Need to brainstorm

tigerfeet2006

Hi folks,

I would appreiciate it if you could look at my thread on the DFW board and make some comments please

I really value your opinions, thanks very much.

http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.html?p=9944533#post9944533

Persolv0

Hello :hello:
Ive had a scan through your other post but one thing that kind of makes all the difference is why you are leaving the current house.(not prying just saying you will know how important it is for you to leave current home)

my initial reaction if it helps is that the house your currently in has more bargaining power than the house your thinking of moving to on the mutual exchange list, plus you could wait for a house you have less doubts about without the "neighbour from hell" where you are now(as from your other post she seems to be part of the package in the new house:rolleyes:) ....i think alot hinges on how much you need to leave the current house.

good luck with your decision:beer:

dalip

TF
When i went bc i wanted to do an exchange as i wanted a totally fresh start. Hated the thought that all my neighbours might know i was bc. We looked at several but there was always something stopping us. Too far from daughter,would we get work,cost of moving and so the list goes on. In the end i decided that it was ME that needed to change not my surroundings. I needed to alter my attitude. So now i hold my head up high when out, we are trying to get our house up to scratch ect. There is an old saying "better the devil you know". In my case that was right. We live in a lovely village and would i get the same again.

Yes ok your neighbour from hell is going and might be replaced by another neighbour from hell but you won't know for sure.
As perso says why do you want to move anyway???

betterlatethannever

If you look HERE it gives you a rough idea of why they want to move

(sorry for jumping in Tiger, just thought it would save time explaining etc and give people an idea of why you want to move so they can help-hopefully:D )

dalip

betterlatethannever wrote: »

If you look HERE it gives you a rough idea of why they want to move

(sorry for jumping in Tiger, just thought it would save time explaining etc and give people an idea of why you want to move so they can help-hopefully:D )

Thanks BLTN that has helped me!
With that in mind MOVE MOVE MOVE. With a new build you would have more bargining power to move to where you really want to go. Would mean a couple of upheavals but it may well be worth it i the long run.

Thanks agin BLTN:o

leonlala

hi Tiger
sounds tricky.
lots of positives to both,
i've thought of a view hopefully didn't miss. can you afford to move twice?? as in move then remain on swap book and then move again??
new house sounds much more desirable than present.( 3 years ago we lived in a two storey flat upstairs in a nice area, but difficult with two kids one a babe at time. we then got offed a three bed house 7 miles from first in a village) bonus was two doors to outside world, that walked straight into garden so safe place for kids to play, garden was much smaller but know have an allotment. any of those nr new? also no damp and bedroom each for kids. so know where you are coming from.
not sure about the school thing, maybe there will be others going the same way? and split petrol? maybe asked at the school gates find out if anyone else lives in that area.
if this is just a stop gap is it worth it? cost upheaval etc?
good luck with decision
lou

Persolv0

betterlatethannever wrote: »

If you look HERE it gives you a rough idea of why they want to move

(sorry for jumping in Tiger, just thought it would save time explaining etc and give people an idea of why you want to move so they can help-hopefully:D )

Thanks for the link betterlatethannever.

Hello again Tigerfeet
catching up on the condition of your current house clarifies your dilemma alot but i guess my two cents worth remains the same.....you just seem to have so many doubts on the new place with good reason as your post explains weighed up against how important is it to move.

One positive is at least its black and white in the sense that you have two options

1)hold out for somewhere geographically more suitable

2)move into a nice new house and leave the dampness behind

yeak ok...theres the third grey area of moving into the new house and reapplying for an exchange in time as mentioned above

Ill always come down on the side of health comes first but in your case its a bit double edged...you dont want the kids in a damp house on one hand and on the other you need to consider your own mobility

if it was me?.....i think the dampness and lack of rooms would be the deciding factor and id move(albeit with the neighbour from hell but she is six doors away so at least not next door) and when i re qualify id keep looking for an exchange that ticked more boxes.....leaves the extra distance to school etc problem of course but in my mind moving gets you and your family into a more comfortable envireoment and hopefully the issues moving creates can at least be limited with some thinking and overcoming the negatives

best wishes to you and yours

wherediditallgo

I think I'd wait to see what your nightmare neighbour does. If they accept the new property, then you've already got a big problem solved. I used to have a horrible neighbour, & 6 streets wouldn't have been enough for me, never mind 6 doors. I'd then turn down this property without declaring an interest in it, as that won't affect your future eligibility. As your children get older, they will need more room not less. Also, you have to bear in mind your disability - I have mobility problems, & two of the reasons for me moving to where I am are now were that I have less stairs to deal with (I used to have 5 flights of stairs to contend with just to get to my own front door), and I'm nearer to work. Believe me, being able to get on a bus literally across the road from my office for a 10-minute journey & get off it 2 minutes from my door is great at the best of times, & an absolute godsend when I'm not feeling at my best or the weather's rotten.

Don't let the location of the college influence you - courses change, colleges move sites, & even if your children wanted to study there, by then they'll be old enough to get there under their own steam from wherever you're living. Also, open space is important - whether you're growing veg or sunning yourself in the nuddy, everyone needs somewhere to escape to when the house gets claustrophobic (noisy children etc), & you'll miss the space you have now. I realise the storage heaters are costing you a lot in winter, but summer's coming so that will drop soon.

I've always believed that a house/flat becomes a home when you first get that "Ooh" & a little tingle about it & can't resist a smile. I don't think you've felt anything like that about this one, so I'd say stay put. And if you turn down this one, plague your housing officer like I did mine until they offer you something else.

Praxis99

I tend to find that when I ignore my 'gut' feeling I tend to regret it. The feeling I get from viewing your post is that you don't feel this is the right move for you at this time. I'd also consider some of the practicalities particularly re the journey time to school.

I have some experience of this having moved to my current home (which I rent from a HA) via a home swap some 2 yrs ago (swapping a five bedroom house - in which I lived alone) for a 2 bed one. Yes on a practical level it was a good move and saved me a good deal of money and time spent looking after the house, but in doing so I gave up a 'home' for a 'house' and one in which I have never settled. With hindsight I'd have hung tight and checked out my options better (I had a great deal of leverage given the nature of the property I was giving up).

MammaCas

Hiya TF

Sorry, I don't know your 'whole' situation, I remember that you are in a flat with bad damp and are overcrowded (hope I remembered correctly).

The new house sounds lovely, although it will be expensive for carpeting/flooring initially.

The nightmare neighbour would be further away than is present?

Would it be you that has to take children to school/nursery? Is it on a bus route? Is there any possibility of them moving schools nearer to the new house?

Sorry for all the questions...I know what you mean about brain storming - sometimes it helps if other people give their 'outside view'.

If it would make your daily life better after considering all of the above then I would go for it. If it would make life difficult, then I would wait for the next offer...

HTH

MC xx

tigerfeet2006

Evening folks :wave:

Thank you, thank you, thank you for taking the time to give me some input into this. You guys are the best.

Sorry I've not been on this evening but I've been dealing with the baby who is not well and teething. So I'm going to go through your posts now.