The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread!

barshamhillbilly

Just a little reminder for my own benefit :

• Did not enjoy at all ....don't know why I even drank it
• Would much rather of had fizzy water and a slice of lemon ...in retrospect
• didn't like mrs BHB's wine at all .....tried a sip
• now feeling a plonker
• feel dizzy
• have a headache ...instantly almost
• DON'T DO IT AGAIN!

:D:D:D:D:D:D

shopaholictiedtheknot

Hi everyone, well, I am finally back on the thread, as some of you will know I suffered a miscarriage mid-April which was very traumatic as you can imagine, anyway, it has only just come to an end and I have to admit to having completely gone OTT with the alcohol whilst it has been happening:o

I really want to cut down again, I have started to get side-effects again, dry mouth, palpitations, indigestion etc... and generally feeling very guilty about the amount of drink I am consuming (especially since the units adverts have appeared!) OH and I are going to start trying to concieve again once I have had my next period (sorry if TMI :rolleyes: ) so it is really important for us both to cut down and get as healthy as possible.

So it is with head hanging with shame and tail between my legs that I re-join you all, hope you are all ok, I am going to start reading back through all the posts I have missed!

barshamhillbilly

Hi Shopaholic
Welcome back ....

Sorry to hear about your troubles in April.
We are all behind you .... this is THE place to be !

Since you were last here we've all had some ups and downs as you will see as you read back .... except of course Mollypolly who is an absolute star and doing really well. :T:T

Its tough going sometimes but I'm sure we will all get there in the end.
Good luck with the new start, I hope you can conquer it.
Best Wishes
BHB

shopaholictiedtheknot

mollypolly wrote: »

Morning all.
Re.Allen Carrs book 'No More Hangovers'.Its a great little book, not heavy at all.Only took me about 2 hours to read and Then I have read it again and again:rolleyes: .
It really reminds me of where I want to be (And dont want to be:rotfl: )

Good luck for today everyone.Love Mollypollyxxxx

Hi Mollypolly, following your success I have just ordered this book from Amazon for only 56p + £2.75 Postage and packing - bargain! Hope I can follow in your footsteps

Bismarck

Hi everyone,

As I do sometimes, I idly ponder and daydream and I was toying with the phrase "giving up drinking"...I'm rehashing some old ground from the books that have been mentioned earlier but the inference is that you're going without something that you deem is worthwhile that you will miss or that it is some kind of punishment.

I've found it much easier to deal with just by saying "I am choosing not to drink"....I physically can drink and I wouldn't expire as a result - I never got to that point and I've never seen a doctor regarding drinking. I just knew I wanted to stop because it was making everything worse. I was on the wrong train heading in the wrong direction and I knew I had to get off....the problem was the seat was quite comfy and I'd got used to it and some of the fellow passengers were good company.

This brought me on to another topic...blame....

How many times have you thought that you drink/ drink more than you'd like/ because of someone or something....? It is amazing now that a person can think of so many reasons to justify drinking..I used to stupidly let myself believe that beer was my fuel and my reward for working hard...and dealing with stress.

Yes, life deals some rough cards sometimes, but I've figured out that I can deal with my hand far better when my heads not reeling from a self-induced haze.

Good luck everyone -set the goals that will make you happy and take it a day at a time..soon you'll get to the point where you've lost track of the days....

mollypolly

Hello Everyone.
Hope you all had a good weekend.
I have just wrote a deep and long essay to you all about myself and lost the lot.:o .Will do it again another day.
So......
Well done BHB for feeling that you are in control of your situation,although thats how I felt when I gave up before and then ended up back at the bottom of the slippery slope.
Sadly it really does seem to be All or nothing for me:mad:

I am off work this week with DH, trying to do some gardening.I wish the sun would shine!!!!
I keep getting that 'could just drink a glass of wine' feeling so must be extra strong.(Its one of those SITUATIONS, I suppose.)
Well done Samantha and Jlynncsf.:T

Welcome back Shopaholictiedtheknot.No need to hang your head,just jump back on this wagon when you're ready.

Bismarck.I love your ponderings.

Jo.I hope you are ok.:wave:

See you all later.
Love Mollypolly:happylove

Bismarck

mollypolly wrote: »

I have just wrote a deep and long essay to you all about myself and lost the lot.:o

I know the feeling..the second version is usually better!

I've learnt to do a ctrl/c to copy the post before something happens as if it's a "good one", it's heart-breaking to have to re-do it...I do sympathise!

I turned down a chocolate hob nob just now...I'm getting the hang of this "body is a temple" lark...more like a disused barn at the moment but I've got planning permission and a limited budget....;)

barshamhillbilly

I have just chosen not to drink ..... but I did choose to eat a cadbury's caramel !

SamanthaA

Last night, about 7pm I really, really wanted a drink, none in house, so wanted an excuse to pop to offy.
About 8pm, DS wanted sweets, good excuse I thought!
Got to offy, DS got what he wanted, and we`d already agreed I could have 2 cans. Looked in beer fridge, didn`t fancy any! Looked in other fridges, didn`t want anything!

Walked out of offy with a giant oat cookie - a biscuit!!

I was SOOOOO impressed!

day 21/31 (day 11 straight - I think!)
stella day 25 (going this wkend, contribution to that birthday party!)

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thats not just for me, but everyone!

jo1972

Wow well done Samantha! Usually in my experience, when I've decided I'm going to the offy to get beer then the seed is well and truely planted and there is no changing my mind! You are amazing, I hope you enjoyed your cookie, I bet your DS was really proud

xx