The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread!

jo1972

I'm here :wave:

3 weeks done and dusted :cool:

I'm off to bed now, speak to you all tomorrow

Enjoy your tea and toast MP

xx

mollypolly

jo1972 wrote: »

I'm here :wave:

3 weeks done and dusted :cool:

I'm off to bed now, speak to you all tomorrow

Enjoy your tea and toast MP

xx

Nite nite Jo..Well done...xxxx

Bismarck

brilliant Jo...well done....been meaning to refer to the comment your OH made the other day....it's sometimes very hard for others to say the right thing....sometimes whatever has the desired effect works even though it upsets you....I'm afraid some things will be said that aren't 100% helpful but I'm afraid the new you will have to cope with the new situation and references to your past...I'm glad you didn't have the couple of cans you wanted...they really weren't worth it.....

alisong_2

Yup, I'm here as well. had a bit of a struggle today after an easier day yesterday, what's the rhyme and reason in that?!!

I've made it anyway and just off to bed, night all.

Ali xx.

Bismarck

mollypolly wrote: »

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Where is everyone.


Hope you are all ok.I have just got in from work and am having my tea & toast now.
See you tomorrow.I Hope.

Love Mollypollyxxxx

night from me too Molly....well done for you too!

Bismarck

alisong wrote: »

Yup, I'm here as well. had a bit of a struggle today after an easier day yesterday, what's the rhyme and reason in that?!!

I've made it anyway and just off to bed, night all.

Ali xx.

not as quiet as I thought...well done Ali...some days are harder than others....some days are just really easy!

alisong_2

Thanks Bismark. Do you know yesterday I was wondering if the worst was over and almost didn't think about it (almost!). Today, I was close to thinking oh s.. it, I just want one:mad: .

I'm also worrying about what to do on my holiday which is coming up, I think that was preying on my mind and I was thinking if I have a drink then where does that leave me:eek: .

Well, I really am off to bed now, see you tomorrow

Ali x.

shopaholictiedtheknot

Morning everyone :j :j :j

I am feeling full of beans today, only 3 days left to work and then I have a week and a half off - the end is in sight!!

AFD again for me yesterday, went for an hours walk after my tea so keeping up with my health regime!!

Only had a brief craving whilst watching Coronation Street (recorded whilst we were out) which was when Ken and Deirdre were having a large glass of red each:rolleyes: - strange since I don't even really like Red wine!!

Congratulations on your 3 weeks Jo!:beer: :T :T :T

Well done alisong, are you planning to drink or not on your hols?

Good luck for today everyone

jo1972

Morning all

Well done shoppy & Ali :T you both are doing so well, long may it continue

Morning Molly & Bis

Bis, I discussed what OH said to me with the psycho yesterday. I've discovered that the reason I was so upset by it at the time and the reason it stopped me drinking is linked to the way my parents brought me up. They were quite lenient with me but I always like to push the boundaries, they'd never really tell me off or shout but my mum always had a killer one-liner which stopped me in my tracks. It was never shouted or nasty, but just some sarcastic or witty comment that made me feel so small and humiliated that I couldn't answer back to (I hated her for it at the time!) and when OH said 'I'll just sit here and watch you drink all night then' it brought me back to that feeling. I felt like a child being chastised (sp?) and couldn't answer him. That stopped me in my tracks, just like it used to 20 odd years ago with my mum. The psycho seems to think that I was looking for someone to stop me. I think it's true as a lot of kids like routine and like to have boundaries, although they don't realise it at the time! So, I learnt a lot yesterday, turns out I'm still a big rebellious kid wanting to be guided It helps me if I stop what I'm doing and look at it from the other persons point of view rather than my own selfish self-destructive one

I felt very positive when I left the psycho yesterday, I was driving home and thinking of all the great things I've been blessed with and I need to think about that and keep positive.

Right, decorating and ebaying for me today with 2 small kids running around :eek:

Hope you're all having a lovely day

xx

eselt

Hi everyone- Alisong, Jo and others-brilliant news about your AFD, you must be so proud of yourselves!!!!

I've been thinking about the long term sobriety thing again...just stirring it around and getting nowhere really. In terms of AA, the reason I think it didn't work for me was because I felt so nervous of going into a group (even though everyone was really nice- my problem not theirs)because over the 12 months when I was an out of control alcoholic I had just shut down, and didn't want to interact with anyone, I felt a lot of shame and guilt and knew everyone had pretty much washed their hands of me because I didn't seem to be able to start to help myself at all, and going into a group to relive it all again just made me want to drink for dutch courage. I was so ill, yellow, puffed up, shaky, and I was having withdrawal fits too which could happen at any time with no warning so I was scared to go out the house on my own. I remember waking up in hospital with my beautiful little 5yr daughter at the bottom of the bed with a card for me and thinking how disgusting I was to put my kids through this...so I know I'll always hate alcohol, I really really hate it, it beat me for a while and its a daily (hourly) battle.

What I would say, is try and get some help before it gets completely out of control. Theres loads of help out there, don't worry about the stigma-you'd be surprised at the wide range of people who are struggling too- just put your hands up and say 'OK guys- I need some help here'- people will understand and the professionals have seen it all before and worse- and decide WHAT MOTIVATES YOU. If you think AA will help then go, it does help a great deal of people, but if not there are other ways...