IA's road to becoming a CAB Debt adviser.

jinky67

immoral_angeluk wrote: »

I feel so pathetic. We've been through harder times than this and come out the other side smiling.. (or just about at least.)

Oi you
everyone has their down times
you are just as entitled to have them as others;)
And you ARE NOT pathetic:cool:

Lucifa73

Its not pathetic! From what I've read you've kept going on this new direction without pause for almost 2 months. You're bound to be a bit fatigued. It must be very draining to put in a full effort every day.

immoral_angeluk

I know but I can't help it. I'm just fed up of feeling like crap.

jinky67

immoral_angeluk wrote: »

I know but I can't help it. I'm just fed up of feeling like crap.

maybe you just need some time out from everything.

immoral_angeluk

jinky67 wrote: »

maybe you just need some time out from everything.

I can't though.

Lucifa73

!!!!{IA}}}

I know it doesn't help but everyone has days/weeks like this. Me included. 'Book' some time to do something you love - an afternoon just of music, a bubble bath, a day with your family (how gorgeous are your girls by the way!), a day just with your husband - and enjoy the moment rather than plan the next one!

Gemmzie

Focus on, what can you take time out from first...

Lucifa73

immoral_angeluk wrote: »

I can't though.

Not even 30 minutes to just play bass, make rice krispie cakes with the girls (messy but fun!) or kick the !!!! out of something on the X-box/Wii?

And, as one of the personal development coaches I've worked with used to say 'But what if you can?'

(Excuse me but I'm about to get all 'soft skills' on you...)

Rather than focus on now, try and visualise what it would look and feel like if you did offload something and give yourself a bit of space. When you know what you're aiming for you'll be able to take steps to get there.

okay - touchy feely done with!!!

immoral_angeluk

In all honesty all I feel like doing is just being on my own but then I end up thinking about stuff too much and feel worse. It's a viscous circle.

Lucifa73

So go be by yourself but do something that needs you to focus so you have to sitch off the inner voice - your music would seem ideal. I play PC games or read a book