Pay to attend party?

poet123

TBH regardless of the cost I would be hesitant to agree,in theme parks lots of supervsion is needed and no one looks after your child as well as you do. IMO theme parks are family days out not party venues too much opportunity for things to go wrong.

bulchy

hannoja wrote: »

My little lad surprised me. I knew he wanted to go, but he's such a sociable little fellow that he always wants to do anything that involves lots of people and lots going on. So.. when I told him that I didn't think he was going to his friend's party, he just said, "Okay Mummy". I said I thought he'd be really upset, and he said, "Well I am a bit, but not really upset". Bless his little heart. Really made me feel much better. The rest should be easy. That was the bit I was worried about.

What a lovely little lad he sounds. On the day of the 'party' maybe you could do something special with him, so he doesnt feel too bad about missing out, he deserves it, bless him.
Sue

vikingaero

DD1 attended 30+ parties in her first year at school. DD2 has been to 10+ parties so far with more to come when she starts school. We're at the stage where we don't give a flying fig whether they are invited to parties any more. But the host should always pay, so the mum in the original post is being a cheeky mare.

bandraoi

Riq wrote: »

If there are 2 or 3 friends going then I think it is a bit cheeky.

But if there are 20 friends going then I don't think it is cheeky to at least ask for money to attend.

But £15 does seem a bit excessive!

It's bloody cheeky, if you issue the invitation you pay.
If all you can afford is 2 - 3 people to attend with you paying then that's all you invite.

If you want a party with 15 people there and can't afford to take them to an adventure centre then you do something else.

duchy

I suppose the positive side of this is that if it catches on by the time the kids are old enough to get married it'll be the norm to charge people to attend weddings too !!
I bet you won't be the only parent politely declining with "previous plans"

jo_b_2

misty wrote: »

I think it is a cheek. My son had a party at an animal farm. The price for the kids was reasonable but it was £2 per adult who stayed - so if 20 parents stayed it bumped it up another £40 . The animal farm charged because once the kids were there they could stay all day and in the past a kid had come for a party - both parents satyed having come in free and stayed all day and so they were losing out hence they now charged.

My sister suggested asking the parents that stayed to pay the £2 themselves. I was horrified - I said you can't ask parents to bring their kids to a party and then ask them to pay even if it was only £2 let alone £15!!!!! Especially as they would bring a present to begin with. I kept my fingers crossed that they didn't all stay and as it was pretty far to go in the first place and there was nowhere to go shopping if they didn't stay. As it turned out some stayed and some didn't - the £2 included a tea or coffee for the adult.

the party was successful and some asked about having it there themselves - when they heard you paid for the adults they offered to pay for themselves but I refused - you don't ask someone to a children's party and then ask them to pay.

We actually cancelled a party that we'd booked at a venue because they charged an extra fee for each parent that stayed! We weren't told about that when we originally booked and wouldn't expect parents to stay. The extra money took the party out of our budget and I didn't agree with the principle of parents being charged either. They wouldn't exactly be playing on the bouncy castle would they?! :rolleyes:

hannoja - your little boy sounds like a sweetheart!

RAMBLER

Thanks for this thread...couldn't believe it....

Next will be people making profit on parties...

bandraoi

RAMBLER wrote: »

Thanks for this thread...couldn't believe it....

Next will be people making profit on parties...

I believe it's called a wedding.

Spendless

misty wrote: »

I think it is a cheek. My son had a party at an animal farm. The price for the kids was reasonable but it was £2 per adult who stayed - so if 20 parents stayed it bumped it up another £40 . The animal farm charged because once the kids were there they could stay all day and in the past a kid had come for a party - both parents satyed having come in free and stayed all day and so they were losing out hence they now charged.

My sister suggested asking the parents that stayed to pay the £2 themselves. I was horrified - I said you can't ask parents to bring their kids to a party and then ask them to pay even if it was only £2 let alone £15!!!!! Especially as they would bring a present to begin with. I kept my fingers crossed that they didn't all stay and as it was pretty far to go in the first place and there was nowhere to go shopping if they didn't stay. As it turned out some stayed and some didn't - the £2 included a tea or coffee for the adult.

the party was successful and some asked about having it there themselves - when they heard you paid for the adults they offered to pay for themselves but I refused - you don't ask someone to a children's party and then ask them to pay.

hmm but the parents who stopped all day probably bought food and drink there and were introduced to a place that maybe they'd never been before -hence bringing new customers. To go from that to charging parents to stay would put me off a place tbh.

newmum1

I tell you what I would do I would write the mother an anon letter stating exactly what you feel thats it is a cheek to ask parents for £15 and so forth and see what happens from there, I guarantee that youre not the only one but everyone is prob too polite to say anything. Are you expected to pay to go in the theme park too????