What can i feed the fussiest eater in the world?

VfM4meplse

sb88 wrote: »

I really don't know where he has picked it up from, University I think, his mothers diet is healthy, full of fruit, vegetables etc and his father I'm told also eats a good diet.

How strange! But certainly grounds for a divorce .

sb88_2

VfM4meplse wrote: »

How strange! But certainly grounds for a divorce .

Not Married yet, Next year though! Maybe grounds for not getting married lol

sonastin

Is he fighting back against a childhood of being forced to eat stuff he doesn't like/want? Now he's an adult he's exercising his right to be in charge of his own destiny by eating the cr*p he wasn't allowed as a child. If so, given time he'll probably grow out of it but its certainly worth keeping the pressure on a little so that he doesn't get used to this rubbish.

How about a compromise; once/twice a week he has to eat whatever "healthy" option you stick in front of him without complaint and the rest of the time you'll make him the rubbish he prefers. Never make the healthy day the same day of the week so that he can't get used to the idea of "tuesday is yucky day". That way you can jumble things around until a) you're giving him good stuff more often than boring stuff (and the boring stuff won't be so boring as it won't be all the time!) and b) his tastes might develop towards preferring the other stuff once he gets used to it and weaned off the cr*p again.

building_with_lego

sonastin wrote: »

Is he fighting back against a childhood of being forced to eat stuff he doesn't like/want? Now he's an adult he's exercising his right to be in charge of his own destiny by eating the cr*p he wasn't allowed as a child. If so, given time he'll probably grow out of it but its certainly worth keeping the pressure on a little so that he doesn't get used to this rubbish.

How about a compromise; once/twice a week he has to eat whatever "healthy" option you stick in front of him without complaint and the rest of the time you'll make him the rubbish he prefers. Never make the healthy day the same day of the week so that he can't get used to the idea of "tuesday is yucky day". That way you can jumble things around until a) you're giving him good stuff more often than boring stuff (and the boring stuff won't be so boring as it won't be all the time!) and b) his tastes might develop towards preferring the other stuff once he gets used to it and weaned off the cr*p again.

This jumped out at me. I was very fussy about vegetables as a child, often due to my mum trying to hide them . It wasn't until I learned to cook that I got more adventurous and now will eat almost anything, so long as it's not a fungus or a brassica :rotfl:

Why don't you ask/ tell him that he needs to cook at least once a week? Even if it's beans on toast or a scrambled egg, eventually he'll get bored of heating beans and will (surely) begin to experiment! Explain what you told us in your first post and emphasise that you're trying to budget for the two of you but struggling. I'm sure he will have some ideas- men like to solve problems!:D

maman

I don't agree with pandering to him really but over time you might make compromises.

Asda has beef roasting joints for £6 per kg at the moment. I bought some at Christmas and cut them up into portions for small roasts and pieces for casseroles. At that price it's as cheap as decent quality mince. You could make casseroles or luxury chilli and while I'm not advocating you deprive yourself, you can pad it out with veg and he can just have the bits he likes.

Also Sainsbury's do a very good bag of frozen chicken pieces in their basics range
at £3 for 2.5kg it's very good value and makes great casseroles.

Good Luck.

sb88_2

That's great advice guys, I'm going to be a bit firmer with food, once or twice a week!

I don't deprive myself though, I always have vegetables with my main meal, I buy them, par boil and freeze them if they are suitable in single portion servings.


He often does cook on a saturday when he's off work, but I know he wont get bored of easy food, at University he lived off ready meals, pot noodles and takeaway food. We weren't together as a couple then, just friends, he was underweight then, he's gained about a stone since eating my homecooking! He's never given much thought to his health, I wondered if he has a mild eating disorder, but he does eat.

mummybearx

If he likes ready meals and takeaway food, try and get a cheap copy of the Takeaway Secret book.

That gives you recipes of how to cook takeaway food at home, so it's healthier and cheaper. Maybe that would encourage him to eat different foods?

xx

DundeeDoll

I was thinking along the lines of maman. Chilli made with cheap steak in a slowcooker is very nice. Used to make it with brisket

FatVonD

sb88 wrote: »

He wont eat mince (or anything made from), pork, lamb, the only meats he does really eat is chiken, beef and sometimes turkey.
He wont eat vegetables

He's storing up trouble for himself, could you get him to take a blood test to determine his B12 levels?

My husband won't eat any red meat so, as a family, we've stopped eating it and only really eat chicken. I won't eat anything green and leafy (severe caterpillar phobia, I'll eat other types of vegetables!) and when I had a blood test recently (for something totally unrelated to diet) my B12 levels were so low the doctor thought I had pernicious anaemia. A months course of B12 supplements and a retest and they're now normal so it appears my deficiency was entirely down to my poor diet

Maybe that's the shock your husband needs? It's certainly done it for me!

Horace

I am a fussy eater - I will not eat mushrooms or anything fishy or offal..the thought makes me feel quite sick.

It is easy to get into the habit of eating junk food but it is a habit that can be broken - I got used to eating junk and now I have started to eat more healthily by cooking my own.

My Dad is the ultimate fussy eater - he refused to eat certain foods but when he took me to Spain for my 21st birthday, he was forced to eat things like vermicelli soup (anything with pasta in it - he refused to eat at home) and he had chicken legs (again he refused to eat the dark meat at home). Needless to say I noted what he ate and told Mum when we got home.

As he is now 76 and quite frail he eats very little and moans now about the thickness of any cheese that goes on a sandwich, he moans if the spam is cut too thick, he moans about cold plates at dinner when the same plate has been in the oven and carried to the table with oven gloves. He has developed a taste for chocolate though. Mum always produces a home cooked meal and bakes cakes once a fortnight. There is always fruit in the fruit bowl too which he can help himself to.

At least you know what is in home cooked food as opposed to the ready meals which seem to be laden with E numbers and salt and that awful MSG which is carcinogenic.:eek:

I wouldnt pander to your BF and I think it is a good idea to mix things up a bit so he never knows which day he will get a junk meal treat and which day he will get a healthy nutricious meal.