Please Help My Sister Needs Housing!!

LittleMissAspie

Fran wrote: »

The OP is the sister and it's great that she is trying to help her. As she says, she knows how they feel.

It's not easy to "just get somewhere else to rent" and added to that a baby is very distracting and makes it even harder. Add to that the fact that neither partner is "welcome" in the other's parents house, it's a difficult situation.

I know the OP is the sister.

I am a renter too so I know it takes a while to find somewhere that could feel like home. At least they won't have to keep booking time off work to attend viewings. The baby will make things harder wherever they are moving too, private or Council. Besides, being shifted around temporary Council accommodation is more upheaval than moving once into a rented place, surely?

No need to quote your second bit. That was my simple advice - to carry on what they were doing before.

Bluebelle72

It's been a while since I checked back to these messages and I must say a big thank you to Fran for the supportive replies. and to update on my sisters situation, she and boyfriend and baby are now in their private rented flat and are in a much better position. Thanks all for the advice.... well almost all anyway LOL XXXXX

RHemmings

prestonlass wrote: »

please don't be so harsh on your dad, I can quite understand that at a time in his life when his own children have grown up that being landed with a baby in the house can be a realy pain. It's hard enough coping with your own baby crying, especially during the night. I don't think he is being unreasonable in feeling that you should set up a home before having a family. If your sister saw his attitude with you, what on earth made her think that he would be any different with her?
Sorry to sound unsympathetic but I considered it my responsibility to ensure that I could house, feed and clothe a baby before I had one. I would never have expected my parents or working tax payers to take on that responsibility for me.

If when I'm older, a child of mine moved back into my house with a baby, you wouldn't see me complaining.

TTMCMschine

This is why she cant get housing:

http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.html?t=1004509

WillowCat

Bluebelle72 wrote: »

It's been a while since I checked back to these messages and I must say a big thank you to Fran for the supportive replies. and to update on my sisters situation, she and boyfriend and baby are now in their private rented flat and are in a much better position. Thanks all for the advice.... well almost all anyway LOL XXXXX

Really pleased they got sorted! :j :j :j

neverdespairgirl

Bluebelle72 wrote: »

she and boyfriend and baby are now in their private rented flat and are in a much better position.

Glad she's found a place!

kunekune

You're up late, neverdespairgirl!

I'm glad this had a good ending. But I read the whole thread with disbelief at the prejudice of so many posters, and despair at how fast they jumped to conclusions with minimal evidence. Perhaps OP would have had a better time on her if she had started by saying how old her sister was, that she was employed but on maternity leave, etc, etc, but then, most of the negative posters didn't bother asking, either. It was assumed by an awful lot of people that the pregnancy was unintended/unwanted - there is no evidence of this, the LL decided to move back in after the sister was already pregnant, that could happen to anyone. People just assumed this was a 15 year old, uneducated girl with a layabout boyfriend, who had fallen pregnant either because she thought it would move her up the council list or because she was too stupid to know how to use contraceptives.

Bluebelle72, there are some lovely people here. Please don't be put off!

Bluebelle72

kunekune wrote: »

You're up late, neverdespairgirl!

I'm glad this had a good ending. But I read the whole thread with disbelief at the prejudice of so many posters, and despair at how fast they jumped to conclusions with minimal evidence. Perhaps OP would have had a better time on her if she had started by saying how old her sister was, that she was employed but on maternity leave, etc, etc, but then, most of the negative posters didn't bother asking, either. It was assumed by an awful lot of people that the pregnancy was unintended/unwanted - there is no evidence of this, the LL decided to move back in after the sister was already pregnant, that could happen to anyone. People just assumed this was a 15 year old, uneducated girl with a layabout boyfriend, who had fallen pregnant either because she thought it would move her up the council list or because she was too stupid to know how to use contraceptives.

Bluebelle72, there are some lovely people here. Please don't be put off!

Thank you very much for your empathic views hun, I must admit I really didn't expect the negative views at all, and it has bought to light how ignorant some people can really be. My sister is sorted in her own rented accomodation now and is really very happy now. Thank you to Willowcat and Neverdespairgirl for their well wishes and to others who were just as understanding. It would help some people to keep an open mind when it comes to using their opinions.
Thank you all again. Love Helen XXXXX

neverdespairgirl

kunekune wrote: »

You're up late, neverdespairgirl!

I'm glad this had a good ending. But I read the whole thread with disbelief at the prejudice of so many posters, and despair at how fast they jumped to conclusions with minimal evidence.

I was taking a break from some urgent work

I agree with you, it's great that the OP's sister's family now have their own place, and conclusions weren't half jumped to.