Ungrateful people who dont say thanks

MyUserNamesTaken

It doesn't matter whether Shrek's posts helped. Fact of the matter is that he tried to help. This alone should have wanted some gratitude.


Shrek, have a thanks on me for at least trying to help that poster.

shrek101

AussieLass wrote:

But why start a new thread on the injustice of it all? If you felt the other person was in the wrong wouldn't it be the decent thing to PM he/she and say your gripe to them personally then publicy say so. How awful for him/her.That to me is more of a lack of curtesy than not pressing a thanks button. :rolleyes:

I wouldn't say its awful to ask for thanks and it wasn't just aimed at me, unfortunately that post was deleted. I never asked for thanks before and TBH I don't always care. I put a great deal of effort in my replies in that thread, is it so hard that the user at least say thanks? There reply to me asking for acknowledgement was rude. I was quiet shocked to be honest, that why I posted this. They then came on here and insulted me. Now I never insulted them at all. I can understand why they may be slightly annoyed at this post, who wouldn't be. But so was I for the way they responded to my post.

shrek101

I can understand where your coming from. There are numerours posts in the money savers arms where there just chit caht and yet thanks is giving. Now I said before I wont go into the rights and wrongs of that. But surely a reply in good faith deserved a thanks. I think the thanks button is so easy to click on. If it was me and someone replied giving good advice whether it was useful for them or not, I would say thanks.

surfcat wrote:

Mountains out of molehills spring to mind.... I can only think that MDUK didn't understand/find the advice helpful. To actually ask for thanks rather defeats the point.

AussieLass

Now I'm confused. I haven't "thanked" anybody in this thread. Simply because to me we are all "chatting". Nobody has asked any questions and nobody has given any advice. This is a forum tossing around opinions. Does this classify me as a "cow" for not pressing the thanks button because I've just noticed I've been thanked a few times. :eek: Should I press or should I not???

shrek101

No thanks isn't expect but if an individual wants to thank someone then that's up to them. I do think someone who goves advice does deserve a thanks, but personnely if someone gone to the trouble to give advice like that then I would actually post a thanks.

AussieLass wrote:

Now I'm confused. I haven't "thanked" anybody in this thread. Simply because to me we are all "chatting". Nobody has asked any questions and nobody has given any advice. This is a forum tossing around opinions. Does this classify me as a "cow" for not pressing the thanks button because I've just noticed I've been thanked a few times. :eek: Should I press or should I not???

Carmen

Well, I think I may be guilty of this at times. Appoliges to all I may not have thanked and a special thank you to Shrek for posting this as a reminder!
Carmen x

shrek101

Thanks. Its posts like this when I helped a fellow user which pre-dates apart from last post even though there was not a thanks button clicked they thank me

http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.html?p=721434#post721434

I have helped several people today as I do most days. But I despise ungrateful people. I am holding back what I would love to say.

I rather have a thank you which takes more work then click. I am half mind to stop contributing its against my principles but I really do hate ungrateful people particularly when they get abusive and nasty.

payless

Hard one

I was the person that was actually thanked in the original thread-

Perhaps in some ways the case highlighted http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.html?t=74768 was not the best to highlight your "cause" -The way I see it - whilst you did share some very valuable knowledge , perhaps your posts were not fully directed at the question asked.

Then actually asking for a thanks ( posts now deleted) - not sure if thats the correct etiquette ( although must admit if I hold a door open for someone , who then does not say thank you, I always say it for them !)

I like getting thank you's ( either clicked or posted) but again they do seem to get thrown around a bit in certain parts of this site amongst certain people, and perhaps some people see them as devalued ( although suppose nothing to stop them posting/ PM in these cases- although believe "The Thanks button" was introduced to avoid the need for more posts

the_big_lebowski

My opinion: They should have thanked you shrek, particularly in light of your numerous postings which were above and beyond the call of duty

My comment: I can't imagine what it's like to be so sensitive that recieving or not recieiving thanks makes a blind bit of difference to my day one way or the other

shrek101

Its not about being sensitive, its about being treated with gratitude by the OP because of the actions of someone who is trying to help. I am sadly, now decided to not give advice on the tech forum because of the actions of one person who is abusive and arrogant. I mealy asked in the orginal post to be thanked, look at my post count, and if you check my posts I never once asked for thanks. I felt that the user was ungrateful but I gave them the benefit of the doubt thinking in there haste that they may have forgotten. When I asked for myself and others to be thanked, I stated that I wasn't being funny, they became hostile towards me, and in this thread abusive.

I wont add anymore to this debate. Thanks for replying