Please Help My Sister Needs Housing!!

bandraoi

Given that it's the middle of February now, when does the Father's college year finish?

I think the best might be to work out a timetable for moving out.
At this stage he might as well finish out the year, and then take a year out next year.
Until his exams are done he can work/save and study as can your sister if she begins part time work.

From that they can save up a deposit and move into private rented.
Your Father will have a definite end date in mind, as will your sister and bf.
The bf can rejoin education in a year or two when the baby is a bit older and can go to nursery.

Running_Horse

Addy1 wrote: »

And maybe the best thing he could do for his child is to get an excellent education.
As someone who is coming to the end of 6 years at medical school I know the doors education opens up. It has been proven that people with parents of a higher education level go on to perform better themselves and in the long term he will have a better earnings potential. I would rather my child see a good work ethic with ambition from me than see my scraping by in a dead end job.

Good luck to them both, I hope they get the housing problem sorted soon, I am sure they are excellent parents no matter what people on here say.

I got my university education part time while working full time, while "scraping by in a dead end job" as you put it. I could earn more long term following a graduate career, but have a daughter and mortgage to support, today. It would never occur to me to ask the taxpayer to provide a home and income, or become a parent without the ability to support a child. But those are the decisions we make in life; some are good, some are bad and have consequences. Nobody is forced to create a baby they cannot support.

Addy1

I have worked part time since I was 16 (8 years ago) and have supported myself entirely through my 6 year FULL TIME degree and am therefore well aware of the realities of life in dead end jobs, thanks.

Another thing a medical degree teaches you is that all methods of contraception have failure rates apart from abstinence. There but for the grace of god.....

Regardless of your opinion, this baby is here now and it is not going to go away, I just believe that the father should consider his education to be a valuable part of providing for his young family.
The mother and father should both be working in my opinion, but there are huge grants to be had for parents at university/college these days and I just hope they both reach their full potential in terms of education.

Mrs_pbradley936

On a practical level if your council is like most that baby will have left school by the time they are offered a home! If the really want to live together then private renting would see that happening within a few weeks BUT they will need some cash for reference checks and a deposit as well as for the rent. If they are entitled to Housing Benefit that needs to be sorted out as well. In my area (40 miles North East of London) one bed furnished flats are around £600 and two beds around £700 per month. Furnished means bed(s), table and chairs, cooker, fridge. I wish them well.

squinty

Hello, first post so be kind to me !!

Some of the advice and comments about local authorities is unhelpful and not true. In reality the availability of social housing changes from authority to authority, and often across different areas of the same authority, and between property types. Its to do with supply and demand.

Many authorities have changed the way they work - where in the past the role was one of gate-keeping, and controlling access to council housing. Now the service is more about 'Housing Options' work - ie looking at a range of possible options ith each person. These options may include private renting (with or without a rent deposit) - private sector leasing (ie the council lease the property, and then in turn let to people) - advice on home ownership / shared ownership - and access to social rented (often their is one common waiting list for council and housing association properties in an area). Many authorities also offer other services that may help the situation at home - for example mediation services.

It is probably worth while contacting the local council to see if they have a housing advice service.

Good luck

Bluebelle72

Addy1 wrote: »

And maybe the best thing he could do for his child is to get an excellent education.
As someone who is coming to the end of 6 years at medical school I know the doors education opens up. It has been proven that people with parents of a higher education level go on to perform better themselves and in the long term he will have a better earnings potential. I would rather my child see a good work ethic with ambition from me than see my scraping by in a dead end job.

Good luck to them both, I hope they get the housing problem sorted soon, I am sure they are excellent parents no matter what people on here say.

Thank you very much Addy. That was very kind of you to say so.

Bluebelle72

Phirefly wrote: »

You've not spent a great deal of time in the world of MSE House Buying, Renting, Selling & Prices have you?!

No Phirefly I haven't!! And to be honest I wish I hadn't, I feel awful now. Perhaps we should have kept it to ourselves. People can be quite cruel. Although a big big thank you to those who have offered constructive advice and support :beer:

Bluebelle72

My sister is 24 years old she is a qualified driving instructer and she was in private rented with her bf until the LL decided he wanted the house back at the end of the 6 months term she was pregnant before that, so it's not as if she got pg while still at our mom and dads. She wil be going back to work when baby is 7 months old, I will be looking after him. At the moment she is not practising the driving instructing as it wasn't for her, she is a shift manager at a fast food restaurant and on maternity leave at the moment.

Bluebelle72

MadSebW wrote: »

I feel sorry for your parents who have already raised their children and are now going through that again with grandchildren. Unfortunately things havent been the way they should be and the circumstances of your sister won't be pleasant for a while.

A debatable stance here, I believe that if you have children then you obviously accept the fact that there will be ups and downs in their lives and be there for them no matter what. A parents JOB with their children never stops until death. You must be prepared for anything and just be there for them.

silvercar

Your father can hardly complain if he lived with family when you were little.