me whatever im doing?

keely.

poe.tuesday

I honestly think you should aks him what he is looking at next time he does it

as for him being a perve, I have no doubt he is but proving it is another matter so maybe if you ask him he would be embarassed that he has been caught and stop it

quietheart

What a horrible situation you're in.
I think you should take advice from the police, you can't prove anything so I don't think they'll do anything but can let you know the correct way to deal with this. The diary is something I was going to suggest, it'll give a clearer picture of whether it's just coincidental looking in which I feel is highly unlikely.
I had something similar when I was a kid, a bloke down the road used to watch me and hang around the house, he ended up flashing at me, I was only 11. I didn't tell anyone and regret it now.
The most important thing is that you protect your daughter.

Tribulation

I presume this neighbour is an adult.

I presume he is actually looking at your daughter rather than staring at the moon (some people have odd hobbies)

It's just that it seems a very odd thing to do. presuming you don't live in a bungalow, a neighbour standing in their garden is hardly going to be able to see much of your daughter if she's sitting in her bedroom doing her homework?

You obviously don't get on with your neighbour. He does have every right to state he doesn't want an extension, regardless of the reasons you have for wanting it, and that doesn't make him a bad neighbour. It could be that your reading more into this than is actually happened? You've said that he's a nightmare to live next to and have given 3 examples.

1) he didn't want you to build an extension (perfectly reasonable)
2) You think he poisoned your dog but you have no proof
3) You now are also suggesting he's a pervert.

He may well be the neighbour from hell, don't misunderstand me, I'm not disbelieving you, but I have witnessed neighbour disputes getting completely out of hand and peoples annoyances turning into very unrational thinking.

When I was 15, the 15 year old girl across the road used to come in to her bedroom every night and get undressed, curtains open, lights on. Took her weeks to spot me looking through my bedroom curtains