Depression Support Thread

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,


I had a good day today,sang 5 songs on Karioke

1) The Greatest love of all by Whitney Houston
2) Stronger by Britney Spears
3) Never ending Story by limahl
4) Lady in Red by Chris de burgh
5) London Nights by London boys


I hope you all have a nice evening


love and light,

Katie xxx

Diamond78

LadyMorticia wrote: »

Thank you. That really does mean a lot to me.
I have a friend who is being very supportive. She is the only proper friend I have where I live as my others decided not to be friends with me when my mental health worsened. I'm not even sure why I still have the photos of us together on facebook. I think I just treasure the memories.

****hugs****

xx

Hiya, welcome to the thread firstly. Those friends that have not stuck by you are not your friends hun. Your true and real friend is the one that has stuck by you thick and thin,the one whoes been there for you and not judged you. I had a lot of friends that didnt understand my depression, they throught i was loopy, I am loopy but in a nice way but my mood swings they could not handle. I to have pics on facebook but they are all of me and my son. I have quite a few friends on there, some I dont even know and some from the past but I now call them assosicates as a real friend is someone that is a friend. Some ppl do not know the value of friendship, the importance and meaning. I use to be friends with everyone, I was soft and naive and as a result have been taken advantage of and used.I have learnt a very hard lesson. Now, I have had to start afresh,move from where I lived and I have no friends that I can talk to to who will understand me so I bottle it all up. Im due to move again, so will be starting all over again. Im very cautious now,I feel terribly lonely but I know it wont ne like this forever.Your lucky to have one good friend than none at all.hugs to u xx

LadyMorticia

Diamond78 wrote: »

Hiya, welcome to the thread firstly. Those friends that have not stuck by you are not your friends hun. Your true and real friend is the one that has stuck by you thick and thin,the one whoes been there for you and not judged you. I had a lot of friends that didnt understand my depression, they throught i was loopy, I am loopy but in a nice way but my mood swings they could not handle. I to have pics on facebook but they are all of me and my son. I have quite a few friends on there, some I dont even know and some from the past but I now call them assosicates as a real friend is someone that is a friend. Some ppl do not know the value of friendship, the importance and meaning. I use to be friends with everyone, I was soft and naive and as a result have been taken advantage of and used.I have learnt a very hard lesson. Now, I have had to start afresh,move from where I lived and I have no friends that I can talk to to who will understand me so I bottle it all up. Im due to move again, so will be starting all over again. Im very cautious now,I feel terribly lonely but I know it wont ne like this forever.Your lucky to have one good friend than none at all.hugs to u xx

Thank you. I believe they are called fair-weather friends? Or something like that. I have a friend who I have supported through everything and now she only comes to me when she wants something. I think I am more of a convenience than a friend to her so I am trying to distance myself a bit.

I used to always try and be friends with everyone, always going out of my way to help them but then when they never returned the favour I would try harder to be who they wanted me to be. Needless to say it ended in disaster. I learnt my lesson too. I'm not Cruella De Vil or anything. I'm still too soft but I have toughened up a bit considering what I used to be like.

I think I would be lost without my friend and this forum. I have met so many supportive people here.

I hope everything goes ok with the move. It can be hard starting over again and at first it may seem like an uphill struggle but everything will settle down eventually.

****hugs****

xx

Diamond78

LadyMorticia wrote: »

Thank you. I believe they are called fair-weather friends? Or something like that. I have a friend who I have supported through everything and now she only comes to me when she wants something. I think I am more of a convenience than a friend to her so I am trying to distance myself a bit.

I used to always try and be friends with everyone, always going out of my way to help them but then when they never returned the favour I would try harder to be who they wanted me to be. Needless to say it ended in disaster. I learnt my lesson too. I'm not Cruella De Vil or anything. I'm still too soft but I have toughened up a bit considering what I used to be like.

I think I would be lost without my friend and this forum. I have met so many supportive people here.

I hope everything goes ok with the move. It can be hard starting over again and at first it may seem like an uphill struggle but everything will settle down eventually.

****hugs****

xx

awww, well atleast you know your a nice person.Im still a nice person altho the stuff ive gone through should make me bitter and horrible but I cant be like that. I look on my friend list on facebook and think all the times Ive been there for each friend, gone out of my way,done something special for them and not one of them have been there for me. I value friendship, I see friendship as family as I dont have family.My mums currently over from abroad but my problems stem from her and the way she brang me up.She styed with me and my littleman for a week and now is staying mith my half brother who always puts me down.My son is my best friend and always will be, his the only one that cheers me up.No matter how hard I try and put on the happy act, sometimes I break down and he catches me out, he gives me a strong hug and says dont cry mummy, then Im ok.

Im glad your friend is there for you and I feel she or he is enough for you as you know yourself it can be very hard to trust ppl, especially if your soft like me, its easy to fall victim to users or ppl who want to take advantage of you.Im not moving yet, im hoping very soon as Ive not found anyhwere to live but the flat im in is making my depression a lot worse and I just need to get out of here.Its so hard trying to find a landlord that accepts dss. Ive got on a course in april for classroom assistant(was due to start in feb) but dont think I could do it with not knowing whats going on about my housing. Im not suprised im the way I am as nothing ever goes right in my life.Thanks for your support tho, I really appreciate it.xxx

rose07

LadyMorticia wrote: »

You're not rambling.

Yeah, I think it was too. At 25 he was a "mummy's boy". I guess I just didn't understand that as my family and I are anything but close but I still think he should have told me while he was here that he hated England.lol. He started calling me "emo" for having Borderline Personality Disorder and started calling me "demon girl". I laughed at the demon girl bit, even though it hurt. Not sure why.

I'm sorry you lost your friend. I'm glad the memories are good ones though I lost one of my friends when we were in primary school and I miss her everyday. We just have to plough on as best we can I guess. ****hugs****

If you ever want to talk or anything then feel free to PM me. I have two ears that are always open to listening.

xx

was he not from england then? well name calling, how mature........not!!!, i think he is prob the one with the problems sweetie, not you. us ones that admit we have a problem and that we need help, we are the strong ones, the fighters, the survivers!!!

im sorry i lost my friend too, but i have happy memories of her, and im sure one day i will see her again. .
soo sorry to hear about your friend, sometimes memories keep us going, photos paint a thousand words, and the simplest of things make us happy.

same goes for you hun

i am drifting in and out atm, as i got a few things im jugglin, but nothin new there:o

xx

rose07

Tulip wrote: »

:hello: Everyone,


I had a good day today,sang 5 songs on Karioke

1) The Greatest love of all by Whitney Houston
2) Stronger by Britney Spears
3) Never ending Story by limahl
4) Lady in Red by Chris de burgh
5) London Nights by London boys


I hope you all have a nice evening


love and light,

Katie xxx

hello katie, how r u today?

i think your awful brave singing on the karaoke, hop your gonna do a rendition for us sometime

i think miro would like that you sang a britney song

what is you fav song of all time?......now theres a hard question for ya

take care
x

rose07

juno wrote: »

I'm having a bad day today

oh hun, whats the matter?



get yaself a hot chocolate, ya favourite duvet, and a film, put film on, count to 3, and relax

xx

LadyMorticia

rose07 wrote: »

was he not from england then? well name calling, how mature........not!!!, i think he is prob the one with the problems sweetie, not you. us ones that admit we have a problem and that we need help, we are the strong ones, the fighters, the survivers!!!

im sorry i lost my friend too, but i have happy memories of her, and im sure one day i will see her again. .
soo sorry to hear about your friend, sometimes memories keep us going, photos paint a thousand words, and the simplest of things make us happy.

same goes for you hun

i am drifting in and out atm, as i got a few things im jugglin, but nothin new there:o

xx

Nope. He was from Ireland.
Guys around here aren't interested in me really.lol.

The weird thing is that after all the names he called me I didn't retaliate because I didn't want to hurt his feelings like he hurt mine.

I miss my friend a lot. She was only 7 when she died and I was 9. It was so long ago and we were so young but I have very vivid memories of her and the great friend she was to me, even if we were only children.

I write poetry as an outlet for my emotions a lot of the time. I find it helps me cope just that little bit more.

Don't worry.lol. I'm always juggling a few things.lol.At the moment I am on here, replying to emails from my friend, sorting out my manuscript, on deviantart and all sorts of other wonderful things.lol. Thank goodness I can multi task.

xx

p.s I just poked myself in the eye.lol.

whitevanwoman

Evening all, newcomers and original DTers. I feel a little guilty about posting this when there are those of you out there who've had a crap day; I try to spend my crap days just trying to distract myself somehow from thinking, in the hope that tomorrow will be better and the busier I am, the faster the day will go. My doctor pointed out to me last week that, having probably had depression all my adult life and survived this far (I'm 39) despite past overdoses etc means that there is an inextinguishable spark somewhere and that my medical records over the years are proof that I do come out of the depressions, and I can live a "normal" lifestyle. He was telling me that to remind me that I wouldn't always feel the way I did right then, for the whole of the rest of my life, and that there were, by the laws of probability, going to be a alot of good and some wonderful days ahead. I have actually really taken this advice in over the past week and I do feel that it has helped. Maybe it will help someone else.

But I actually had a really really good day today and am feeling really empowered. As I live alone, there's no-one (except the hairy hounds) I can tell so I hope you don't mind if I tell you why.

But first of all, let me just say
HI HORACE, HOPE YOUR EYES GET BETTER SOON
FROM WHITEVANWOMAN
Anyway, the story is that today I was back at work after 6 weeks off and I decided to go an hour early as I was just sitting getting jumpy at home. As I pulled out onto the main road from my street, I saw some people and a dog on the other side of the road and something looked wrong. So being a dog person (Sorry Tiff) and being an advanced level first aider (although not practicing for past 3 months due to illness) I jumped out of the van, grabbed 1st aid kit and went to help. It was a big black labrador who lives further down my street called Elvis. He's only 18 months, built like the incredible hulk and soft as a baby's backside. Oh, and he only speaks Polish! He'd been hit by a car and one of his front legs was in a very bad way. His owner and 2 other neighbours were with him but not really doing anything so I went into automatic mode, told one woman to ring the vet & warn them & told the other to go and get a stick for a splint and blankets. Then I bandaged and splinted the dog's leg, and we carried him down a very steep banking to my van and I took him and his owner to the vet. I ended up getting into work 20 mins late and covered in blood but my boss (bless him!) is a dog lover and was really full of praise. So I sailed through my first day back at work on a mega confidence high and am sitting here wallowing in self-glory and a box of chocs that the owners have just brought me. And Elvis? shaken and sleepy but the leg's going to be ok and the fracture should heal fine. In fact, he will be ok to travel to Poland for Easter at the weekend. And it was only a week or two ago that I thought I was totally useless at everything and that there was no point to my life.

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,


well done WVW so proud of you for saving Elvis's leg,just lucky you were there at the time


:hello: Rose07 I really like all the songs I sing my favourite really is Neverending story by Limahl that is the best song ever for me,I also like Nothings gonna stop us now by Starship just spent a nice hour or so entering competitions

Anyway I must go now

chat tomorrow

Night! Night!


love and light,

Katie xxx