The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread!

SamanthaA

5/31 days.
Fell off on Friday, with a bump! - stressed couple of days at work.

I fell off last night too, but not counting that as I opened can, drank some & poured it away, really didn`t want it once it was there!


So thats a win for me.
Just the rest of month to do!

Cornishpixie_2

I'm pretty convinced now that I need to go down the abstaining route. I have an old friend who lives away, but is having her Hen night soon. I didn't want to go, but I decided last night when she txts/ rings re arrangements, I'm just going to tell her from the off that I have stopped drinking but will still go. She's invited the whole family to the Wedding. Complete madness. I guess at times you just want to fit in.(if that makes sense). Good luck everyone x

mollypolly

jo1972 wrote: »

Does this thought excite you now? I'm hoping that once you get past the bit where it scares the bejayuz out of you, it might be something to look forward to?

xx

Morning everyone,
As Bismarck says 'Excite isnt quite the right word'But I do now look forward to the rest of my life knowing(hoping) that I dont need to drink anymore.
I was looking back at reasons why I started on the rocky road last night and the first time I hit the bottle hard was when I lost my first DH and was left alone with DD1 as a baby.I think most of lifes really bad times are caused by the death of a close one and was thinking ..(morbid really but )would I be able to cope without a drink if one of my family died now.
Answer..I honestly dont know but.....it is exciting facing any of lifes smaller
challenges each day and going to bed with a smile that says...I beat them today .
Bit of a ramble..Sorry:(

Love Mollypollyxxxx

Bismarck

good post, Molly...

each day is a small victory in a long war that isn't there to be won...it's just one that I can't afford to lose....

I was in a mood last night about having to start getting fit and trying to transfer some of the thought processes from this to losing weight and inches on my waistline...trouble is as Mrs Bis said, it's not like I can ban food from the house and with the kids it's not fair that we can't have biscuits and sweet nibbles just because I can't trust myself with them....

So, if you guys are battling hard on the liquid stuff, I'll move onto cutting down on the solids!

elantan

i happened to have some unwanted visitors staying with me for the week and managed not to kill them or myself but most importantly i managed it without alcohol i nearly had a drink a good few times but i kept thinking i wasnt going to let them dictate to me when i needed a drink so i just kept disappearing to the toilet for 10 mins and trying to meditate ...it mustve worked ...phew ...i think i am a long way away from saying i dont drink anymore but the finish line now seems that bit more real and closer ...good luck everyone

mollypolly

elantan wrote: »

i happened to have some unwanted visitors staying with me for the week and managed not to kill them or myself but most importantly i managed it without alcohol i nearly had a drink a good few times but i kept thinking i wasnt going to let them dictate to me when i needed a drink so i just kept disappearing to the toilet for 10 mins and trying to meditate ...it mustve worked ...phew ...i think i am a long way away from saying i dont drink anymore but the finish line now seems that bit more real and closer ...good luck everyone

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Well done.I would have found that quite a challenge too!!!!

eselt

Hi All

Jo- I'm not sure if abstinance is such a scary thing...the benefits are just too good. After 7 months of not drinking I'm enjoying food again, I've got the energy levels of a teenager, my skin, nails and hair are glowing with health, I can think, reason and problem solve, I've got more money, I'm not irritable and nasty with people, depression has disappeared. I've had 3 relapses in 7 months (lasting no more than a couple of days) and when I woke up feeling terrible, I couldn't believe that I must have felt like this everyday and just got used to it- can't believe I put myself (psychologically and physically) through that.

Downside of abstinance for me has been having to face social situations feeling nervous and edgy, turning down drinks and finding it hard to come up with an excuse (if people really push I just say, "I'm an alcoholic-I'm not drinking today"), trying to find ways of 'treating' myself at the end of a stressful day....oh and sleep, thats been the one thing that I am still having big probs with.

Best of luck everyone this week-Jackie

winebox

jo1972 wrote: »

I hope I didn't upset you WB, that was definately not my intention,
Enjoy the weekend

No worries Jo - you'll have to go a lot further than that!!

Am just trying to catch up from midday Sat - loads of posts!

winebox

eselt wrote: »

Hi All

Winebox- you say you want to cut down to where you were 10 yrs ago- watch out for the 'creeping' nature of drink problems, it took me over 20 yrs to get myself into a state, 10 yrs ago I was a heavy social drinker too, but it just crept up on me, and the whole relationship with alcohol changed- basically I love the stuff/hate the stuff/miss it/miss the effect/miss the confidence it gave me-it was such a huge part of my life- but in the end I ended up a full blown alcoholic, and I still can't work out how that happened and the exact point I crossed the line.

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Yes that's sort of what's happened already though I still don't regard myself as an alcoholic, but rather a problem drinker. Very fine line, very thin ice!! Contentious viewpoint. Depending on how I do over next few weeks, cos this is the first time I have really tried to deal with it, I may be forced to revise my opinion.....

winebox

Molly WELL DONE. You should be proud, it's not big-headed at all. 1/4 of a year!