Ever felt like your life unravelling?

Little_Chicken

Noctu wrote: »

I don't want to sound funny but I would urge people to read the past posts that Jon has made concerning this girl, before they reply.
It's harrowing reading!

OMG!!!! I take it all back. dump, dump, dump her. Why are you considering staying with such a selfish beeeeeatch. SIX AND A HALF YEARS....the fact you haven't left makes me think it's not just your money she's taking - but also your self esteem. You're too young to get stuck with such a leech.:eek:

Go travelling, find someone lovely, or at least just get laid:D

shellsuit

jon_E_begood wrote: »

Apologies for what is basically a rant to let off some built up steam..

Everything at the moment seems to be unravelling for me and really just feel like running away..

Redundancy is on the cards at work and at best i'll be forced into a job i dont want/like..I get home and get grief from my oh as we're getting wed but she's spent 6 months looking for venues any one of which was good enough for me but none of which were upto her standards. So she's found one which happens to be the most expensive and £4k over our budget. I've pointed this out and suggested we have a smaller d at the venue but theres no compriising and i'm an idiot. The ring i bought her (and skinted myself for) is also now "not good enough" as its the wwrong material and needs cleaning which is my fauly as i suggested she get it in that material. I've also recently started a small business so i come home from work and try to work on that inbetween arguements and pressure..

My friend is going travelling around the world in a few months...at one point last week i was ready to take redundancy, jack everything in and join him... Arrgh!

Think thats a bit better....for now....

She's still acting like a selfish, unreasonable, childish so and so, but it's you that puts up with it.

Do you really want to marry someone who thinks that anything you do/give her/buy her, isn't good enough??

trace_567

Sounds like you either need to find someone else, or your g/f needs bringing down a peg or two.

If things aren't good enough, expensive enough for her now then after your married its not going to change. Infact if you keep letting her have everything she wants, she'll just want more and more at greater and greater expense.

She either needs to learn the value of money, or the value of love. Money can't buy love.

belfastgirl23

I had a glance at the other posts.

I'm asking this as a serious question, why are you still with her? There must be something good about her if you're still there and planning to marry her. As an exercise (and also to help us all understand!!) sit down and write all the things you love about her and all the reasons you want to be with her. There has to be some good stuff, no one is all bad...

celyn90

Hi jon_E_begood, nice to see you again - don't feel bad about the rant, you're more than welcome to let of steam here if it helps you.

This is your life. If you don't want it, you can change it - but only you can do this. Why not go with your friend, if not for all the trip then for a week or two - you sound like you need a break to clear you head and think properly about the direction you want to take your life in. There's no harm in taking some time for yourself, all too often life rushes past us and we look up years later and wonder where it got to.

I doubt it will get better unless you do something about it. I know facing up to stuff can be hard sometimes, but you don't have to make big jumps all at once. Step back and work out what makes you happy - not anyone else - just you.

hope it works out for you,
cel x

leoetal19

sweet heart
GET OUT NOW - go with your friend. she will just get worst trust me
she sounds like a lifetime of woe woe-wait til u have kids- nothing will be good enough
she needs a cold wake up call
the only things ib life taht matter are health and happiness and she offers you neither
GET OUT while you can and find happiness xx please xx do it 4 u xx
she makes me ashamed to be female x

January20

You should run away because if you're not careful in 20-30 years' time, you'll look back at your life and "think what a waste!"

You've only got one life, it's not a rehearsal, all you need is a little bit of courage to get out of this.

There is one thing worse than being alone: it's being with someone who makes you unhappy.

ceridwen

Well......I've just had a quick scan of other threads started by O.P. involving this girlfriend. The expensive presents she wants are the least of his worries - I spotted the one where she threatened to come off the Pill and get pregnant against his wishes to "hurry him along" towards marriage.

Having read that one - to me its very clear what action to take regarding the girlfriend - and that ISNT marrying her - and I'm not exactly getting the impression here O.P. that you are anxious to be a father at any point - I may be wrong. I think you need to leave this woman - and in the process ensure there isnt some poor child put in the position of having a father who doesnt wish to be one very much by the sound of it.

Firefly

Divorce is very expensive, even more so that a wedding. Save yourself some money Jon, and spend your earnings on a round the world travel ticket for ONE. Go, get out the door, don't turn around now, because you're just about to have a lucky escape. Run .......

ppolly

I would leave her. If you can't agree over wedding plans, how are you going to sort out the next 50 odd years together? I think your feelings of envy about your friend going travelling need to be seriously listened to. maybe (and I'm sorry if I'm being presumptuous) you could also consider some counselling to help your self -esteem a bit?