The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread!

barshamhillbilly

Jo - tell him to go on his own

BHB

barshamhillbilly

I saw the doctor yesterday. He said keep taking the AD's as they seem to be working - I had to agree. They definitely are and feel much better and more relaxed.
Unfortunately they don't have an alternative counseller in the surgery, but he is going to investigate to see what he can come up with.

He basically told me yesterday it was all or nothing - ie drink or not drink anything and he would obviously advise the latter.

I have started drinking again and have fallen off and couldn't climb back on! - It's much much less than it was and am aiming to keep it to 3 units max per day for a week or two and none if I can manage it.

I have decided to go for the same route as Jo and reduce slowly over a month or so rather than trying to just stop again as It just doesn't work like that when mrs BHB is sipping the wine beside me.

Hope every has a great weekend - Now about to throw Mrs BHB in the pool as she is refusing to come in with me and the kids! I even put the heater on for her last night so the water is nice and warm - well its not got ice on it

BHB

Bismarck

jo1972 wrote: »

Bismarck, the day is so long when your sober isn't it!

you make it sound like a penance! I've got "me" time without taking it from anyone else!

Feel a bit down today, had a conversation with OH last night which upset me. We are meant to be going to a wedding reception next Saturday for one of his mates, I don't know anyone at all apart from OH and really am not looking forward to it.

I can see why....

It's absolutely miles away in the country and I have said that I won't drive there as I've no idea where I'm going and refuse to drive back in the dark from the middle of nowhere. He said we should stay the night then (it's in a hotel place)

:eek:....HOW MUCH A NIGHT?

but I 1) don't want to pay the money out for the room and 2) don't want to leave my eldest in charge of the other two all night long and be so far away incase something happens. So we were debating how to get there and I said I will only be able to have 1 drink by then anyway cos I'll be down to my 1 can a day by next Sat (:eek:) and then be abstinent by the following Thursday. He said 'well we know that's not gonna happen don't we'. I asked why and he said 'well you've never managed it before so it's not gonna work'. I just got up and walked out saying thanks for your support. He apologised for being insensitive half hour later when I came back into the room (he didn't come find me to apologise), but I really don't think he knows why he's apologising, I think he honestly believes that I'm gonna fail.


Suspect there's a lot of fear in there....he hopes you will but fears disappointment....aren't men useless at keeping quiet when they should say stuff and coming out with unhelpful comments...

He really knocked my confidence. I know what the counsellor would say to me right now about I'm not doing it for him but me and if I carry on drinking I'll stay in this frame of mind forever etc etc, it was just not very nice to hear. When I told him I was going to the counsellor again he said I didn't need a stranger to help me, he's all the support I needed. Some support huh?

Hmm

xx

as BHB says, don't go...there are some things that I can't do and I don't want to do...if he wants to go let him and he can figure his only way there and budget accordingly....he may even want to be nice to you to act as a taxi....

beachbeth

I agree with the others and not go. He can tell people you are unwell if he needs to make an excuse or that you are looking after a sick relative or something. I know exactly what you mean about the driving. I hate driving in the dark, hate driving on roads I don't know and hate driving late at night - so all three rolled into one is a nightmare!:eek:

As you don't know anyone and they will probably be mostly drinking, then they will just be more irritating when they're drunk too. I can't stand being made to go to these sort of functions when I don't want to and just refuse nowadays.

You keep on your reduction routine. Never mind what OH says - they can be so insensitive sometimes!

jo1972

Thanks for all your replies and support

I'm gonna talk to OH tonight about the do next week, he won't be pleased about going by himself as 'everyone' is taking a partner....ah well....

xx

ltm07

ltm07 wrote: »

Hello all again! Well only had one can last night & just going to have the one tonight(I can't say no,can I:rolleyes: ). Feeling tired as started to put in some extra hours at work so another early night for me! Mate out of the Navy is coming up from Plymouth tomorrow to see his family & is going to pop around so may nip to local & just have a couple as he is driving. So including the can that I am drinking now I have consumed 23.4/90 units so far this month.

Hi all. Well the counting of units has gone out of the window for me this month:o :rolleyes: ! Had 6 pints on Wednesday afternoon & about 15 cans Thursday,Friday & yesterday, yesterday being the most that I drank as I had a pint at dinner time & 8 cans between 730pm & 1am & after the 5th can I knew that I as only going to drink more for the sake of it but I was getting too p!ssed to care! Don't think that I'll be drinking later as still feel rough from last night + I am giving OH a lift to work at 730pm. Hope everyone else is ok.

mollypolly

Hi everyone.
Just checking in to see if you are all ok.

WHERE ARE YOU ALL.

Hope this silence doesn't mean you have all fell too far off the wagon.

Ten weeks for me today, but I cant go on without you.

Please come back.I miss all the banter/advice/support.
Love Mollypollyxxxx:happylove

barshamhillbilly

mollypolly wrote: »

Hope this silence doesn't mean you have all fell too far off the wagon

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Ooops ..... yes .....but will be climbing back on real soon

You are doing a fantastic Job Mollypolly - wish I had the gumption to stick with it. Hopefully will get that willpower back soon!

Best Wishes
BHB

tomstickland

I went to the doctors last week and could honestly say that I drank less than 24 units per week. A first for me.

beachbeth

Im just about managing to abstain from alcohol during the week and just having a few at the weekend. I was a bit stressed last Thursday though and so had some that night too. I felt a bit too guilty about it to come on here then!

How did it go with your husband, jo1972? Hope he doesn't mind going out on his own.

(I keep popping on here and finding that no one else is here so I haven't posted either!) Im still around though!