We are being evicted, some advice please...... the date has arrived......

mymiddlenameisspendthrift

Hi, i've just scanned thro this thread, so hope i haven'tmissed anything. My advice; either contact your local PCT and ask for the contact details for the local childrens learning disability service phone them and refer your son, or ask your GP to refer your son to them. They should carry out an assessment of your son and hopefully come up with a diagnosis.
if he does have a learning disability (this usually means an IQ of less than 70, deoending on the area) they will be able to provide support in the form of outreach workers, respite care and assistance and support with housing and other health needs. Most LD services consist of a multidisciplinary team including psychologists, psychiatrist, community nurses, speech and language therapists, occupational therapists and social workers.
the focus would be on your son, but they should be able to provide behaviour assessments and support, an occ. therapy assessment for the type of home you need and a social worker to help with any forms you need to fill in, benefits you could be entitled to and they should be able to put a case forward to the council on your behalf to speed up the process.
you really MUST NOT worry about having your son taken from you; it doesn't work lke that any more; children are only removed as an absolute last resort if they're in severe danger ofneglect etc (which your children clearly aren't)
get as much support as youcan; it is out there if you know where to look.
the safety of your children and protection from any harm is the main priority of health and social services; they'd be failing in their duty of care if they didn't help your family
oh, just one other thing, if he isn'tclassed as LD they'll be able to signpost you to other services who will be able to offer help
sorry again if i missed anything, and you know this already; good luck

ampersand

vivatifosi wrote: »

Hi ampersand,

Thanks so much for that info. I won't tell my aunt because it will scare the living daylights out of her. But I will see if the rest of the family can put a small back up fund together that she can draw from if it all goes haywire.

You gotta love social services, they called her in for a return to work interview this week, even though she's a year away from retirement and as I said, has a degenerative disease... When she got there they didn't even know she was on DLA!

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.......should add that on both occasions, there was not even time to sit down to wait before being called back and given 'overturned' decision, along with an apology that I should ever have had to go through the procedure - BOTH TIMES.
Apologies, bm, for this mini-hijack of your thread.

MummyHol

BM- i've not been online for about 3 days so i just spent the last 3 hours (in between seeing to littlun) catching up!!

WELL DONE on thursday- sounds like you got a good result there. I'm glad they were actually helpful and had already been pulling things together for you (even if these weren't the best solutions). More points for the next month is definately a brill outcome (is this definate or just possible??)

I couldn't believe when i read dopester's post- i was so mad i had a massive rant about it and had to explain the whole thread to poor confused OH so he'd get some grasp on what i was going on about!! I'm so pleased you gave him/her what for!

Hope you & the kids are ok? (i did have a little chuckle reading about Ryan legging it in his pants with the electic man looking on- bless him)

Massive hugs for you xxx

blue_monkey_2

Afternoon everyone, just a quicky as I have to get on and do the ironing, just back from our night/day at Drayton Manor, weather was a bit dodgy hence us choosing this weekend but it was nice as it was very quiet, so many goes on the rides we lost track. I got the Special Needs bands when we got in (very nervous as we had not got them before but no problems with my referal letters) but it saved us waiting in the queues but we rarely used them, only when the queues were longer than 15 minutes. It was nice to get back in our beds last night though, it was a long journey up (hubby said 'no motorways' and so it took nearly 3 hours - and 1 3/4 hours on the way back motorways!!)!! And if you was the person who said 'what the f*ck are those people doing' then now you know!!

However, being cooped up in that room the realisation dawned on me on what life will be like in a hostel, I did not sleep much as I woke early and started worrying about it all again. Hubby is adamant that we will not do the caravan option, which I am really annoyed about as he will be out at work all day and I am going to be stuck miles away from my friends with no escape from one room and no CBeebies (possibly no DVD's if we are notallowed electricals in either). I thought it would be OK but I am really scared on how I will cope with Ryan in one room. I do not have much choice I know, but it was only really yesterday that the realisation dawned, they were jumping on beds, fighting and screaming as there was nothing to do.

So, I have decided, I will give him the benefit of the doubt but if it gets too much then I am going to borrow my friends caravan for a bit and live in that as I said I would and he can do whatever he wants. As I said, as he is not going to be there to cook, look after the kids, etc.. I do not think that he should have overall choice and I am going to make that clear.

I've been on a last ditch attempt this morning - I've put some little notes up around this and the aurrounding towns and villages everywhere (LOL) asking if anyone has a 3 bed they want to give up to go into Sheltered Housing. Nothing ventured, nothing gained and all that, I won't know if I do not try after all. The counsellor told me that if I KNEW someone who wanted to give up their house then he could help - so we shall see. One of the sheltered did not have any applications put foward so we shall see.

Going to sign off until tomorrow now. Will catch up with you all more then. xx

NoahsPennilessMummy

hi BM

Hope things are ok.......you are being so brave and doing your best for your family in a terrible situation.

I have a 4 and a half year old boy with profound autism so I know how hard it is.....it is a 24/7 job and little time for anything else in your life......people who have never experienced it have no idea of how hard it is.....you are doing a good job:T

hugs and good luck
claire
xxx

mumoftwins

Glad you had a good time at Drayton Manor, you were about 500 yds from my old marital home whilst you were there - I would lie in bed sometimes and hear the lions roaring to be fed and the monkeys screeching too!!

When I was in the flat in the hostel I was allowed to have tv and broadband connected, so apart from the limited space it wasn't too bad.

Hope everything works out for you BM xx

ampersand

Morning all - mot will not take offence if I post the latest from NZ Uncle here, rather than on her Thread.
I'm putting it where a light chuckling may do most good for the start of a new week - besides, I know all the usual suspects will be along from her, pania's, phoenixchick's Threads before long.
No sign of wol since she had her heavy letters day to start and was down - will contact her.
Here we go:
LEGAL MOMENTS
These are from a book called Disorder in the American Courts, and
are
things people actually said in court, word for word, taken down and now

published by court reporters that had the torment of staying calm while

these exchanges were actually taking place.


____________________________________________________________________
ATTORNEY: What gear were you in at the moment of the impact?
WITNESS: Gucci sweats and Reeboks.

____________________________________________________________________
ATTORNEY: What was the first thing your husband said to you that

morning?
WITNESS: He said, 'Where am I, Cathy?'
ATTORNEY: And why did that upset you?
WITNESS: My name is Susan!

____________________________________________________________________
ATTORNEY: Do you know if your daughter has ever been involved
in
voodoo?
WITNESS: We both do.
ATTORNEY: Voodoo?
WITNESS: We do.
ATTORNEY: You do?
WITNESS: Yes, voodoo.

____________________________________________________________________
ATTORNEY: Now doctor, isn't it true that when a person dies in
his
sleep, he doesn't know about it until the next morning?
WITNESS: Did you actually pass the bar exam?

____________________________________________________________________
ATTORNEY: The youngest son, the twenty-one-year-old, how old is
he?
WITNESS: Uh, he's twenty-one.

____________________________________________________________________
ATTORNEY: Were you present when your picture was taken?
WITNESS: Are you shittin' me?

____________________________________________________________________
ATTORNEY: So the date of conception (of the baby) was August
8th?
WITNESS: Yes.
ATTORNEY: And what were you doing at that time?
WITNESS: Uh.... I was gettin' laid!

____________________________________________________________________
ATTORNEY: She had three children, right?
WITNESS: Yes.
ATTORNEY: How many were boys?
WITNESS: None.
ATTORNEY: Were there any girls?
WITNESS: Are you shittin' me? Your Honor, I think I need a

different attorney. Can I get a new attorney?

____________________________________________________________________
ATTORNEY: How was your first marriage terminated?
WITNESS: By death.
ATTORNEY: And by whose death was it terminated?
WITNESS: Now whose death do you suppose terminated it?

____________________________________________________________________
ATTORNEY: Can you describe the individual?
WITNESS: He was about medium height and had a beard.
ATTORNEY: Was this a male or a female?
WITNESS: Guess.

____________________________________________________________________
ATTORNEY: Doctor, how many of your autopsies have you performed
on
dead people?
WITNESS: All my autopsies are performed on dead people.
Would you
like to rephrase that?

____________________________________________________________________
ATTORNEY: ALL your responses MUST be oral, OK? What school
did
you go to?
WITNESS: Oral.

____________________________________________________________________
ATTORNEY: Do you recall the time that you examined the body?
WITNESS: The autopsy started around 8:30 p.m.
ATTORNEY: And Mr. Denton was dead at the time?
WITNESS : No, he was sitting on the table wondering why I
was
doing an autopsy on him!

____________________________________________________________________

And the best for last:

____________________________________________________________________
ATTORNEY: Doctor, before you performed the autopsy, did you
check
for a pulse?
WITNESS: No.
ATTORNEY: Did you check for blood pressure?
WITNESS: No.
ATTORNEY: Did you check for breathing?
WITNESS: No.
ATTORNEY: So, then it is possible that the patient was alive
when you
began the autopsy?
WITNESS: No.
ATTORNEY: H ow can you be so sure, Doctor?
WITNESS: Because his brain was sitting on my desk in a jar.
ATTORNEY: I see, but could the patient have still been alive,
nevertheless?
WITNESS: Yes, it is possible that he could have been alive
and
practicing law.

Careful_with_that_Axe

bm
Have been negligent in posting for a few days, but that doesn't mean I've stopped thinking about you.
Still wishing for all good things for you and your family.
J
x

slug2000

ampersand wrote: »

Morning all - mot will not take offence if I post the latest from NZ Uncle here, rather than on her Thread.
I'm putting it where a light chuckling may do most good for the start of a new week - besides, I know all the usual suspects will be along from her, pania's, phoenixchick's Threads before long.
No sign of wol since she had her heavy letters day to start and was down - will contact her.
Here we go:
LEGAL MOMENTS
These are from a book called Disorder in the American Courts, and
are
things people actually said in court, word for word, taken down and now

published by court reporters that had the torment of staying calm while

these exchanges were actually taking place.


____________________________________________________________________
ATTORNEY: What gear were you in at the moment of the impact?
WITNESS: Gucci sweats and Reeboks.

____________________________________________________________________
ATTORNEY: What was the first thing your husband said to you that

morning?
WITNESS: He said, 'Where am I, Cathy?'
ATTORNEY: And why did that upset you?
WITNESS: My name is Susan!

____________________________________________________________________
ATTORNEY: Do you know if your daughter has ever been involved
in
voodoo?
WITNESS: We both do.
ATTORNEY: Voodoo?
WITNESS: We do.
ATTORNEY: You do?
WITNESS: Yes, voodoo.

____________________________________________________________________
ATTORNEY: Now doctor, isn't it true that when a person dies in
his
sleep, he doesn't know about it until the next morning?
WITNESS: Did you actually pass the bar exam?

____________________________________________________________________
ATTORNEY: The youngest son, the twenty-one-year-old, how old is
he?
WITNESS: Uh, he's twenty-one.

____________________________________________________________________
ATTORNEY: Were you present when your picture was taken?
WITNESS: Are you shittin' me?

____________________________________________________________________
ATTORNEY: So the date of conception (of the baby) was August
8th?
WITNESS: Yes.
ATTORNEY: And what were you doing at that time?
WITNESS: Uh.... I was gettin' laid!

____________________________________________________________________
ATTORNEY: She had three children, right?
WITNESS: Yes.
ATTORNEY: How many were boys?
WITNESS: None.
ATTORNEY: Were there any girls?
WITNESS: Are you shittin' me? Your Honor, I think I need a

different attorney. Can I get a new attorney?

____________________________________________________________________
ATTORNEY: How was your first marriage terminated?
WITNESS: By death.
ATTORNEY: And by whose death was it terminated?
WITNESS: Now whose death do you suppose terminated it?

____________________________________________________________________
ATTORNEY: Can you describe the individual?
WITNESS: He was about medium height and had a beard.
ATTORNEY: Was this a male or a female?
WITNESS: Guess.

____________________________________________________________________
ATTORNEY: Doctor, how many of your autopsies have you performed
on
dead people?
WITNESS: All my autopsies are performed on dead people.
Would you
like to rephrase that?

____________________________________________________________________
ATTORNEY: ALL your responses MUST be oral, OK? What school
did
you go to?
WITNESS: Oral.

____________________________________________________________________
ATTORNEY: Do you recall the time that you examined the body?
WITNESS: The autopsy started around 8:30 p.m.
ATTORNEY: And Mr. Denton was dead at the time?
WITNESS : No, he was sitting on the table wondering why I
was
doing an autopsy on him!

____________________________________________________________________

And the best for last:

____________________________________________________________________
ATTORNEY: Doctor, before you performed the autopsy, did you
check
for a pulse?
WITNESS: No.
ATTORNEY: Did you check for blood pressure?
WITNESS: No.
ATTORNEY: Did you check for breathing?
WITNESS: No.
ATTORNEY: So, then it is possible that the patient was alive
when you
began the autopsy?
WITNESS: No.
ATTORNEY: H ow can you be so sure, Doctor?
WITNESS: Because his brain was sitting on my desk in a jar.
ATTORNEY: I see, but could the patient have still been alive,
nevertheless?
WITNESS: Yes, it is possible that he could have been alive
and
practicing law.

Excellent! :T I work at a legal publishers and can well believe these are real quotes after some of the solicitors/barristers I've worked with :eek:

MummyHol

ampersand- thats brightened up my day, thanks!

BlueMonkey- when we went into the hostel i smuggled in a kettle, toaster and (most importantly) a portable dvd player!! Our contract didn't say anything specifically about electric epuipment, as such- just that we weren't allowed to plug in any lighting (ie lamps, nightlights) or have a kettle in our room. (i know it was naughy to smuggle in the kettle but i wouldn't have coped without it- having a 6month old baby at the time i couldn't exactly leave him in the room while i steralised his spoons, etc and there wasn't anywhere i could put him in the communal kitchen! Besides i would've just died without a cuppa before bed!!)