What can i feed the fussiest eater in the world?

going2die_rich

hilstep2000 wrote:

Come on, get wise, we are the adults!

Some adults seem to be walkovers though by letting their children be in charge of the household - and people think this generation of children is going down hill, I'd hate to see what the next lot are like.

Nix143

Back on track hopefully...............

I think your issue here is that this he is not with you all the time and is only with you two meals a week and so of course you have no control over his overall eating habits, you have to work around the ones he already has. And I also understand the pressure that you want him to eat when he is with you and not go back to wherever he lives the rest of the week moaning about your horrid food I should imagine *lol*. I should also imagine there is far more going on emotionally than just what he eats - split families can be a complete nightmare even when everything is going ok - and apologies if I am making assumptions here.

Food isn't just about nutrition, it is about caring and providing and nurturing in many ways and is one of the primary ways we gel together as a family. I am sorry you feel that your efforts are being sneered at *giving you a wee hug*

At 16 I don't know how successful you're going to be in getting him involved in the food preparation but you could give it a try. If you feel he gets too much greasy food then try making your HM versions of them - as people have said HM pizza is a really good one to try. Or howsabout getting some chicken drumstocks because these are a relatively cheap source of meat and doing them? HM beefburgers?

I hope you have some luck in finding a middle way here for all of you xx

Editted to say - EEEK! I really hope I haven't misunderstood the situation! If I have just clip me round the ear and send me on my way

mikeywills

going2die_rich wrote:

Some adults seem to be walkovers though by letting their children be in charge of the household - and people think this generation of children is going down hill, I'd hate to see what the next lot are like.

Can you be honest and tell me that you ate everything that your parents put in front of you without complaining when you were a teenager.

Being a teenager is all about confrontation, arguments, and trying to create their own independance, they have so many hormones running around their bodies it frequently explodes with aggression. If you try and restrict this what happens, do we get happy little teenagers, who know the difference between right and wrong of course not. We probably get grown ups who having been unleashed from the restrictive house of their upbringing, find avenues to relieve that aggression like chat forums going2die_rich!!

Hope you are happy with your childish tirades through this thread.

Addiscomber

going2die_rich wrote:

Your situations are probably difficult but I am guessing thats mainly due to your approach being like that for years so it's difficult to fix now - years on.

You have guessed wrong and made several erroneous assumptions about the way that we have brought up our sons. It is not worth prolonging the conversation. I sincerely hope that you never find yourself dealing with this problem for you would find that a heavy handed approach such as yours gets nowhere.

victory

i agree, ask him what he wants to eat, hide all the goodness of veg by putting into soups (blended if necessary), does he like eating nuts, beans,bananas all very good for you?
No, I see you say he does not like soups, how about milkshakes that have all the fantastic nutrients of fresh fruit, milk xxx

JenIttels

CCStar wrote:

He is a Chinese food fanatic but it can be greasy but I do make a good stir fry:)

Have you tried making a sweet and sour sauce? I know the flavour isn't everyone's cup of tea but the recipe I use (it's a slimming world recipe admittedly!) is quite easy (though it doesn't taste totally like takeaways) and I serve it with fake chicken (i'm a veggie) and lots of noodles.

It mostly consists of soy, vinegar, orange juice, pineapple bits and a bit of tom puree I think.

Pink.

Hi everyone,

Please can we try to keep this thread on topic to help the OP. She came here to ask for ideas for nutritious and cheap meal ideas for her son.

If anyone wants to discuss modern day parenting skills, the best place to do that is the Discussion Time board.

Thanks,

Pink

blessings3

going2die_rich wrote:

Yes because aneryrexia was such a huge problem in the 50s, 60, 70s and 80s...

Think you'll find aneryrexia is an extreme response from people who think they need to look like the matchsticks in the magazines they read, not because parents make them sit and eat a family meal that they've made.

If you brought your child up eating proper family meals then your children would eat properly at least once a day with the family even if they eat junk outside of the home or at all the other meals.

I do agree that a 16 year old should be pulling their weight and cooking two or three times a week. Even younger children should be doing the small bits that they can - obviously not near hot water or anything but having a little helper standing in the kitchen with you even if they hardly do anything forces the perception that they have to do their bit, which makes it easier to get them to pull their weight when they get older. After all, you don't want children to grow up and think that the fairies make the food in the oven and all you have to do is take it out.

Already bad enough that some children in this generation think milk just comes from the supermarket and not a cow.

ERh Yes it was a problem in the 60's 70's and 80's except it was treaded as a mental illness - Liza Zaveroni and karen Carpenter dies of it oh yes in the 70's - Read a decent book or article on it and you will find the is a very disproportionatly high number of be middle class girls who are high accademic acchivers from ''good'' background with very strict parents - Thjey use it as a form of control over thier own lives and to a degree thier parents as they feal this is the only thing they can be in charge of!!! I'll think you'll find

I find your assumptions a little niave to be honest - just because I give my children choices and allow them opinion does not makea bad parent who force feeds her kids junk- I pefer to treat my kids a humans rather than objexts that I own or opponents I want htem to learn balance and personal resonsibility to build thier own internal diciplin rather than relying on external pressure

All my kids cook and we have lived on a farm so they are well aware of where milk comes from having milked cows, goat and had a go a sheep. we eat every meal together as a family exept Fridays when we have family film knight and eat in front of the telly.

I am a stay at home mum - I run the house on routine and dicipline - My kids have sweets once a week they donnt eat biscuits or cake and donnt do/have alot of what thier friends have even though I have the means to provide them

My Husband has been the main cook in our house till recentlyt and he cookss everything from scratch much of which we or our friends have grown

And when i say no I mean NO

but I talk to them discuss things and give them choices over things - explain to them why we do stuff and ehat consequences are - My kids eats virtually every thing I put infront of them. If they donnt eat it thats fine I never make a fuss as conflict over food is the easiest way to an eating disorder you can find - Do some reading
I do not however offer alternatives/persuade/cajole/bribe in fact i suppose I have a non response which is ''you can always eat as much fruit as you like''which is my ''standard'' response to I'm hungry at any time of the day :rotfl:
My kids eat alot of fruit lol

blessings3

I yes I suppose ''Hard'' parenting ie easier than clever parenting but I suppose thats my choice

You can raise half empty kids or half full kids on any income - attitude is everything

Simple abbundance!

blessings3

CCStar wrote:

He eats with us twice a week and he doesn't like pasta, fish, pulses, HM soup or stews. He likes roasts and BBQs but it can be expensive and I feel very limited by this.

I am trying to be OS with food etc but I feel my efforts are sneered at.

Does anyone have any ideas what nutritious, yet cheap food to give him? I thought I was fussy. I don't want to do greasy food, as I feel he eats that the rest of the week and we don't really like it very often either.

Thankfully my husband is fine the rest of the time with what I cook and is very supportive of my OS food.

And so you know what having read alot of your posts - If you treat somone as a PITA they tend to act like one - Your husbands son from a pervious marriage by any chance ?