want to escape abusive relationship!

rachnbri

Contact women's aid 0808 2000 247 or you can e-mail them if it's difficult for you to talk on the phone for any reason [EMAIL="helpline@womensaid.org.uk"]helpline@womensaid.org.uk[/EMAIL]
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They can give you advice on your rights and even contact a solicitor on your behalf (with your permission obviously)

However as a previous poster said, if you are in immediate danger get your child and leave now. You can call womens aid free phone from a call box and they will tell you how you can access emergency support.

No-one deserves to be abused or intimidated and there is help out there for you. AFAIK you would be entitled to something from the house etc but I'm not qualified to give you specific advice. But you must not stay in the home if you or your child are in danger.

Good luck hon and do come back and let us know how you're getting on.

getting-sorted-sarah

Get on to the CAB straight away in the morning, you won't be charged anything, you can gets lots of free advice and work out what is best for you and the little one.
Best of luck, there are happier days ahead!

mummy26

my hubby is more verbally abusive but i keep out of his way.....but seriously guys i really need to be wise about how i do it...he has a very well paid job and i know he will put up a fight and a half.
he has hit me in past but not recent i keep out of his way. just feel so clueless and lost. really cant face being broke with a small kid on my own

DKLS

Find yourself a female lawyer, preferably one with the attitude of annoyed pitbull and take him for everything you are entitled to. In the meantime, see if you can squirrel away some running away money, and make sure if you have to, you can get out quickly.

Edit: I can recommend a lawyer that is very well known in legal circles for being ruthless with men, especially abusive ones, not cheap but highly effective.

redballoon_2

please dont worry about the financial side of things, you and you childs lives are priceless so dont put yourself in any harmful situation. you will get what you are entitled to in the end.

if you are in immediate danger then please pack a bag and leave with your child.

i take it you have access to the bank accounts? can you not take some money out of it and use that when you leave?

maz16

mummy26 forget about how much he earns for the moment that will all get sorted out in time get some money out of accounts if they are joint and let the lawyers deal with it contact womans aid they are great

star-X_2

Phone the police and ask for the donestic violence unit, they will take you to a refuge. i know its extrememly scary, i have been in the same situation myself a few years back. They will put you in a place of sfety and help you in all areas you need. Dont be scared, this is the bravest thing you could ever do for you and your child. You can pm me as often as you like. I admire you totally for wanting to get out of this nightmare situation. i am now in a decent relationship where me and my children are very happy, 2 of my children arent his biologically but he has been a fantastic father to them. You deserve so much better than you are currently getting, you owe it to yourself. Its very scarey as i said but you can do it, womans aid is there for you, i wish you all the luck in the world, you are not alone. Good on you for having th ecourage, you are soooooooo worth more, as i said im here for you, i do understand, that first step will empower you. If you like, pm me your area and i will phone them for you and get them to come and get you to a place of safety, good luck, you dont deserve this, may this be the first step to your new fantastic safe, happy life. Thinking of you xxxxxxxxxxx

star-X_2

I agree with maz but i wouldnt even worry about the money thing yet, just get yourself out of there and get you and your child safe, womans aid will help you with all the rest, that is what they are there for. You wont be bothereing or burdening anyone with your problems, stay strong, you are soo doing the right thing, again im thinkng of you xxxxxxxxxxx

Contains_Mild_Peril

If he's working and you're not, and you get custody of your child, he'd have to pay some maintenance. Since the house is in joint names it would normally be considered 50% yours, regardless of who has paid the mortgage.
If you think he might not let you back in to collect your stuff after you leave, make a list of everything you need to take with you, from important documents to your kid's favourite toys, and pack as much of it as you can without arousing suspicion so you're ready to go.
Women's Aid is a good place to go for advice, and they may be able to offer temporary accommodation if you need it. Good luck.

star-X_2

0808 2000 247, iti s free and i dotn think it shows up on bill either, good luck honey xx