The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread!

mollypolly

shopaholictiedtheknot wrote: »

Hi Mollypolly

How do you do it?? I am so envious of you![/quote

Hi Shoppy,
I dont know really.I have just found some willpower from somewhere and some inspiration from this thread.
I gave up for a couple of weeks last year and then caved in at xmas.Then I tried again at the beginning of this thread.Hopefully this is third time lucky.
I think coming on here helps as people think I am doing so well I would hate to have to tell you all I had started drinking again.I would feel ashamed.Whereas now I feel quite proud of myself:rolleyes: (Hope that doesnt sound big-headed)
I will keep sending positive vibes to everyone who is trying to cut down/.give up.Keep at it.You will get to where you want to be.Just hope I can stay there.:D
All the best.
Love Mollypollyxxxx

fieldofdreams

Hi All,

Hope you dont mind me posting on here - just came across this thread by accident and it seemed to strike a chord!

I dont drink at all during the week but tend to overdo it at weekends - didnt go out this weekend and it was really strange ( and nice ) waking up on a Sunday without a hangover!!

I love going out with my friends, I just wish I could cut down a little on the amount I drink!

mollypolly

Welcome Fieldofdreams.:hello:
Keep reading.We are a friendly bunch on here.I am sure you will find some inspiration.
Good luck
Love Mollypollyxxxx

mymatebob

I am an all or nothing person as well.

I had a discussion with my doc about when I was being treated for depression and at that time she asked if I thought I would be able to go back to "normal" drinking.
At the time I was off the booze and couldn't see me drinking again - how wrong I was, sadly.

I prefer to do my drinking alone as well as some of the other posters, although I can get drunk in public.
If my OH was ever working away I would get a couple of big bottles of beer, Lowenbrau or similar, nothing less that 5%, a bottle of supermarket rum, two 2 litre bottles of diet pepsi and a bottle of red wine.

In the morning there was usually about half the rum and most of the second bottle of pepsi left.

I would find notes all over the house of things that had happened, like telephone calls, that I had scrawled so that I might better remember them the next day.
I would usually find a few glasses of rum and pepsi as I would put the odd one down and forget where it was.

I could get very sad writing this thinking of all the time I wasted and that which has been lost but I have decided to focus on the future and make it as long and pleasant as possible by not drinking alcohol- ever.

I know some people will be able to be social drinkers but that is just not me and I accept this now and am comfortable with it.

So what ever you are aiming for, good luck and know that you are not alone.

(Jings - that last bit was a bit deep)

fieldofdreams

Thanks MollyPolly!!

Yes reading through these threads there seems to be bucket loads of friendly help and advice!

I just find it really hard going out and not getting completely drunk! Town/city centres on Friday/Saturday nights are not nice places to be if you havent had a few drinks inside you!

I live alone and never have the urge to drink in the house so I guess I'm lucky in that respect

Once the weekend comes though, its a different story!!

Bismarck

mymatebob wrote: »

Bl**dy spammers would drive you to drink!

not me pal....I've got kids that can do that!

Bismarck

shopaholictiedtheknot wrote: »

where is everyone? I am on my last glass of the bottle:o going to bed soon, not even drunk on a whole bottle how bad is that?!!

it's as bad as you think it is....don't go drinking from wineboxes or you'll lose track altogether....I won't tell you about my definition of bad....- it's actually not relevant to your situation anyway....ultimately it's up to you

Bismarck

mollypolly wrote: »

Wow.Hasnt it got busy on here.It takes ages to catch up now.
I totally agree with Bismarck on this.Its all or nothing for me too ,worst luck:rolleyes:
At the beginning of this thread I gave up alcohol for a few weeks and then had a glass of wine one night.I thought I was so clever as I could control myself.Two days later,went on holiday and was back to square one.Too much to drink most nights,up in the night feeling ill and not remembering most of the evening/night the next day.Headaches and feeling sick all next day.
I came back and thought...No More!!
I havn't drunk alcohol for 13 WEEKS today, and each time I am tempted I try to remember how ill I felt on holiday.This soon puts me off.
I really wish I could be middle of the road but I cant.So heres to a lifetime of abstinence:beer:

Good luck to you all.Have a great evening.
Love Mollypollyxxxx:happylove :happylove

indeedy:beer:, mine's an amber frothy coffee too!

jo1972

mollypolly wrote: »

I really wish I could be middle of the road but I cant.So heres to a lifetime of abstinence:beer:

Does this thought excite you now? I'm hoping that once you get past the bit where it scares the bejayuz out of you, it might be something to look forward to?

xx

Bismarck

jo1972 wrote: »

Does this thought excite you now? I'm hoping that once you get past the bit where it scares the bejayuz out of you, it might be something to look forward to?

xx

I don't think excite is the right word for it...more of an understanding of where you are....you don't have the uncertainty of where you'll get the drink from, where it will go, how much it will cost or how to dispose of the empties.

I used to want to stop every day and thought "right, once this is gone, that's it....." and I'd be OK for a few hours then I'd get jittery about restocking, fearing that I couldn't possibly last the night without...

I suppose you can look forward to being more in control and having a clear head in more ways than one...one of the toughest parts is stopping it whirring round when you should be sleeping....someone else touched on this a while ago but it comes with time.

Another reason I used to have for drinking was that I felt I couldn't relax without one....OK I'm still a bit manic and don't turn off easily but that's a new skill in itself...the whole process is partly a retraining exercise...and some habits simply have to go and new ones learned...