Please Help My Sister Needs Housing!!

Bluebelle72

Hello all, I wondered if anyone could give me some advice for my sister, she recently had a baby boy in december and is still living at home with mom and dad, our dad is a bit of a grumpy bum and is putting pressure on my sister with sly looks and words when baby cries :mad: He did this to me years ago when I had a baby still living at home :mad: :mad: so I know how she feels. She doesn't get on with the baby father's parents and in turn he doesn't get on with our parents so you see he hardly gets to spend any quality time with his child. Can anyone please give us some advice to help her out and to get them their own home so that they can live together as a family? Any advice would be gratefully received from anyone in the know. She has sent an application form off to the local council but wondered is there anything else she can do? She really is at the end of her tether and I fear it is affecting her baby as he is quite unhappy a lot of the time. Please please advise us. Thank you very much for taking the time to read this.

DGJsaver

apply to the council and chase it up

and then advise your own offspring not to get pregnant whilst still living at home

Bluebelle72

hello again DGJsaver how are you

Running_Horse

DGJsaver wrote: »

advise your own offspring not to get pregnant whilst still living at home

Good advice.

DGJsaver

Bluebelle72 wrote: »

hello again DGJsaver how are you

you done those carpets yet...:D

mum2one

The council may not consider her high priotry it depends on the allocastion on rooms as they say a child under 5 can share its parenstbedroom and thats not overcrowding.
She could get her doc /health visitor to write stateing the case to be rehoused, thou in al honestly this doesnt get much consideration
Your sister may have to look into private rentals.
For council accomadtion she hasto be made homeless by your dad and then the council should come up with a hostel place for her andthe baby.

I take it the boyfriend is the babies father, if so he shouldbe doing something re the houseing, it takes 2 to get pregnant, it should take 2 to be responsible re houseing.

prestonlass

please don't be so harsh on your dad, I can quite understand that at a time in his life when his own children have grown up that being landed with a baby in the house can be a realy pain. It's hard enough coping with your own baby crying, especially during the night. I don't think he is being unreasonable in feeling that you should set up a home before having a family. If your sister saw his attitude with you, what on earth made her think that he would be any different with her?
Sorry to sound unsympathetic but I considered it my responsibility to ensure that I could house, feed and clothe a baby before I had one. I would never have expected my parents or working tax payers to take on that responsibility for me.

Bluebelle72

prestonlass wrote: »

please don't be so harsh on your dad, I can quite understand that at a time in his life when his own children have grown up that being landed with a baby in the house can be a realy pain. It's hard enough coping with your own baby crying, especially during the night. I don't think he is being unreasonable in feeling that you should set up a home before having a family. If your sister saw his attitude with you, what on earth made her think that he would be any different with her?
Sorry to sound unsympathetic but I considered it my responsibility to ensure that I could house, feed and clothe a baby before I had one. I would never have expected my parents or working tax payers to take on that responsibility for me.

Thank you for your reply I completely see the situation from my dads point of view, our mom is fully supportive, not wanting to sound abrupt but you don't know my dad and what he can be like. And as for my sister seeing my dads attitude with me, well she was 11 at the time so I guess she wouldn't have noticed that much.

Bluebelle72

Can I please add that whilst all your comments, guidance etc, are greatfully appreciated it would help us immensley if people wouldn't judge us, I am simply asking for help, we both know and are living /have lived, the mistakes we have made and we are learning from them thank you. I asked the question on here as I assumed I would get simple advice not judgement on us. Please try to just advise. Thank you all again for taking the time to read this. :beer:

Bluebelle72

DGJsaver wrote: »

you done those carpets yet...:D

LOL not yet hunny, but will be come the end of March, got loads to do !!!!! :eek:

Bluebelle72

mum2one wrote: »

The council may not consider her high priotry it depends on the allocastion on rooms as they say a child under 5 can share its parenstbedroom and thats not overcrowding.
She could get her doc /health visitor to write stateing the case to be rehoused, thou in al honestly this doesnt get much consideration
Your sister may have to look into private rentals.
For council accomadtion she hasto be made homeless by your dad and then the council should come up with a hostel place for her andthe baby.

I take it the boyfriend is the babies father, if so he shouldbe doing something re the houseing, it takes 2 to get pregnant, it should take 2 to be responsible re houseing.

Thank you for your reply, I did assume that the baby being able to live with his father would be a priority need.