What can i feed the fussiest eater in the world?

LameWolf

Would it be possible to get him to sit down and do a weekly meal plan? Explain to him the need to budget (you'll need to have a rough idea of the price of groceries in your head to do this, btw) and say that you want to plan the week's meals with budgetting in mind - if you can get him to agree what to have beforehand (hopefully steering him towards healthy options) he can't then whinge about it later.

Fwiw, I always meal plan with my DH - he's got to eat my cooking after all:eek: - because I need help with some of the preparation, so we plan for him to prep veggies the night before and leave them in water, and do more "complicated" dishes when he's working from home and can spare a few minutes to help me.

But it does mean he has some input into deciding what we eat, and he always clears his plate.:o

euronorris

Slinky_Malinky wrote: »

Why not ask MIL what she used to feed him before he went to uni? How can he possibly refuse to eat food just like mum made?

Depends on what his Mum used to feed him. I was very fussy when I was younger, right up to my early twenties. My Mum gave up on trying to get me to try new things, and eat healthily a long, long time ago. So, my meals at home were things like tinned spaghetti with bread and butter, or sausage & chips, burgers, or beans on toast.

I've had to work long and hard to change my eating habits, try new things (more than once!) and give myself a healthy diet. It's an ongoing process.

I wanted to do it for me though. I got bored of eating the same things, and always being the awkward one with meals out (either with family or friends), plus (and this was a big one) I didn't want to pass such bad habits onto any children I have (this is also one of the reasons why OH will eat all the veg on his plate). Perhaps the OP's OH can be persuaded for similar reasons. The fact that his BMI has already improved so much could be a motivating tool for him!

zippychick

ive merged this with our thread on feeding fussiest eaters

This thread on hiding veg may also help. I think the key is compromise.

Zip

Spendless

If he'll eat pasta bakes what about adding veg to one of them, tomatoes, onions, sweetcorn, mushrooms. Likewise if he'll eat beef what about a hot beef and onion sandwich, so you are adding some veg to each meal. If you peel and grate a courgette you can't see it in a sauce, so you could also add veg that way.

Gloomendoom

Interesting thread. I'll eat virtually anything, except halal meat.

Mrs G on the other hand was a right fussy PITA when I met her. He total dislike of vegetables was a worry for our long term relationship prospects as I didn't know if I wanted to be with someone who was storing up future health problems for herself. As she flatly refused to see a psychiatrist and denied that she was rmentally ill, I gradually introduced her to vegetables by hiding them in other foods.

Now, only peas remain on the "will not eat" list.

debbym

Sorry but I have to laugh when I read about some of these families.
There are 5 people in our family and the other 4 are all fussy eaters

Oh will not eat pulses or veggie meals (kind of person who will search through a meal to find the meat - no meat he just pushes it away)

DD (10 yo) used to be brilliant when she was a toddler but has turned into a right fussy madam (esp veg) these days I blend everything and serve it as either soup or pasta. She insists she doesn't like curry (OH would live on curry if he could) but the other day I served her curry (korma) and told her it was chicken stew and she wanted thirds. Goes to show a lot of it is peoples perceptions. Am going to keep trying with this one!

DS2 is 4 yo and actively avoids all fruit and veg on the off chance it might contain a vitamin by accident, but loves all meat and fish including shellfish. He will also avoid anything dairy - no cheese, milk, yogurt, even icecream. With no green veg either I have to give him calcium enriched bread etc. He will however eat stuff off my plate. So he sits next to me at mealtimes - I have healthy appealing stuff on my plate and he is allowed to nick some. Again just going to keep trying.

DS1 is 8yo and autistic. In his particular case this means he has severe sensory reactions to the smell, taste and texture of certain foods and this will never get better. He eats all fruit but only a limited amount of veg. He will not eat any meat at all (texture thing) except sausages and then they have to be plain ones. He will not eat sandwiches (again texture thing) and so has sausage rolls for his lunchbox everyday -I've lost count of the number of times I've had letters/comments about his lunchbox from school. He does love things like pizza and pasta shapes but it has to be a specific brand. He would live on pasta HM tomato sauce and cheese if he could.

So imagine if you will a meal at our house

OH will not eat sausages or "Kids food" or anything that has "weird stuff" i.e. pulses in it.
DD will not eat veg or pulses except baked beans
DS2 will not eat veg only the meat on his plate and nothing at all if there is tomato based sauce or cheese involved. sausages only sometimes
DS1 will only eat sausages and tomato/cheese based stuff
Me - anything so long as it doesn't have offal or mustard

Go on I dare you try and come up with one meal we all eat:D

What I do is cook a batch of pasta or rice or potatoes and then vary what goes with it say sausages for DS1 and pork chops for everyone else, OH and I will have stirfried mixed veg (which DS2 will sneak off my plate) and DD and DS1 will have broccoli/carrots and probably leave half of them.

Freezers and microwaves are my kitchen saviours (if my microwave blew up tomorrow I would use my CC to buy a new one immediately and hang the interest) I make stuff that each individual will eat and then freeze it in child/adult portions depending. Child portions also do for a lunchtime snack for me;) We all sit down together and the rule is that if the kids try something else they wouldn't normally eat off someone elses plate they get a bonus point towards a treat (usually a book they want - they are brill about some things:)) The important thing is to vary it as much as you can within the boundaries and only push them a little bit at a time. So I wouldn't for example get DS2 to eat a spring roll off my plate (which contains beansprouts) and then give him stirfry with beansprouts the next day but I might give it say a week and then give him half a spring roll on his plate at the start of the meal instead of him nicking it off me.
2 steps forward 1 step back is still moving forward overall:)Just keep trying...

caleyles

Been off work the last few days with a couple of hairline fractures in the back of my hand (argument with drill at work and I lost )
I said to my wife that I would make dinner for the kids (teenagers) and this is where my problem lies, with a laugh she said good luck with that and left for work,
Thinking of ideas it becomes harder as trying to make something that they both like and haven’t already had this week seems impossible
Example Spag Bol – Boy likes Girl Hates
Lasagne Boy Likes Girl Hates
Curry Girl Likes Boy Hates
Mac Cheese boy Likes Girl Hates
Fish of any kind they both dislike
The list goes on and on, I could go with pizza again!! Which we make ourselves but get fed up of doing it, They had chips and chicken last night so chips are out.
If anyone can think of something I could rustle up relatively easily I would be really grateful
p.s. neither like salad

caleyles

And to add I asked the youngest when she left for school what she would like for dinner tonight and the reply was FOOD, like that helps:rotfl:

bravobeastie

How about bangers and mash? Always a good fail safe in our house

patchwork_cat

From your list it would appear that your DD doesn't like pasta, is that the case? If so then I would recommend that you do something like bolognaise for some and maybe chilli and rice fo pasta haters.

If you don't know then for the future it would be helpful if you got them to tell you what part of the meal they don't like.

Have you tried fajitas or versions of them as they tend to go down well with teens.