We are being evicted, some advice please...... the date has arrived......

silvercar

Just wanted to say Hi.

Think the caravan may be an option in the Summer, not sure about cold weather! How easy would it be to look after Ryan in the caravan vs hostel?

I do wonder whether the official information is designed to make you try to sort yourself out, I can't see how emergency approriate accom would include a hostel room with shared facilities when you have 2 young children.

vivatifosi

MummyHol wrote: »

Also, i just found out from a CSO that you can also apply to the housing associations in your area directly (the council told us that you couldn't do this- you could only go through them!!)

Hi Blue,

Haven't been on line for 3 days but have been thinking about you... Have resurrected MummyHol's post because the same thing happened to my aunt. Was told she couldn't approach the housing associations directly, but did anyway and also got housed. And guess what - she's in Hertfordshire too. Do you see a pattern developing here?

blue_monkey_2

Hi Guys,

Just on the phone to Social Services - on hold so hought I would check my CP's

I have been through the letter from Housing to the MP and it states on there that temporary accomodation in our case would be unsuitable, but they don't seem to be offering us anything else to get us other accomodation or more points and without the points we can't get anywhere and without being on a hostel or caravan we have not going enough points. It is a confusing mess when I think about it, of course the good thing is I have that here in print to show them, why have you said 'xxx' if it was untrue.

I have been onto the court, they do not pepared the orders there and they are sent off to be done and take about 2 weeks to come through - bizarre, they told me that the council should know how the courts work over there.

Also, been onto Social Services and they are going to callme back. just wanting to make sure I have covered my back in all of this.

The HA here give up 100% of their stock to the council and do not hold anything themselves, I will give them a try but it says on their websites that they do not offer housing themselves and cannot apply through them. There are a lot of 1 bed places suitable for old people on the 'list' this week so I am hoping that these come of something, but how we will get them without the points god only knows. I will report back as soon as I hear anything else.

Been in cleaning mose this morning, 2 weeks of the kids on half term and the house is a sty, much as I am trying NOT to impress I can't do untidy and dirty!!

Oh, and about 2 hours ago my mother called and said 'has anyone been round yet' (I told the EA I was not doing viewings in E. holidays and that I would not give them my keys!!) and I said 'they are not even back to school yet mum'. She came out of court when she realised we was going to possibly be out in 2 weeks time and a board went up. We are quite out of the way, the board is pointless, not like someone would be driving through and see it for example, but it did go up the very next day. I get the impression that she is *desperate* now. I am saying nothing and keeping well out of it, I just want this over with but she has this idea that she is not budging on the price, etc... anyone want a little wager that it has still not sold in 6 months time.....

Edit to add: I've tried 7 HA and 1 I have to call back (she told me 12 month wait but I told her the situation and been on the list for a long time) and another is 'sending me a form'. The thing is, this area is OK and although 12 miles north of here, the roads are so quiet it would mean we could still get to and from school pretty easily, but it is in another council district so we would not be able to apply via the council (I have to confess that I never thought about this as we are just 4 miles from the border so in theory, still local enough to get local points - damn!!). Some of the HA are so rude when ou ask if they have an open list.

dopester

No disrespect to you but I can't help
but think you do like to wallow in
quite a few minor ancient problems.

I've done volunteer work for the blind
and have never heard any of them moan
so much at the bad hand they've been
dealt.

It also seems you might have a dispensation for
getting into difficult troublesome situations.

I'm only saying this because other than
that you seem to put your points of view
across eloquently and intelligently - (more
paragraphs please) which suggests you could
embark on a happier future if taking a most positive
outlook with a willingness to let go of past problems.

Compared to some, your situations seems
absolutely rosey.... a lot of hard working
people are being ripped apart by debt... and
as the effects of the credit crunch deepen
many will lose jobs, be plunged in to negative
equity, lose their homes... and well.. you've
got a lot to be grateful for as you don't
have half those problems. Nevertheless....
good luck in sorting out suitable accommodation.

blue_monkey_2

Dopester,

I can only assume you have not bothered reading this thread....

Wallow - no, trying to find a solution. Rosy, ha, do you think.....

*We cannot afford to rent or buy elsewhere (the credit crunch means we cannot meat the 'criteria they allow').....
*As a result of losing this rented place I have lost my business and income...
*We have lost our 'home' and face going into temporary accomodation...
*We are 36K in debt as a result of my husband getting an industrial Illness and losing his job but getting another that pays around 12k - take home money - less...
*We are on repayments for all of these at £3 a month and face being in debt until we die - but I have more important things to worry about (and we get evicted they can't find us they can't get it right, LOL!!)...
*We have had money taken from our bank accounts by creditors who we have our bank account with leaving us with nothing for the month to live on. We found a strategy though, empty the account on payday so they cannot get it and they don't take it. And it works!!...
*All the money we had has been ploughed into this place for my mother to help her out and turn the place from a shell into a home - she told us that when she finally retired it would be sold and we would get some of it - now she is selling it and we have lost that money as now she says we won't.
*Oh and finally, tax credits reckon they have overpaid us and from next month we will be another £200 worse off each month...
*We have given up answering the phone and got caller ID so we don't have to speak to the people harssing us for money. Mind you, telling them we are being evicted seems to have stopped the calls recently!!...
*My son has been diagnosed with a range of problems including being onthe Autistic Spectrum. I think I am 'entitled' to a little moan every now and then but I choose to do it on this forum rather than to the people around me as putting it here helps me get it out of my head.

You're volunteer, well good for you, maybe you could offer some of your services over here as I am a full time 24/7 carer to a son who often says he hates me or attacks me for no reason when I have given him my life. I do not have people I can turn to for help or to take him from me for a few hours, I cannot visit the dentist, hospital or hairdressers unless he is in tow. I canno shop without coming out wth bruises. I am sure he is on of the kids you 'tut' atin the supermarket for being a brat. Do yu not think I have the 'right' to the occassional moan to people here who can choose to read elsewhere than listen to my 'moaning' if they want.

But don't worry, as I am sure you can see, life is Rosy, I do have many things to worry about but getting a roof over my childrens heads surpasses all of these.

Yes I have my off days - not many - but I've come here for advice from the many who have been offering since last November, I am not wallowing all the time but sharing my experiences.

Go read the rest of the thread and realise I have a child with problems and I am doing this to ensure that HIS life is not disrupted. I peronally could not care less if I went into a hostel, for my son however it would cause great upset and upheaval which would affect his mental health and physical health. Rosy!!

You have chosen to come in at the end of this thread and catch me on a bad weekend where finally - after 5 months - everything is getting on top of me and I've had a bad weekend. Good for you. Please go the thread in full before you judge any more. And no, life is NOT as rosy for us as you seem to think, but hey ho, maybe one day.

I will say this, you are right in a way, this part of my life is Rosy compared to my past, which I won't bore you with now, some of us do not have people to help and guide them though, this is why they come here, to these boards, where people can help each other. I feel sad you think the way you do and for the way you judge people without really knowing. But now you do, some of it, or would you like to go a page or so back and read about my past and see where else you can see me moaning about the crap hand we have been dealt. Gosh, being the victim of child abuse, domestic violence, rape, I could go on as there is more. Does that look like 'hand of 4 aces' and 'rosy'. Good for you on thinking it and catching me on a bad weekend.

Enough paragraphs for you or should there be more.

Oh and one last thing. If I had volunteer help I would no moan to them either, I'd save that for my family and friends who would understand my situation so you cannot really compare that like for like at all. I save my moaning for here - hence everyone saying how strong I am. But the people who read my thread know I have off days. I've even been speaking to Social Services today and no moaning, just explaining that I want to make sure that everything I need to know has been covered for my son as I have not yet been asigned the Social Worker I was promised 3 months ago.

smashedbooboo

I was going to reply to post dopster, but it really is not worth my energy. Think how minor it would be to you to have been battered and have your house torched. Minor eh. Get a life. Bluemonkey. Hope your ok hun. Thinking of you. xxxxxxx

smashedbooboo

Blue monkey. Please you have nothing to justify. Stay strong hun.

Muppet81

Oh Dear! There is always one.
I have read your thread as it has gone along and been so impressed by your determination and apparant good humour despite it all.
This is he first time I have actually posted on your thread but felt moved to by the previous post by Dopsar. Stay strong and don't let his/her post upset you.
I so hope that things get sorted for you soon.
xx

blue_monkey_2

Thank you, I have and am so don't worry, there is always one, it had to happen sooner or later as you said. :rolleyes:

However, that could not have gone unanswered could it? I just don't share *all* of my problems as some far outweigh others and I am dealing with the other bits (by stripping the wages out and not answering the phone :rotfl: ) - this is the bit that needs my attention for now, getting a roof for the kids and I do not know all I need to know about getting help, this is why I ask for advice.

dopester

Thanks for the fresh summary (I had read half of the thread).

Just to be clear.. I wasn't having a go at you, nor being
overly critical. Despite all your problems... I was just
trying to give you perspective that things could be
a whole lot worse.

Other children (sons & daughters) have and will
continue to suffer massive upheavals due to the negative
circumstances of their parents - unfortunately we can't
always protect them in luxury when things turn bad.

£36K debt doesn't sound too bad to me - and at least
it seems you've got it locked down with those minimal
repayments.

For creditor harassment, I'd get rid of any landline -
or just pay the line rental for the broadband access, and
switch to PAYG mobiles for limited calls.

About your caravan idea....

As it happens I knew a family (wealthy) who lost the lot
in a business failure...) and they got themselves a couple
of those trailer/caravans and put them on some land they
bought. They did get some problems from the council as
even though the land was tucked away... nearby residents
complained... but they stayed there 5 years without being
forced to move. They made their trailers (both acquired
free - just had to get them moved them from premises of
previous owner) very cosy and homely.

Yes.. a few downsides... having to ensure bottled gas
stocked in, toilet/waste collected ect... but they must have
made substantial savings in living costs during that time...
and kept the family together and put by enough
to eventually get their own house again. I could live that
way for years if necessary - unless you are one for keeping
up appearances. Also that woman who recently has been
in Goa trying to prove her child (16ish) was murdered.
She has a few children and they all live on land she bought
with caravans on them. Admittedly it seems they don't
make theirs the model camp/home site (and the caravan interiors
are just crazy messed up) - but a more organised set-up
wouldn't be so bad.

PS: Thanks for the paragraphs