Please Help My Sister Needs Housing!!

Bluebelle72

silvercar wrote: »

Your father can hardly complain if he lived with family when you were little.

exactly my point silvercar thanks. :beer:

bandraoi

Can I suggest something else?

I know you want to help and to ease tensions within your family, but maybe you should take a step back and let your sister and her boyfriend take responsibility.

They've had 9 months before this baby was born, when they knew that they would need to sort living accomodation and viable financial support for this child and it would seem that they haven't done so.

They have a baby to look after and take responsibility for, and that includes providing for it and themselves. They need to learn that responsibility, and if you do it for them, no matter with what good intentions, than they won't learn.

Let them come on this forum and ask, let them ring the housing office etc.
They need to learn how to stand on her own two feet. By all means make suggestions for where to look for information/support, but don't do it for them.

Bluebelle72

bandraoi wrote: »

Can I suggest something else?

I know you want to help and to ease tensions within your family, but maybe you should take a step back and let your sister and her boyfriend take responsibility.

They've had 9 months before this baby was born, when they knew that they would need to sort living accomodation and viable financial support for this child and it would seem that they haven't done so.

They have a baby to look after and take responsibility for, and that includes providing for it and themselves. They need to learn that responsibility, and if you do it for them, no matter with what good intentions, than they won't learn.

Let them come on this forum and ask, let them ring the housing office etc.
They need to learn how to stand on her own two feet. By all means make suggestions for where to look for information/support, but don't do it for them.

yes bandraoi i have. all i have done is ask this one question just to see if anyone had any ideas that's all. at the end of the day they are the ones that need to do all the work.

Kasha

Hi Bluebelle,

Don't you wish you were as perfect as some of the people on here?;) people in glass houses comes to mind:rotfl: I bet you wish you hadn't asked the question now:D I can't offer much advice appart from try as many housing associations as you can think of and then mither the life out of them.....It worked for me;) but that was some 18yrs ago. Good luck to your sister, I'm sure she will make it having her big sister looking out for her :A

neverdespairgirl

How old is your sister, and her boyfriend? Was your sister working before the baby was born, and does she intend to go back?

Social housing might well be difficult, but they can look into housing benefit and private rented housing, perhaps?

rs82uk

As Others have said., the father should stop studying get a full time job and provide for his child.
Why should taxpayers pay for his child, I know this sounds harsh my sister in law and her husband were the same, they were both at college in thier 20s had two kids got a house supplied to them, they finish thier college courses and are now on half decent wage get to keep the house at cut down rent of £300 a month while the rest of us poor schmucks have to pay full going rate for everything.

MrsE_2

Kasha wrote: »

Hi Bluebelle,

Don't you wish you were as perfect as some of the people on here?;) people in glass houses comes to mind:rotfl: I bet you wish you hadn't asked the question now:D I can't offer much advice appart from try as many housing associations as you can think of and then mither the life out of them.....It worked for me;) but that was some 18yrs ago. Good luck to your sister, I'm sure she will make it having her big sister looking out for her :A

Exactly

After all, what or who is council housing for?

Ms_Piggy_2

Bluebelle72 wrote: »

A debatable stance here, I believe that if you have children then you obviously accept the fact that there will be ups and downs in their lives and be there for them no matter what. A parents JOB with their children never stops until death. You must be prepared for anything and just be there for them.

Or you could take the tack that actually it's a parent's job to teach their children about consequences and responsibility. I'm an ADULT therefore I would not expect my parents to clear up my messes.

LittleMissAspie

Bluebelle72 wrote: »

My sister is 24 years old she is a qualified driving instructer and she was in private rented with her bf until the LL decided he wanted the house back at the end of the 6 months term she was pregnant before that, so it's not as if she got pg while still at our mom and dads. She wil be going back to work when baby is 7 months old, I will be looking after him. At the moment she is not practising the driving instructing as it wasn't for her, she is a shift manager at a fast food restaurant and on maternity leave at the moment.

Well then I don't see the problem. If the LL hadn't wanted his house back, presumably they would still be renting there with the baby. So why can't they just find another place to rent? Especially as she won't even need to pay for childcare, which is a big saving.

MrsE wrote: »

After all, what or who is council housing for?

Not for people who are perfectly capable of paying their own way, which these two seem to be. The first post made it sound like they were just out of school but they are grown adults with skills and jobs, a managerial job no less.

Fran

LittleMissAspie wrote: »

Well then I don't see the problem. If the LL hadn't wanted his house back, presumably they would still be renting there with the baby. So why can't they just find another place to rent? ....The first post made it sound like they were just out of school but they are grown adults with skills and jobs, a managerial job no less.

The OP is the sister and it's great that she is trying to help her. As she says, she knows how they feel.

It's not easy to "just get somewhere else to rent" and added to that a baby is very distracting and makes it even harder. Add to that the fact that neither partner is "welcome" in the other's parents house, it's a difficult situation.

Bluebelle72 wrote: »

Can I please add that whilst all your comments, guidance etc, are greatfully appreciated it would help us immensley if people wouldn't judge us, I am simply asking for help, we both know and are living /have lived, the mistakes we have made and we are learning from them thank you. I asked the question on here as I assumed I would get simple advice not judgement on us. Please try to just advise. Thank you all again for taking the time to read this. :beer: