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Snaggles

I know I should probably ask this on the parent thread, but I wanted to ask a question about nappy rash.

Natasha has appalling nappy rash today, for the first time ever. It's so bad, her skin is red raw, weeping and blistered.

I am really fuming because when I picked her up from nursery, I could smell that she'd filled her nappy (she was sat with a nursery worker so I am very surprised that she didn't notice the smell).

By the time I got to the car, Natasha was writhing in pain (I was carrying her with my hand under her bum....obviously I didn't realise at the time that this was where the pain was coming from). I could hardly keep hold of her she was screaming and thrashing about so much.

I changed her nappy straight away and was quite shocked with the state of her poor little bum. She is still in pain now, and can't sit down properly, or bear anyone to touch her bum. She's got some nappy rash cream on and is roaming the living room with no nappy on, which seems to be easing it slightly.

Could this have happened so quickly? I am a bit concerned that she could have been sat in her dirty nappy for a long time, and it's made me doubt how good the nursery is to be honest.

Tell me I'm over-reacting if you think I am.

Edit - oh sorry, just to add, last week she was constipated after nursery because she only had a few sips of drink in the whole time she was there - they said she refused it. She refuses milk and water regularly, but I sent her with some weak juice, which I know she loves....and apparently she refused that too. Now I'm wondering if she did refuse or whether they just didn't bother offering her the juice.

lucielle

Hi Snaggles, sorry your baby is in pain. I know with mine that when they were getting teeth through it used to flare up in a matter of hours and the smell was awful. It could be worth mentioning to the nursery manager because at the end of the day if you aren't happy you will move her and they hopefully wont want to lose a customer. Hope she is feeling happier now.

L

Snaggles

Thanks Lucielle - she is still in a lot of pain but has exhausted herself from all the crying and has just falled asleep on my knee, so she's gone to bed (for now...:o).

If she was prone to nappy rash, I probably wouldn't have been so concerned, but she has literally never even had a tiny bit, not even while teething.

If it was me, and I was looking after a baby who smelled bad and was crying, I would have realised her nappy needed changing, and I'm a bit shocked that it didn't occur to the person who was looking after her, so I think I will have a quick word with the manager and let her know what happened. Wont make a big thing about it yet, but it has made me uneasy.

Buffythedebtslayer

I don't have any experience with babies,as in I don't have kids but even I would think to change her nappy,( its my fallback position when babysitting!) I would definitely say something to the nursery manager? do you get a book for your baby - when they write down "her day" my friend's nursey does that and so if he cries alot or doesn't eat etc.

poor little girl with a sore bum, not nice at all!

xx

cat4772

Snaggles, have you spoken [STRIKE]complained [/STRIKE]to the nursery about this? Do you think they have enough staff to cope with the numbers of children?

Do you trust them to look after your daughter and keep looking after her? How about having a word with the manager about your concern? Hopefully Tash will have just filled her nappy but you have to go on your gut reaction.

Cat.x

Snaggles

Buffythedebtslayer wrote: »

I don't have any experience with babies,as in I don't have kids but even I would think to change her nappy,( its my fallback position when babysitting!) I would definitely say something to the nursery manager? do you get a book for your baby - when they write down "her day" my friend's nursey does that and so if he cries alot or doesn't eat etc.

poor little girl with a sore bum, not nice at all!

xx

Thanks Buffy - yes, she does have a little book, and it says they have changed 2 wet nappies, one soiled one and one dry one today. I'm wondering if they change them to schedule instead of just when they need them....that's got me a bit more worried actually....

I've started to realise as well that I could put her in the creche at work (thought I wouldn't be able to because of timings, but I've been getting there in plenty of time, so it might be possible) - so at least I have a back up plan if there are any other incidents I'm not happy with.

God, it's hard enough leaving them...but leaving them with someone you don't really trust...:eek:

Snaggles

cat4772 wrote: »

Snaggles, have you spoken [strike]complained [/strike]to the nursery about this? Do you think they have enough staff to cope with the numbers of children?

Do you trust them to look after your daughter and keep looking after her? How about having a word with the manager about your concern? Hopefully Tash will have just filled her nappy but you have to go on your gut reaction.

Cat.x

My gut feeling is that she had been in the soiled nappy for quite some time, due to the amount of pain she is in, and also due to the *TMI ALERT* squished-ness of the contents of the nappy (I know she could have just been wriggling a lot, but it was bursting at the seams with...well....you know).

They seem to have quite a lot of staff, but I am really quite scared of leaving her there now. I know mistakes can be made, but it's upsetting me more the more I think about it.

barnaby-bear

Snaggles wrote: »

I know I should probably ask this on the parent thread, but I wanted to ask a question about nappy rash.

Natasha has appalling nappy rash today, for the first time ever. It's so bad, her skin is red raw, weeping and blistered.

I am really fuming because when I picked her up from nursery, I could smell that she'd filled her nappy (she was sat with a nursery worker so I am very surprised that she didn't notice the smell).

By the time I got to the car, Natasha was writhing in pain (I was carrying her with my hand under her bum....obviously I didn't realise at the time that this was where the pain was coming from). I could hardly keep hold of her she was screaming and thrashing about so much.

I changed her nappy straight away and was quite shocked with the state of her poor little bum. She is still in pain now, and can't sit down properly, or bear anyone to touch her bum. She's got some nappy rash cream on and is roaming the living room with no nappy on, which seems to be easing it slightly.

Could this have happened so quickly? I am a bit concerned that she could have been sat in her dirty nappy for a long time, and it's made me doubt how good the nursery is to be honest.

Tell me I'm over-reacting if you think I am.

Edit - oh sorry, just to add, last week she was constipated after nursery because she only had a few sips of drink in the whole time she was there - they said she refused it. She refuses milk and water regularly, but I sent her with some weak juice, which I know she loves....and apparently she refused that too. Now I'm wondering if she did refuse or whether they just didn't bother offering her the juice.

Not overreacting at all.
It must be worrying but this is entirely your call - you've been there, she's your child - sorry but I know it must be difficult and you have my empathy. I think you'll get every opinion under the sun and they'll all be coloured by everyone's own experiences and it might be stressful hearing them all when you are already concerned but you are a rational, sane, good parent and however you call it will be the best.

Snaggles

barnaby-bear wrote: »

Not overreacting at all.
It must be worrying but this is entirely your call - you've been there, she's your child - sorry but I know it must be difficult and you have my empathy. I think you'll get every opinion under the sun and they'll all be coloured by everyone's own experiences and it might be stressful hearing them all when you are already concerned but you are a rational, sane, good parent and however you call it will be the best.

Thank you that's a lovely thing to say.

I think I will make tentative enquiries about the creche at work, because it would actually be cheaper too. But I wont go into the nursery all guns blazing just yet - I will just raise it as a concern and see what happens.

Oh nooo....but what if they treat Natasha less well because of my complaint. I keep thinking 'surely they wouldn't do that', but then I didn't think they would leave her in a stinking nappy or forget to give her a drink either.

WHY did this have to happen when I already feel so guilty about leaving her???

BusyGirl

Hi, sorry to butt in, but I had a similar problem when my DD1 was at a private nursery 10 years ago. She was coming home with terrible nappy rash and so I spoke to the manager and she actually said to me that perhaps some of the younger less experienced members of staff weren't cleaning her properly when changing her nappy! So I asked if either she would do it or could she check/supervise it being done.
It did improve but if it hadn't then I would have spoken directly to the owner. The nursery she went to had plently of staff but quite a few of them were still doing child care courses and were therefore cheap to employ. It was hard enough leaving her but there was no way I was going to be polite and not say anything.
I would definitely talk to someone in charge at your DD's nursery as it sounds like someone is not doing their job properly. Hope it all gets sorted as I completely know what you are going through.