What can i feed the fussiest eater in the world?

zippychick

Oops ive fallen off the OS wagon

OH sabotage of batch cooking

in my slow cooker today is a good thread to follow

Lunches - you will regret asking! :rotfl:

lunches to go in a food flask

Lunch for work

exciting sandwich fillings on a budget

sandwich fillings

home made sandwich spreads

Cheap/Practical lo carb lunch for work

What's in your lunch box today?

Back to school lunch ideas

Thrifty hot lunch ideas

healthy balanced but cheap lunch ideas

lunches to go in a food flask

Sandwich meat

im sure there was a fussy OH thread but i cant find it. Pink? Penny?:A

adelight

How cheap is his work canteen? If he's paying more than £3 a day that's a bit much, you could do a delicious indulgent pack lunch for you both for that money. Maybe i'm biassed as I just resent spending money on lunch or drinks

If he turns his nose up at your hm meals and would rather eat junk or ice lollies then leave him to fend for himself and foot the bill. Like everyone else is saying, you're not his mother and you shouldn't have to cater to him all the time. Make extra portions of your meals so there's a back up if he does decide to eat it, otherwise pop it in the freezer and eat it when you don't fancy cooking. Lasanga is brill for batch cooking, though I don't quite understand why he won't eat spag bol with some grated cheese? Good luck, it's took me ~9 months to persuade my OH to eat meat on the bone or even touch my cooking, and still it's only my bland meaty dishes and pancakes!!

foxgloves

He's got the problem, not you. If he can't even meet you half way now that you are living together as 2 adults, then sort meals out for yourself. Let him fend for himself and if he isn't interested in planning your meals & food budget jointly as a couple, he can foot anything extra himself. Perhaps he's been waited on by his Mum for too long & now needs to become an adult where food is concerned. I'm sure he is lovely, I don't mean to sound harsh, but he's a big boy now and if his future's with you, he needs to be a bit more mature about the practicalities such as food.

Rebelle

Hey OP

Can definitely sympathise with you on this and seems from other responses there are a lot of fussy men out there these days! 100% agree with other posters who say you should cook for yourself and not worry too much about your OH eating the same thing, especially as he eats a decent meal at work and you don't.

Not saying leave him to fend totally for himself if you still want to cook for him - just make him something simple that he likes while you're doing yours (this is what I do and find it far less stressful, me and my OH eat the same meal 3 times a week at most!), and as PasturesNew said, he'll probably be asking to try what you've made soon and annoying you by nicking your dinner! (I always make extra portions now in case he wants some, if not it goes in the freezer for me to take to work for lunch).

The slow cooker book sounds a good idea, definitely get him to pick some recipes out of there and encourage him to get in the kitchen himself. Other than that I'd say just enjoy cooking whatever you want and let your OH eat what he likes, as others have said in time he will eventually come round but in the meantime don't feel you have to join him in eating readymeals if you don't really want to! I used to feel guilty too eating lovely HM meals in front of my OH when he'd had egg, chips and beans etc but soon learnt he wasn't bothered so why should I be? Don't let it become an issue or stress you out.

Penelope_Penguin

zippychick wrote: »

im sure there was a fussy OH thread but i cant find it. Pink? Penny?:A

What to feed the fussiest eater in the world? One of us will merge this later.

zippychick

thats't he one! i was searching for fussy, not fussiest!

mlz1413

Codemonkey I agree stop worrying about him, he eats a main meal midday so should only have a snack in the evening.

You on the other hand need a main meal and as you enjoy cooking you really should spend some time cooking and relaxing in the kitchen at the end of your day.

Can your OH sit and chat to you whilst you cook? Can he have a piece of fruit / yogurt whilst you eat and then you both have a dessert / ice lolly afterwards?

Or could he be more useful and hoover, iron, clean the bathroom whilst your cooking and eating and then you can both sit down to some quality time?

My OH would happily eat between 9 & 10PM, whereas I like to eat about 7-8pm, slow cookers are good for this as the main part of the meal is cooked when I get home but can keep hot until he is ready to eat.

I'm sure you will work it out but stop being compared to his mum & brother, he is related to them not in a relationship with them!

Butterfly_Brain

My DD's BF is exactly the same - he won't eat veggies of any sort and only likes chicken or steak.
But I am crafty I make my gravy from the veggie water - which he loves even after I fessed up, he admits it is the nicest gravy he has ever had . But he has actually started to try things now such as boiled gammon at Christmas which he absolutely loved but he doesn't like bacon or pork :huh:
I blame the parents for pandering to their whims when they were young. My DD has been a vegetarian from the age of 18 but I can understand that and we work her meals around ours but use tvp for her instead of meat so there is no problem, but up until then she ate everything that was put in front of her - Both of my kids love fruit and veg and some veggies they prefer raw.

Primrose

I've not had time to plough through this thread but my answer would be to tell him that you've now run out of road regarding his eating habits, and that for a trial period of one month he's to buy all his own food and cook it. I honestly believe that whilst everybody is entitled to a few dislikes, to impose your will on the rest of the family to the extent that cooking for everybody else is turned into a nightmare is a NO NO.
It's a form of selfishness, and the more you pander to it, the more you'll make a rod for your own back.

Don't make an issue of it and get into a fight. Just tell him this is how it's going to be for the next month and let him get on with it. You may find that after the end of that time he will have grown rather disenchanted with sitting down at a table where everybody else is happily eating while he's fiddling around with a cheese sandwich. It's also probably the best way of forcing him to learn some cooking skills.

jennikitten

Just a quick note to say that my boyfriend is a fussy eater too - just as fussy as yours but much more selective, even down to exact shapes and colours of food.

Know a lot of people in this thread mean well but clearly they've never met a proper fussy eater. My boyfriend is the kindest, most easy-going person I know but he's so stubborn when it comes to food he's unmoveable.

I've tried everything in the world, and none of these obvious suggestions like cook for myself in front of him, get him to cook (he will even cook a balanced meal for me with no complaints but won't try it), get him to pay for his food, do slight variations of things he likes, etc etc etc work. If I shut him in a room with a plate of spaghetti, chicken and pasta sauce, he would literally die of starvation rather than even attempt to try it. It's all very well to say 'it's his problem, leave him to it', but when the health of a loved one is at stake how can you just sit back & watch someone slowly killing himself?

It's a real problem, it's not something someone will get bored of (unless they're under 5 years old); that's how they live. It's a proper eating disorder (Selective Eating Disorder) - google it. In my boyfriend I know it's completely psychological and in the most part related to food texture and colour.