Depression Support Thread

shazrobo

juno wrote: »

I'm having a bad day today

hi juno, sorry that your having a bad day, has something happened?
big hugs
shaz xxx

shazrobo

had a n okish day considering, enjoyed my guitar lesson this morning, been to supermarket, and took sons to see their pyschiatrist this afternoon, planning on going to cinema tonight, if i can stay awake long enough, could sleep all day at mo, and still be tired.
big hugs everyone
shaz x

juno

It's Monday today, which is always hectic at work as that's when the majority of our orders come in. And then it's also changeover, so doubly bad. So I just do multideck on Mondays instead of about 50 other things as well. But one guy doesn't understand this, and kept calling me to help with his problems. So that meant I was running late on my stuff, and had to stay an extra hour and a half to get everything done. The hour I will get paid for, the half is doubtful.
Also, I'm working 11 days in a row. Done 7 of em now, but don't get a day off til Friday. And they keep asking me to come in on Friday, even though I've said I can't. I know that if I don't do it they won't get anyone else, but I don't see why that is my problem. I'm contracted to 12 hours a week, and I've been doing over 30 so it's not like I'm not helping out while we're short staffed. I just really can't do Friday!
I've had a holiday booked for a while now, and I've got my train tickets and railcard through. Now someone else is saying I can't take one of the days off because it's a Monday unless I can get someone to cover me

And then it was really raining on the way home, but it was really windy too. And that broke my best umbrella! It had elephants on! So then I got cold and wet.

And then I got home, and my daddy's here. I coulda really done with that extra hour and a half to get things sorted here. Like, my house is a bit of a mess. It's all "surface mess" though, like things in the wrong place, rather than general muckiness.

Diamond78

sunshine6650 wrote: »

Hello All,

Im really struglling & looking on the net for help, not for me my mum, well for me to help my mum if it makes sense!
Reading Dawnylou's post of making a mistake & things out of her own hands happening & feeling the way she does is exactly how my mum is. She has been to the doctors, has tablets & did a stint of councilling, didnt really keep it up as she is a private person & felt silly & useless talking to them & asking for help.
At the minute she is really isolating me, she has recently moved house, (following dad leaving & couldnt afford to cover the morg.) she feels faliure for that, allsorts really.
She has real 'feel ugly' days, & then real pretty days. She has been lying to me (in a good way not nasty) saying shes ok but then has breakdowns every now & then on how bad a mum & person she is & hasnt made anything of herself..but she has!! shes my mum!!

Im finding it hard to cope, Its role reversal, Im the adult & she is the child..I know i shouldnt but its such hard work i almost begrudge her sometimes. Im an only child, 27 & live with my boyfriend, hes great with her tho.
Ive tried spending time with her, she pulls out most of the time, says weather too bad or i should rest.they are excuses tho on her behalf. I treat her to lovely things & help out with shopping as i know money is tight. Her worse thing is she puts on a front. Im going to look into councilling for myself tomorrow through work. To see if they can help me as it is really getting me down.

I went to the doctors & he diagnossed me with mild depression, i was so tearful,not sleeping,worrying,moodswings, eating like a horse!!

I want to help her so much, dont get me wrong she has came on so much in the last 1 1/2 yeras, This time a year ago i never knew if id still have her in the morning when i woke up. She is on the real downer stage now though..

Can anyone help me on the simple things i can do for her day-day or words of help?

I am so sympathetic with her but sometimes the best wy is to be slightly harsh & she has bit of a reality check & is good again for a few days..

Feel free to ask any questions if i havent covered things, didnt want to go into much incase i was intruding.

Thanks for all of your help.

x x

I wish i could help you in one way or another but I can apart from I know in a way how you feel. My mother suffered depression,part of where I get mine from. From what you have explained, I am similar to you mum and its hard. It must be so hard and frustrating for you but depression comes in all sorts of forms and can be from mild like yours to manic. I have had depression since as early as I can remember but I have hid it really well. Sometimes we have no choice, like being a mother, you have to hide it from your child as much as you can coz its not nice for your child to know how your suffering and how low you feel.I would hate for my son to know how I have and am suffering.He has not long turned 6 and I have a long way to go yet. I know my depression will last years as I have been through a lot and have lots of issues to sort out.I have hid my depression from everyone but at times ive broken down, I have lost friends and dunno really feel like ive made a mess of my life.

ppl can bring ppl down,like i said everyone is different and handle things differently.I could be ok for a while, its mostly an act as I have no choice but to look like everything is ok and Im happy. Ofcourse im grateful and happy I have a gorgeous and healthy son, I worship my child, his my air and what I live for but apart from that I have nothing else, I dont want anything else. Nothing and no one will ever make me happy.

Your mum probaly misses you, i dont know if you was close when you was younger,is she living on her own now.Its incrediably lonley having no one around or to speak to that will just sit there and listen and not nag at you. I have my half brother who doesnt realise what depression is like. He constantly has a go at me about my depression but he actually makes me feel a lot worse. I tell him this but he says its constructive critism. Depressed ppl tend to think more. All I can say is your being very strong as it is. Just dont fall out with your mum or say anything that may bring her down even more, im sure you wouldnt but sometimes we all say things we later regret.

Im 30 mow and sufferd with depression more than half my life, to look at me you wouldnt really guess but I have bad times which will last atleast a month then I will be on a high and i pretend Im ok. Its hard to hold it all together and pretend, the smallist thing can bring you crashing back down.I am use to being on my own, your mum is very lucky she has you and Im sure she knows that but see it from her view. You have your own life, you have a partner, she doesnt want to be a burden on you.Is she having councelling?Maybe if you tell her what doc has said to you about having mild depression and that you would like her to come docs with you, she may seek more help from her gp.Sending you loads of hugs xxx

Diamond78

juno wrote: »

I'm having a bad day today

Just wanted to send you hugs and say that Im having a bad day too, lately everyday has been bad for me.Anyway hope your all warm now and relaxing a bit.xxx

rose07

Sazbo wrote: »

Good morning my lovlies :wave:

Thinking of you Ethel hunnie, come home soon xx

Hi Rosie :hello: I'm ok thanks. Last day of my holiday today So I'd better make the most of it. Good luck today for your date!

Much love and big hugs to you all,

Sazzy xxxxxxxxx

hello Sazzie

so..how was it? the day back at work?

luckily i get mondays off, :T:T, and next week i am on holiday, im just trying to decide where to go :rolleyes:, i was just gonna stay here, but might be nice to go up bonnie scotland for a wee bit, or amsterdam. wouldnt it be great if i could get a cheap, quick holiday from somewhere, never simple as tho. .....hey if anyone wants to adopt a rose for a wee while :rotfl:

well the date, ....now there was an interesting night. i think she likes me , she is lovely but omg she can talk. she didnt stop, shes like some kinda superwoman too, she is a paramedic, works in admin, works as a healthcare assistant, works with children, etc... some of those are volunteer work, which is even better :T:T. but yeah, she kept saying how gorgeous i looked, rosie blushed alot!!!, and how my top that i was wearin was especially nice:o :rotfl:. think she wanted to jump my bones :eek::eek::eek:

she walked me to the bus and we seein each other friday all bein well, so whahey :rotfl:

but the complicated thing is....my mate (who is gay, and who i have had a 'thing' with) a mate that i have big feelings for, set me up with her, so thats how its complicated. :rolleyes:


hope your ok today sazzie,?
and that ya councellin went ok ?
take care
from me
xxx

rose07

shazrobo wrote: »

good luck for the op ethel, hope you get well soon, big hugs xxx

lovely poem rose, big hugs xxx

shaz x

thanks hun

always nice to write some poetry, its a good way of expressin those funni feelinga ya get

how r u today?

im glad your guitair lesson went ok,

ooo the cinema, dont think i have been there in a long time, i used to work as a projectionist. but then i moved back ome, where we have one cinema, with 2 screens and thats it. think cloverfield and some kite film are on atm, so not a greeat choice :rolleyes:

hope your ok
much love
huggles
xxx

Horasio

I feel so blue today

The weather is gloomy in Scotland and hearing about the south coast is terrible. My parents are OK but it's horrible to see it on the news.

The removal people have been messing about with us - hopefully now sorted but I don't feel I can trust them.

I hate March, it feels like an evil day today.

Diamond78

CCStar wrote: »

I feel so blue today

The weather is gloomy in Scotland and hearing about the south coast is terrible. My parents are OK but it's horrible to see it on the news.

The removal people have been messing about with us - hopefully now sorted but I don't feel I can trust them.

I hate March, it feels like an evil day today.

I think a lot of us feel blue today hun, the weather doesnt help either. My umrella broke 2day and I got soaked in the rain but I feel for all those thats been affected.Those affected by the flooding and no electric, I wish I could help them. Although I live in the south(London) its not as bad as it is like the coast.Where are your parents?

I didnt know you was moving either?Just goes to show that Ive missed out on the posts.I hope you will be happy in your new home.Removal ppl can be such a let down but keep your chin up, hopefully its sorted now.

I havent smoked today.I really want a fag.I feel so sleepy all the time, not sure if i should go docs but I feel a pain going docs constantly as its the same old thing.

I cant find anywhere to live either,its so hard finding a place with a landlord accepting dss/housing benefit.My landlord is such an [EMAIL="a@sehole"]a@sehole[/EMAIL] excuse my language, 6am yesterday morning he was in his office which is above me and he was making so much noise.His been issued with a letter from environmental health now for the way he is not doing the repairs.Hes going to shout at me tomorrow I just know it.Last time he did that he shouted in front of my son.Im not in no mood that take no rubbish off him anymore. The council will not help me in regards to housing me,not even the fact the flat is infested with mice and its a one bedroom..Yet the landlord is getting money for a 2 bedroom. I heep clinging on to hope that something will come up but my hope is fading...

LadyMorticia

I have had a letter through from the ED clinic and have to book an appointment.

I'm so apprehensive.