Mooloo's struggle with babies and bills

Savvy_sewing

Not my best day today. Was at work all day. Which is quite hard on the old bones. and the problem with my arm. Had my Area Manager working with me, and doing my assessment to see if I am ok. We are upping my weekly hours next week to 2 full days and 3 half days. so I have to get organised again. To accommodate the extra time at work. And re assess the Housing Benefit. Mind you they havent answered my request to amend it from Last month yet, and i am behind paying my landlord. One of my volunteers has died He was in his 80's and been in hospital for a week or so. But its still sad. The lady who wanted my dog has changed her mind. so a panic to have him looked after this weekend when I am away for a wedding. What next I ask myself. Oh yes a crossed purpose of texts with DBF and an evening when I was hoping he was coming to see me, is written off. Great. Ah well I will have an early night, (or a long one on here?)
Was hoping for a No spend day, but DS fleeced me for £5 and then twin2 wanted £20 so she could buy clothes for BBJ. (Mind you I will get her money back from her income. not so my son). Then I forgot my lunch so it was £1.50 for a bacon slice from the bakers next to the shop.
Babies are both at full throatly in the front room. I am hiding in my little sitting room with the TV on god knows what programme cos I am not really watching it.

Savvy_sewing

Still no news from the housing benefit. Tomorrow I will have to make a payment to the landlord or I will be in trouble with him. Not a good idea as I have only been here 2 1/2 months. Gosh already. I still havent got everything out of the boxes either. Mind you I dont have the storage really. Worked another full day today. Spending too much on lunch break. Have to get my act together and take my lunches from now on. Even though its only £1.88 for a chicken salad sandwich I am sure I can make them for less.
I am still within my grocery challenge. I just hope that I can maintain it over the next 9 days. Not a lot left to spend though so I am going to have to be even tougher on myself and find a way of stopping me from procrastinating all the time.
I was planning to do a lot today, but when I got in nothing had been done, again, whats new there? Not a lot.
Been babysitting BBJ while twin2 has gone swimming. Funny how I can put him in his cot awake, and he goes to sleep straight away, yet mum cant do it?
Think that I am going to have an early night tonight, as I never really got much sleep last night.
The wedding was very good. It was so lovely to see an older couple so much in love. The vows brought a tear to my eye. I though I wonder if my BF would love me the same when we are in our 70's? Probably not. (mind you I wouldnt blame him, I am not the easiest of people to live with, least I think so).
Spending a lot of time thinking about what I need to do and not enough time in the doing, if you know what I mean.
Oh well tomorrow is another day, and I only have to work for half a day. Perhaps I will have more energy left to do things at home when I get back from work.

Savvy_Sue

Mooloo wrote: »

Been babysitting BBJ while twin2 has gone swimming. Funny how I can put him in his cot awake, and he goes to sleep straight away, yet mum cant do it?

I remember what my HV used to say to me: she had a rule for herself, "Never pick up a crying baby!" If baby stopped crying, mum would feel a complete failure.

Have you shown the twins HOW you do things? Your grandmotherly confidence may be felt by the babies, you know ...

Savvy_sewing

today I am distraught. young bbj has a small bruise on his leg, due to bashing about a toy the other day. The health visitor questioned it, the social worker was called and we were all packed off to the hospital for bbj to be checked for any signs of abuse.! Ha, after a nightmare drive with a mad social worker, who didnt wear her seat belt for half the journey, who used a mobile phone, not hands free, and even on the return journey started to drive off without my grandchilds car seat installed!!
The doctors of course could not find any signs of abuse, or anything else so decided that he had to have a blood sample taken to check he has no other "illness". the woman turned his hand back, bending it at the wrist, held it so tight that my poor grandchild screamed and screamed. his nails were digging into his palms and have torn the skin on his hand. His thumb is now bruised and his hand swollen. not to mention the mark where the blood was taken.
I am beside myself. the world has gone mad. every inch of that poor child was subject to inspection, and every thing including a scratch he made himself with his nails (about 2mm if that) was recorded on a chart. they didnt record the marks they inflicted on him.
I have spent the evening writing a letter of complaint about the social workers driving, and asked for his "injuries" by the doctors to be noted. I am furious. I was railroaded out the door the minute I returned from work. Questioned about the hours I work, where I am, what I do, ? Its none of thier "beep beep" business. It is totally over board and rediculous. My daughter twin2, is distraught at the way they handled it, and I was not far off, But as granny and mum, I had to bite my tongue, comply and bite my lip while chocking back my tears.
I was due to go and see my bf, but I could not leave my family tonight.
I know one or two of you who follow me are social workers, and that you will have reasons, that there are children abused etc. but this was just rediculous.
I am more angry about the womans driving skills, my grandchild was more at risk in her car, then he would ever be in our house!
Again I quiery am I supposed to go out to work, or do I have to stay at home to watch every move my family make, and to guard about who is coming into my home when I am at work?
I am hurt, never mind my daughter.
and angry, so angry I cant go to bed, as I cant sleep. I have spent all evening trying to divert my attention and doing surveys and stuff just to try and calm myself down. dont think I have succeeded.

Surfbabe

Oh Mooloo - what an awful experience - not much else I can say really except sending you big big hugs. My SIL had a similiar experience with her son who is severely autistic - he was packed off to hospital and they isolated him and my SIL - questionned her at length and with no support about bite marks he had - they even made her bite into an apple to see if the teeth marks matched !!!!. They were actually his own teeth marks - but it was exceedingly traumatic all round. Complain about the driving as that is completely unacceptable.
Hugs all round

Savvy_sewing

well this morning I have printed off the letter I did last night. re read it to make sure I was not neurotic etc. Its sound and sensible. My mum said its well written. I think I am going to run it by the solicitor that is already looking into the financial situation that the social services have plunged me into.
it they think I am going to take this lying down they have another thing coming.
today is also the first of twin2's Learning disabilities tests. (well not the ongoing one social are doing, but another by the Learning disabilities assessors.). Joy what joy.
I am at work this morning, so I better go and get dressed for it. cant go in the old dressing gown.
trying to be light about things with my daughter this morning, but she is very disturbed still this morning.
housing benefit have said that they will be looking at my case sometime in May!!. so I am just going to pay my rent the same as last month, and wait for them to adjust it....eventually. Only been waiting since end of march so far.

Seaxwyn

Hi Mooloo - what a horrible experience, that is just terrible. Your poor daughter must be so upset.

Before sending off the letter, find out if there is a special complaints handler at the hospital. I advise this as I once had reason to complain about the horribly mishandled birth of my twins. A well-meaning counsellor made me an appointment to state my case to the two doctors involved, which gave me some satisfaction. But I later found out that if I'd gone through the official complaints channel there would have been an extra person in the meeting to hear my case, and a record would go on the doctors' files.

Savvy_sewing

Had a tough time, trying to post today. I have made several attempts. The long entry of what happened over the weekend has been biffed off so I will catch up another day. I am too tired now. Its getting very late. Technology is not always better.!!!

Savvy_sewing

On Friday the hospital rang to say BBJ's bloods were fine!. Well I know that. I told the doctor that her colleague and the social worker were worse to my grandchild then a toy. She said they have to be careful, she still wants the actual toy, and she wants to see him in 2 months time, to check him all over again. So I am still angry.
The learning disabilities team have lost the assessment forms that we filled in in Dec/Jan so I have to fill them out all over again. As if I hadnt got enough to do. Just shows how incompetant they all are.
Had a long weekend, had to drive to Kettering to let kids see their dad. Then I stopped off at Towcester to see my eldest daughter. Wanted to visit the dog, but when I got to the pub I was so upset without even seeing him, so I decided that I better not see him or I would have wanted to take him away with me.
Sunday I spent the day with my fella, we had a lovely long walk in the university parks, and lunch in a chinese buffet place, before returning via the parks, a lie down in the grass watching the students playing football etc and then back to his, a beer in the garden, watching the robins eating worms and then I came home again.
I tried the bingo sites, but I cant afford to withdraw my winnings as they say I have to deposit TEN times the amount wagered? So Thats about £170 now? To withdraw £26.88 I am too scared to even try it. I put in £20 so far, so I think I am just not able to do gambling. I just dont understand it.
Think I will stick to the surveys and the slow points on pigsback and ipoints.
Worked all day today, we hit target at the new shop, and so I had a thankyou and a well done from my area manager. Lets hope we can continue to have good fortunes there, as I am not eligable for the wages rise as this shop is in a lower wage bracket then my other one was. Ah well, least I have a job.
Tomorrow is another day.
Twin1 is staying with her friends in Towcester and the others came back last night. All change here. Strange with only one baby in the house.

Savvy_sewing

Morning,
I have a few minutes to go before I leave for my physio session, going to take the car as I cant face the bus journey. Am collecting a 2nd hand bread machine later today. Will have to sort out a recipe for it now. Cant ask my Mum as she is in France. (Well so is my Dad of course!), 3 months touring, Wonderful life. If I could aspire to a future as there life has been I would love it.!!
Ah well back to reality. Its a wet morning here in Oxford. Winter back again?
Been having a quick lerk on the various threads while I have my breakfast. Spent a while bashing my diary and trying to think about ways of making my shop more profitable. Easy, have better donations coming in? As if I was in control of that one!!. It will probably be better to raise to some of the challenges to up my income here on MSE than to up the shops turn over by 60% to get a £700 basic interest on my wages!!
Mind you if we could get everyone that is a tax payer that donates we can up our intake by 28% immediately. So anyone out there who donates goods and clothes etc to their local charity shop, please consider gift aiding it, and the charity will earn an extra 28p in the pound on top of the sale price, all courtesy of Mr Browns cabinet. Charity pot.!!
Right time to close the pages of my various diaries virtual and real and head off for the bone benders!! Have a good day all.