Pay to attend party?

PasturesNew

I give it 5 years before somebody here posts: "my child's been invited to a party and it's £250 as it is a long weekend in Spain... help, where do I get the money from"

Nip this in the bud. £15 is ridiculous. The mother of the other child is delusional. Who is she trying to impress?

Social exclusion due to having no money is one of the most debilitating things in this splash-the-cash society for anybody and organising children's activities that socially exclude on this basis is one of the most crass things a parent could have done.

Just don't go and above all: FEEL no guilt!

cazziebo

PasturesNew wrote: »

I give it 5 years before somebody here posts: "my child's been invited to a party and it's £250 as it is a long weekend in Spain... help, where do I get the money from"

Nip this in the bud. £15 is ridiculous. The mother of the other child is delusional. Who is she trying to impress?

Social exclusion due to having no money is one of the most debilitating things in this splash-the-cash society for anybody and organising children's activities that socially exclude on this basis is one of the most crass things a parent could have done.

Just don't go and above all: FEEL no guilt!

Hear hear! Very well said..

webitha

i would say no too thats well cheeky
well it cant be worse than 1 mum in DD1 class she has invited everyone except DD and 1 other to their DK birthday party and this is a woman i give a lift too as well
soo i think its an ooops sorry i forgot in future

haylibo

This one actually made me laugh out loud - it's not a party it's a trip! Charging 'guests' for a party is outrageous and I would not stand for it. There must be other parents who agree? Start a mini-revolution, looks from another thread that it isn't confined to kids parties either. I just wouldn't do it on prinicipal, it's rude of them to ask.
Hayles

hannoja

My little lad surprised me. I knew he wanted to go, but he's such a sociable little fellow that he always wants to do anything that involves lots of people and lots going on. So.. when I told him that I didn't think he was going to his friend's party, he just said, "Okay Mummy". I said I thought he'd be really upset, and he said, "Well I am a bit, but not really upset". Bless his little heart. Really made me feel much better. The rest should be easy. That was the bit I was worried about.

bunty109

hannoja wrote: »

My little lad surprised me. I knew he wanted to go, but he's such a sociable little fellow that he always wants to do anything that involves lots of people and lots going on. So.. when I told him that I didn't think he was going to his friend's party, he just said, "Okay Mummy". I said I thought he'd be really upset, and he said, "Well I am a bit, but not really upset". Bless his little heart. Really made me feel much better. The rest should be easy. That was the bit I was worried about.

Aww I know it must be awful for you to have to say no to him, but you're doing what's right. I can't believe someone would have the cheek to ask you to pay to go to a kid's birthday party!!! I bet they expect you to bring a gift too!! :eek:

Elliebabe

Its getting worse the expectations of some parents - I think its a nerve and am sure the others invited agree.

sooz

haylibo wrote: »

This one actually made me laugh out loud - it's not a party it's a trip!

Perhaps you could ask how many responsible adults will be supervising this trip, and if they have all been police checked?

alwaysonthego_2

it's dd's 4th birthday soon and we are having her party at a local kids indoor play area and it is going to cost me £7.50 per child and you have to have the minimum of 10 children. I would never dream of asking guests to pay!

misty

I think it is a cheek. My son had a party at an animal farm. The price for the kids was reasonable but it was £2 per adult who stayed - so if 20 parents stayed it bumped it up another £40 . The animal farm charged because once the kids were there they could stay all day and in the past a kid had come for a party - both parents satyed having come in free and stayed all day and so they were losing out hence they now charged.

My sister suggested asking the parents that stayed to pay the £2 themselves. I was horrified - I said you can't ask parents to bring their kids to a party and then ask them to pay even if it was only £2 let alone £15!!!!! Especially as they would bring a present to begin with. I kept my fingers crossed that they didn't all stay and as it was pretty far to go in the first place and there was nowhere to go shopping if they didn't stay. As it turned out some stayed and some didn't - the £2 included a tea or coffee for the adult.

the party was successful and some asked about having it there themselves - when they heard you paid for the adults they offered to pay for themselves but I refused - you don't ask someone to a children's party and then ask them to pay.