The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread!

jo1972

beachbeth wrote: »

Im just about managing to abstain from alcohol during the week and just having a few at the weekend. I was a bit stressed last Thursday though and so had some that night too. I felt a bit too guilty about it to come on here then!

How did it go with your husband, jo1972? Hope he doesn't mind going out on his own.

(I keep popping on here and finding that no one else is here so I haven't posted either!) Im still around though!

Hmmmmm, it didn't. We had a bit of an argument on Saturday, nothing too major. I know he really wants me to go and I feel bad not going though. Ah well, I'm sure that argument will be some point this evening!

You've hit the nail on the head about being too guilty to post, I've been the same over the past couple of days, I've not stuck to the two as I was meant to but had 4 I think by not posting on here it's like you don't need to own up! Need to get something positive in place for tonight, I'm still dropping down to 1 on Thursday so I have to drink 2 for the next 3 nights, by then my tolerence will be back to just drinking 2 iykwim.

Hope you all have a great day, I'd better get ready for work :eek:

xx

SamanthaA

I fell off & have being running to catch the wagon up!!!

will post the figures later, but not sure I can do the 25/31 days!?!:embarasse

barshamhillbilly

I've given up counting

Might start again today with my hours instead of days

New day ..... Suns out ...... New beginning............ (Again :rotfl:)

Have a great day
Andy

jo1972

Andy, I reckon we need to dig out that Michael Buble link!

barshamhillbilly

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w3BH9hKNPoI&feature=user

jo1972

Sing loud and proud!!

ETA: I do presume that's the youtube MB link? I can't get onto youtube from here cos of local government restrictions. Just occurred to me that you might've provided a link to summat that I didn't want to sing loud and proud!

mollypolly

MORNING ALL,

I'M SINGING.

Love Mollypollyxxxx:happylove

barshamhillbilly

It was Jo - But you sing what ever you want

barshamhillbilly

We are on page 100 now !

eselt

Hi All
Sounds like we are all still battling away!

Jo I think you are right to worry about the wedding-I would feel really nervous about attending and that would mean me convincing myself I needed a few drinks for bravery (new people, being able to talk to people, not feeling self conscious etc.)- and I would probably carry on drinking really aware that OH was looking on with disapproval with a 'there I said you would never be able to keep it together' look on his face. I have been avoiding these sort of get togethers, particulalry family ones as I am very conscious that 'everyboby knows' I have a drink problem and I feel very paranoid and that people are watching me very carefully to see if I slip!!! If you really want to go why don't you drive, then you have a straightforward 'excuse' not to drink, and you can leave early if you like and get back to the kids and not have to stay overnight-the fact you have to return home could be just the motivation you need to avoid having a few. I know what I would probably do if I attended this and stayed overnight- start with best intentions, have a few for dutch courage to face it, carry on drinking to be 'polite', keep drinking, make a fool of myself, have a drunken row with OH, storm off and carry on drinking, clear out the mini bar, wake up in the morning feeling rough, full of guilt and shame, unable to eat, worried about the kids at home, apologise to OH and any one else I have upset, go home and sob because of all the money I have spent which I couldn't afford, have another drink ....I think I would just stay away, miserable and feeling really neglected and bored on a saturday night, but hey its only a few hours and its great to wake up on a sunday fresh and ready for the day!!!! :j

You mentioned things like xmas and new year etc, and yes I found it impossible not to get caught up in the 'oh well it is christmas so I can have a couple...' debate with myself but if you think about it you can always find a good excuse to have a drink (big gas bill, bad day at work, the weekend, your birthday etc) and there will always be an event or occasion where you can justify yourself having a drink, so it never goes away. This year I just stayed away from all the celebrations because I find it so difficult to be around people who are drinking or drunk when I am sober, as I really do miss it, but next year I'm going to be out and about, probably using 'driving' as an excuse.

Try not to beat yourself up about relapses...very very few people are able to just stop and never drink again, I don't know if I will ever drink again, I can't guarantee I won't and I think about having a drink everyday, but as I get fitter and my mind back I seem to be getting stronger and more able to resist. As long as you think you are going forward more often than you are going backward you are on the right track.

Best of luck with the battle everyone, just keep at it!!!!